Hello and welcome to the twenty eighth day of the June 30 days writing challenge. If you want to know all the details about this specific challenge, have a look at the introductory post. In short, I will be posting every day a short tip, or technique, or opinion, something that you can call a "life hack". Feel free to join the challenge and post your own life hacks. I will do my best to upvote each day at full strength (about $3 at the current STEEM price) 3 posts tagged #challenge30days (leaving a link to your posts in the comments will also help).

Fool Me Once, Shame On You, Fool Me Twice, Shame On Me

Trust can be practiced, the same way you work out your muscles. It takes a while, and maybe you'll get hit a few times, but once you develop this muscle, your life may become a lot simpler.

Practicing trust starts with setting up your own boundaries. Establishing who's getting into your life, who's staying at the gates and who has to leave. Most of the time, it's not the other person's fault, if you get played, but your own. You let that person into your territory and you gave them enough power to hurt you.

Setting up your own boundaries is very closely linked to the ability to say "No". Surprisingly, a lot of people have problems with that. By lack of self-esteem, by fear of rejection, by fear of losing out and by another million reasons, the majority of people finds it extremely difficult to just say "No".

I've been in that place many times, so I kinda know what I'm talking about. Somehow, being always available, always ready to serve or to do what I was told - even if I wasn't exactly feeling like doing that - made me feel important, and needed. It's a trap that many fall into, especially if they have early childhood abandonment trauma, but that's another story.

In my personal experience, a well placed "No" in the course of a relationship can do wonders to your emotional life, to your health or even to your personal finances.

And once you learned how to say "No" to what you don't like , you're way more comfortable to say "Yes" to other experiences. It's like building up a certain self-confidence that, no matter what, you'll always know what to do, you'll always know how to protect yourself, you'll always be able to tell the difference between genuine and fake people.

Just like, once you ran your first marathon, you know you'll always be able to run a half-marathon, no matter what.

I'm really curious to read about your life hack today. Leave a comment with a link to your post, if possible.

Previous Posts In The Challenge

• June 30 Days Writing Challenge - Life Hack - Day Twenty Seven: Never Say Never
• June 30 Days Writing Challenge - Life Hack - Day Twenty Six: One More Second
• June 30 Days Writing Challenge - Life Hack - Day Twenty Five: The Magic Place Where's All The Money In The World
• June 30 Days Writing Challenge - Life Hack - Day Twenty Four: All People Are Ok, It's Their Actions That, Sometimes, Just Aren't
• June 30 Days Writing Challenge - Life Hack - Day Twenty Three: Thinking In Scenarios
• June 30 Days Writing Challenge - Life Hack - Day Twenty Second: Working Out Your Improvisation "Muscles"
• June 30 Days Writing Challenge - Life Hack - Day Twenty First: Decluttering - Set A Lifespan To Every Object You Own
• June 30 Days Writing Challenge - Life Hack - Day Twenty: Creativity - Go From A To B In 5 Mental "Fractures"
• June 30 Days Writing Challenge - Life Hack - Day Nineteen: Write A Short Story About Your Future Self
• June 30 Days Writing Challenge - Life Hack - Day Eighteen: Pop Out Balloons Fast
• June 30 Days Writing Challenge - Life Hack - Day Seventeen:Replace Re-Action With Action
• June 30 Days Writing Challenge - Life Hack - Day Sixteen:The 5 Minutes Meditation Box
• June 30 Days Writing Challenge - Life Hack - Day Fifteen: Create - And Maintain - A Morning Phrase
• June 30 Days Writing Challenge - Life Hack - Day Fourteen: Improve 1% Per Day
• June 30 Days Writing Challenge - Life Hack - Day Thirteen: Get Rid Of TV. For Good.
• June 30 Days Writing Challenge - Life Hack - Day Twelve: Save 10% Of Your Income - No. Matter. What.
• June 30 Days Writing Challenge - Life Hack - Day Eleven: Set - And Keep - A Monthly Personal Expense Budget
• June 30 Days Writing Challenge - Life Hack - Day Ten: Set A "Main Task" For Each Day
• June 30 Days Writing Challenge - Life Hack - Day Nine: Keep A Journal
• June 30 Days Writing Challenge - Life Hacks - Day Eight: Keep An Activity Log
• June 30 Days Writing Challenge - Life Hacks - Day Seven: Implement A New Habit With A 30 Days Challenge
• June 30 Days Writing Challenge - Life Hacks - Day Six: Put It In Front Of The Door
• June 30 Days Writing Challenge - Life Hacks - Day Five: The Pomodoro Technique
• June 30 Days Writing Challenge - Life Hacks - Day Four: Keep A Clear Mind By Unloading Ideas Immediately
• June 30 Days Writing Challenge - Life Hacks - Day Three: Intermittent Fasting
• June 30 Days Writing Challenge - Life Hacks - Day Two: The "2 Minutes" Time Management Rule
• June 30 Days Writing Challenge - Life Hacks - Day One: Avoid Fighting With A Simple Visualization Technique
• Announcing The June 30 Days Writing Challenge - Life Hacks

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I'm a serial entrepreneur, blogger and ultrarunner. You can find me mainly on my blog at Dragos Roua where I write about productivity, business, relationships and running. Here on Steemit you may stay updated by following me @dragosroua.

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