My personal thoughts on how to help those in need with @familyprotection

The question that @markwhittam brought up a few days ago

Most of you probably have read @markwhittams post where he challenges the community to come up with ideas how to help the family's in need worldwide dealing with Child Protective Services. If you missed it, you can find his post here

Out of the box thinking!

I can say that I personally love to think big, and out of the box. I hate to be set back by people because of norms, rules and what is supposed to be normal for most people.
I know my power, I know my strength, I know my skills and if I believe in something and I am passionate about it, I can make it work. And I really believe this works for everybody.
But I must say, it does help when you book a success story first, before you truly feel and believe this is true.
Don't get me wrong, I get caught up in my emotions too, after all I am only another human being, and I have to relief the emotions too sometimes.
But I can honestly say by now (after years) that I am able to switch back in positive vibes soon and often (after some relief) I suddenly come up with the solutions.
And I admit, those are mostly not the normal ways to get things done, but they are often way out of the box ! But I think this is good, it gives good fresh ideas, and and often I see the problem from a different angle.

We had a bit of a brainstorm session here (my boyfriend and me that is)

Although my boyfriend is not an active member on Steemit, he is my rock, my comfort, the one that will lift me up when I fall.. It is crystal clear to me, that if he hadn't been by my side during the horrific period with CPS and everything around it, I would not have been typing this post. I would never have found the strength to get up, and find that out-of-the-box solution that was made for us. (Leave the country!) If I had been alone in this, I would be too chicken to do something like that, but now I know, its just another adventure! See, this has been good for something, the horror got me out of my comfort zone at least.. That's good, right?

We already discussed some plans that I will start somewhere this year, to help the homeless here in Budapest. Because we have been homeless too in Holland, and we know how it makes you feel when people suddenly don't seem to take you for human anymore. All of the sudden, some people that were your friends, don't "see" you as one of theirs anymore. Like you have been alienated by the whole world, at least that's how I can describe this best, I guess. Not all of them, but some of them make more impact, I guess...

So from one thing, came another, and all of the sudden there it was

Every thing that is on my bucket list for this year, or some older ideas that we could not do anything with before (like helping the homeless) were all clear in my head.
But as you know those horrible CPS ripping family apart hurts me just a bit more, because that is connected with the worst thing that was done to me in my life, take my children and place them with their father.

So of course I was brainstorming about this too lately, and I came across some groups, and read some things about how stuff works here in Budapest. It all became clear to me soon, that I think the best way to approach the families with a helping hand is to assign ambassadors in the country's of the members here in the community.
Because not one city in the world is the same, and every city/village/country will need another approach to work out as we wanted it, right?
I can speak for myself when I say that I believe the systems set up by governments don't work, we knocked on every door people advised us, often more than once, and even though the rest of Holland is convinced you will not be left alone in this, we did. That system fails, period!
It works for those who will receive the loads of money that is made by harming the family's yes, but for those who actually need it, it fails.

I know it, you know it, the community members @familyprotection know it. It's time that the rest of the world finds out too!

So now what?

Of course I cannot speak for @familyprotection if they see potential in this, and how this would be put in to action eventually. But I can say that I am willing to talk about the option if they are up to this idea of the familyprotection ambassadors in all country's presented here in the community.
I would love to find ways to get in to contact here with those that are threatened by CPS that they will take their children, so that maybe they will get help in time.
But this goes so much further for me, I will not aim only for those dealing with CPS problems, but also for those who just don't seem to be able to get around and will be potential victims of eviction (here in Hungary it looks like you are on your own in those cases, that's why there are so many homeless people).

Some examples of help I want to offer to those that need it

Let's say I am not that person that believes you should give the old drunk homeless man lying on the street money for alcohol. Although I can understand that when you live somewhere with cold winters, you try to keep yourself warm, I don't believe in feeding the addiction, sorry.
Leftovers, food that you don't eat anymore, a hot cup of coffee, yes! Supplies like warm cloths, blankets yes!

For me this is a much bigger project, some examples I want to accomplish in the next year

• Offering help to the homeless with supplies (I have an idea worked out)
• Be the person to advice those who will be in trouble with CPS (they have to be able to find me so there will be promoting of course and a website)
• By networking I hope to find a group of trustworthy (and especially the ones that really do care for the cause) professionals that can be of help to help those family's in court, like lawyers or any other profession that can be helpful (think out of the box)
• I eventually see myself in an office where I can meet the families in need, but also have a space where I can teach those who have special talents like writing/music (you name it) to present this here on Steemit. Introduce them in the community, and show them that they don't have to be depending on their government to help them. Steemit is full of people to get inspired by.
  This last point I mentioned is based on the idea that I believe that you should get the best out of a person, and if someone doesn't see this anymore themselves I hope to be the person that shows those people that nothing is impossible.

You just need a good push in the right direction. Let me be the one to reach out to you, just take my hand and let's talk about how you can see the potential in you again, because it is there! I know how it feels to lose everything, but I can also share my story with you, and show you where we are now.

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This is just a little bit of my vision on how to help

Feedback is certainly appreciated, and I hope to be part of the members that will help @familyprotection to a higher level. I think we can make this happen, together for sure!

AnoukNox

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Special thanks to @familysupport for setting up this initiative to help family's in need. Please visit their profile to read what the familysupport tag is about. If you write under this tag, please donate a bit of your earnings back to the community

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I write a lot about my period dealing with CPS, feel free to read my stories linked in this posy below.
Let's not be silenced anymore, and gather our strength, thanks for reading this little part of my story..*

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My previous posts

Introduction of Anouk Nox

An introduction of Anouk Nox, I will not be silenced anymore! This year I will make a difference!

About being homeless

I was homeless a few year ago
How to get back your inner strength (part 2 from my story)

About domestic violence

Why you should always report domestic violence if you see this happening

How the police let me down from the first time I called them for help

The first days in a women's shelter with my 2 oldest kids, fled for their violent dad

How my kids and I fled to a women's shelter for their violent dad

About the narcissistic / psychopathic games my ex played

My ex made me believe his stepfather was sexually abusing my 2 oldest children

Tips dealing with CPS / youth care / government agencies

How I learned to speak up when disagreeing with social workers / CPS workers

Some very useful tips for when you have to deal with CPS (lessons I learned the hard way P1 - Documentations)
Useful tips P.2 : The importance of independent professionals (such as psychologists)

Open letters series by Anouk Nox

Open letter to my oldest daughter, who I haven't seen in 2 years

Feelings, thoughts and things on my mind

Happy Valentinesday to the familyprotection community

Tears seem to be endless today, missing my 2 oldest kids

To vaccinate or not to vaccinate