Eliminating Toxic People is the Best Gift You Can Give Yourself
I am a feeler. Some people would call me “sensitive” as if it were a murky thing, or a number of other words with a negative connotation, but the fact is things overpower me. I feel everything more. I make my own cosmetics, soaps and perfumes because I am chemically sensitive- so much so that I have to hold my breath when walking by the laundry aisle. I am allergic to the sun, yes- it’s actually a thing! Not so much that I’m an albino but enough that I get an incurable rash for weeks.
Or perhaps I am a vampire and just never got the memo. ;)
The news drains me. Due to the fact there is so much not good reported in the news. They just don’t tend to focus on the happy and positive- I suppose it’s bad for ratings. There must not be many feelers like me, otherwise the news outlets would be changing their structure.
I am awakened by earthquakes so small that they barely register 1.2 on the Richter Scale. I feel your truth when you are pretending. When you are mad at me it feels like a punch.
And heartbreak literally brings me a sharp, wrenching, physical pain.
I feel the energy in the good things, too. I thrive on the good things, I am drawn to them like a drunk moth to the neon beer sign at last call. A hug relieves my pain! A simple, meaningful embrace means so much to me, and does a tremendous amount towards eliminating lingering negative energy. Deep down inside my being craves physical contact in the form of holding hands, looping arms, cuddling, and hugs. I need human contact to survive and thrive.
When I am asked the question “What animal would you be and why” my answer is “A retired lady’s housecat” to be pampered and cuddled all day ;)
I may be more sensitive to energies than many, but everyone needs to eliminate as many toxic entities from their lives as possible. Negative people drain you of your energy. Sap you of your outlook. Tweak your view so your mirror appears cloudy. Negative people, kept around long enough, darken your subconscious. Walk with them and the path becomes overgrown with thorns. Stay on that path and the thorns get thicker to where even when you finally part ways your weed eater- which used to handle the task just fine, now gets choked and clogged.
Negative energy makes your land muddy and difficult to maneuver. Remove as many toxins as you can and you will ease your journey.
Life’s too short to place obstacles in your own path.
Eliminating toxic people is the best life insurance policy ❤
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You must never leave the Steemit platform. Your post touched me because in many ways I also suffer from these extremes of emotion. Luckily I don't have the physical reactions. After reading your post on "Why I left Steemit, I can relate to that. I write from personal experience, if I get no votes or only a few simply means that the right people haven't seen my post or couldn't relate to it, I am not going to beat myself up about it. Thanks for sharing your experiences, for the many minnows on this platform the encouragement is often all we need to carry on.
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It is so important to focus on the positive. I don't watch the news anymore. Law of attraction! That's why you'll always find me nearby cause you're like a magnet of positivity!
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I like you Karen. You are a pretty cool cat :)
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I know! It's probably my favorite bot to call on because it gives us the ability to recognize other people who work hard at creating great original content. BTW, look at my new cover photo! I'm obsessed with Alpacas. It's in settings! You need to switch yours to, duh, kittens!
Love it! I am looking for a high res cover image as we speak- where did you get yours?
Do you have alpacas yourself?
I don't have alpacas but I dream about having my own alpaca farm so my husband and I go visit friends of our who have a herd of 90. But they just sold their farm so I don't know where I'm going to go to get my alpaca fix! I actually just put that picture up for now. I really want one where you can see their cute little faces better so I just have to adjust the image sizes once I decide which one since they are super big files. Unsplash has a bunch of high res kitten wallpapers.
Oh no! Will the new owners keep alpacas, or do you know?
Cool, thanks!
No, they are moving to North Carolina from Texas. They asked if we wanted to buy their place, but we're not ready and the location isn't where we would want to settle down. I'm sad. Last time I went, they had 15 crias, babies. So cute!
Erhmagherd! Cuteness overload!
Wow. Very interesting and honest post. I like it.
I find myself as some kind of feeler too and it's not easy to be a feeler when you are surrounded with toxic people. I also tend to feel people's emotions around me and it affects me a lot. But the problem for me is that I can't get rid of those toxic people, at least not in this period of my life and I couldn't get rid of them last twenty years. It sucks.
However, things will be better in the future, I hope. :)
If you cannot get rid of them you can do extra, positive things to negate the ill effects.
