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Be the Change You Wish to See

in psychology •  last year

The recent nuclear talks looming on the sidelines of our perception have me contemplating threats, the use of force, and love.

Threats work to an extent. America has bombed 25 countries since the end of World War 2. The intentions have been to force these nations into forming more free governments, but these efforts have been largely fruitless. Few of these nations have become more democratic.

A mom can threaten her son into doing his homework by taking away devices, but the boy will only do what is absolutely necessary to gain his gadgets back, and then he will slack off again and the cycle will continue.

The truth is you cannot change anyone. Stop trying- you are wasting your time.

A being has to want to change in order for change to occur. And want it for themselves, not because you tell them it's for the best.

The only person I can change is me. The only person you can change is you.

This paragraph I published here yesterday holds a profound truth.

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Love is not selfish. True love, anyway. Love does not hold back, or ask for anything in return. If we show unrestrained compassion and understanding, the receiver of our love will be lifted up. When we love someone exactly as they are, they in turn are naturally compelled to be better to us. One who is loved completely and fully without ulterior motive feels confident, thus empowered to be the best them they can be.

I know it's true love when I want to be a better person for my man. It's real love when I am a better person because I am with him.

This is not selfish, this is the truth that is feeling love and being loved.

Bombs and threats won't change them.

Love freely and without abandon. Be the change you wish to see.

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There was a study a few years back where they concluded that people can't change, not even themselves. Our personality and way we view the world is defined for and by us at the age of four; What we can change is our actions.
I'm not sure how I feel about that though, there's a lot of racists acting up in the last few months as well as people saying "I used to be racist but..."
I like to hope it is possible.

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I read something similar, not geared towards change, but how from birth to until age 6 is when your entire foundation is formed. Makes sense.

We think the teen years are about "becoming the person we are to be" but after reading the research it doesn't seem to be the case at all.

But yes, I agree- we can change our actions.

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Lot of layers. Was stuck in a dead in job for a long time, and I would always blame management for being incompetent. But at some point I realized if I didn't like the way things were being run, I should step up do something about. Needless to say, I found something better. Great post!

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Good for you!

I learned blaming others is a complete waste of time. It does nothing for them, only hurts you...

How you gon' love somebody so much that you decide to bomb democracy into them? That ain't love, that's lovin' the idea of what they can do for you! :/ all I know is that I love this post. xD

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Exactly!

And I love the fact I met you! <3