Also, is you cannot rid your reality of them, you can add more positive people to balance it out. You just might tips the scales, too, OR the positive ones will positively affect the negatives...
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Will try and do as much as I can. Problem is that it's so hard to find these positive people, or it's at least for me that things don't happen easily. Whenever I find someone that I think it will be it, I put my hopes in that person and get disappointed in the end. Idk if people are generally assholes or it's only my bad luck.
Thank you for this useful advice and motivation. Also thanks for this beautiful article. :)
You are a kind soul. So you feel more and faster. I totally understand- I am the same. And then people let me down. Hard.
I try to not get too close until I really get to know them. I try. Doesn't always work but at least it's in the back of my mind!
Lol, thank you so much <3
i call it the distraction economy. i'm kinda the same way on a lot of these things. instead of seeing them/it as toxic and therefore giving it a class i make it a little easier on myself and put in a bracket of 'distraction' - the news, people who fuck me off, the things that take up my time away from my true purpose are part of the distraction economy and that costs me - financial, mentally and compassionately. i simply do my best to remove the distraction from my view which ultimately brings me back to the path where my time is spent better. i just do that little routine whenever i'm a little sensitive to a situation --- is this moment a good use of my time on planet earth. if not, i'm fucking outta there... :)
Distraction economy. Well said.
I like your bracket system. This is something we all need to take a lesson from.
We live in a cold world and need to re-teach ourselves and others how to be human beings again. At least 8 hugs a day is necessary for our well-being. Eliminating toxic people is important...and becoming bigger than them and not being affected is even more so. Always two sides of a coin. One may see toxicity and another may see comfort. Great post, thanks for sharing.
You are the only person I've met that knows about the necessity of 8 hugs a day besides the person who told me :)
This resonates with me so much. I used to think there was something wrong with me! Now I see this heightened sensitivity as a gift (yeahhhh couldn't think of a way to write that without sounding cheesey).
Anyways, another brill post. Cheers!
I used to think of it as a curse. But I've learned to embrace it :)
We are good, and must stick together ;)
High five sister!
I'm glad you stumbled into my neighborhood!
It's wonderful meeting you :)
So am I! Really fantastic meeting you too. :)
I really enjoyed this blog, good and honest advice. Plus, I love cats very much and rarely do you meet a toxic one!
As an abused cat rescue home runner, I've met a couple, however they were products of their environment and even the hardest hearts can be softened given enough good and time :)
That's great to hear! Well done you :)
I sortof fell into it almost a decade ago. I couldn't not help. The things people do to their pets is unreal, and I definitely had no idea as to the extent. It's not reported or talked about nearly as much as it should be, and for that reason alone I believe it's much more prevalent than it would be if people were aware that society was more in the know.
This doesn't sound nice and I could easily see why you'd want to devote time to caring to our furry friends.
I could get real angry seeing mis-treatment of animals, but as you say it seems hidden from us a lot.
Have a nice day with the cats, I bet they are glad to see you :)
I should tape it one day... I honestly feel like the Pied Piper. They trust me so much they follow me from room to room! I literally have a handful of cats and kittens in a line behind me when I leave one part of the house for another!
Yes please do! Cats are very popular on Steemit and i'm sure many would like to see this in action!
Ok, I totally must do this. With Megadeth's Symphony of Destruction playing. "Just like the Pied Piper, led cats through the halls..."
Ok. It's bedtime. LOL!
Beautiful. I recognize many of it. When I didn't know I was suffering from burn out it became too much. Taking herbs for healthy hormone glands now and feeling much better, young :)
That is so good! I am a firm believer in herbs and natural medicine- I don't care what the FDA says ;)
That makes at least two of us!
Age is nothing but a number- I have seen twenty year olds who are too lazy to get off the couch so they suffer a myriad of health problems, and I know a 77 year old coach who's been run over by a metro bus and broke his spine in two places running with his kids...
It's mindset, will and how you care for yourself that determines how old/young you feel.
Well it's not just a mindset, far from it I'd say. Dealing with chronic fatigue it took me years to find out it was my adrenals which could be connected to leaky gut. Long story short: we need better medicine now.
You couldn't be more correct.
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