*AUTISM INTENSIFIES*

in #travel4 years ago

Okay so boring stuff first. Have a few new projects in the works and I'm looking for help.

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These are for two separate projects. I'm working with the incoherent genius @tibra to create a new Steem front-end that for some reason is better than what currently exists. Not gonna lie, I actually don't understand why it is but @tibra does and he's much smarter than I am. So I'll just let him explain:

"It's a new Steem front end that will allow posting pdf, webm, like Scribd and Gfycat, and even live software; users can then view, navigate it, and use it." - @tibra

Payment for the work will be built into the code itself, similar to how projects like @dTube/@Utopian work. Users submit content via our platform and we take a few % for our trouble and split it between everyone on the team. Profit sharing FTW baby.

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Rewards for article rewriters will be the same as contributing authors: 40% of the SBD payout.

The private node person will get a % of our % for essentially doing nothing. We also need fast access to the API so keep that in mind as well. Read this for more information on private nodes.

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Okay, now onto the more interesting stuff.

My computer is the only friend I need

As I mentioned in my last post, I'm currently combining an extended work/travel trip with no set plans. I hate the term "digital nomad," but I admit that it's an accurate description of this lifestyle.

Still, for someone like me who is essentially still in the beginning stages of his DN career, I was extremely concerned with being able to make enough money to live without fear of having to go back to selling hair straighteners.

So since January, I've been working like a madman to build a pipeline of deals and clients so that I don't have to worry about cutting the trip short.

While most of the people I meet are busy planning trips to rivers, temples and street food tours, I'm lying on my back clacking away on my laptop. I normally work 6-10 hours a day, 7 days a week on whatever projects I had going on.

Add a little bit of Muay Thai, the occasional meaningful connection with a member of the opposite sex, and you have a pretty good idea of what my [relatively boring] life has been like since the beginning of January.

Since coming to Vietnam, however, things have changed.

After reading over my last post, I can honestly say that I wrote that from a place of loneliness.

It's not so much about making friends only to lose them a week later. The real issue is not having a constant supply of new friends to replace them.

It's not that I miss the people that I've met, it's that I don't have enough rapid rebound friends to erase them from my memory.

When I got to Nha Trang, I was still stuck in my typical routine. I'd wake up in the morning, work for a few hours, hit the gym and then go to the beach. The weather was incredible there, much different than Phuket. No rain, literally not a cloud in the sky. And it was HOT.

There weren't as many people as I would like. And definitely not as many fit young girls in tiny bikinis, but it was still nice to cover myself in coconut oil and cook myself in the hot Vietnam sun with the sound of crashing waves in the background.

Anyway, the DN life can get lonely if you're not careful. It's hard to relate to your fellow travelers because your motivations for traveling are so different. They want to visit some random temple while I just want to hit the gym and get my work done.

The Venga bus is coming

And then there's the party people.

I'm sure it won't surprise anyone here to learn that I am borderline autistic when it comes to social interactions.

I'm like a conversational savant. Sometimes I can have a group eating out of my hand in five minutes, and other times the shit that comes out of my mouth is the most cringe-worthy nonsense that I've ever heard anyone say.

This is why I don't like going out.

I mean, forget about the fact that I don't like being hungover, I just don't enjoy the chaos of being around lots of people that I don't know and the pressure that comes with feeling like I have to be the coolest person in the room at any given time.

Also I'm like into fitness and shit, so drinking every night isn't really something that I felt was worth doing to sacrifice that.

Sure, I've had times in my life where I enjoyed going out. I had no problem approaching strangers and entertaining a group of people.

I was into the whole PUA shit when The Game came out and must have devoured thousands of pages of theory written by all the old school masters. We'd all go out and try out our little lines and strategies to varying degrees of success. Before I started my 7 year hair straightener grind, I was at the top of my social game.

But those days are long behind me. My social skills had all but evaporated over the years in favor of the pursuit of "happiness" (read: money) and a few long relationships that removed any need to maintain my conversational skills.

I could sell a hair straightener to a girl no problem, but ask me to hold a conversation about anything outside my own warped opinions and I would struggle.

So here I am, an antisocial autistic digital nomad voluntarily living a lifestyle which forces me to interact with people 24 hours a day. I probably talk to and meet more people in a week than most other human beings on earth, yet I find it painfully awkward to engage in the lets-get-drunk-and-talk-about-retarded-shit-all-night experience that is the #1 reason people do long term travel in the first place.

But it's even MORE awkward to turn down invitations for socializing because on the outside I actually look like a normal person.

Shit, I'm so autistic that I had actually been spending 3-4 hours a night in random Vietnamese internet cafes playing Dota instead of socializing with my fellow travelers. And I'm not some skinny nerd either. I'm a 6' good looking American white guy in great shape. You'd think I'd also be a well-adjusted human being who has no problem talking to strangers without pissing them off with controversial opinions.

Them: What are you doing tonight? Are you going out?
Me: Nah. I'm just gonna chill.
Them: Ah. Ok.

Meanwhile there's literally NOTHING to do at night in whatever town we're in except drink.

How to kill a phobia

About a week ago, I came to Hoi An. It's a fairly touristy town in Vietnam that obviously attracts a lot of backpackers. People go on tours in the daytime and drink at night. Same shit, different toilet.

The first day I got to the hostel, I was sitting in the lobby with my computer on my lap as usual. People were coming in and out, and I randomly struck up a conversation with some Canadian chick. She was a little weird (most Canadians are) and kept picking at her skin while we were talking. Kind of gross but whatever.

I spent the rest of the day doing my usual routine of gym/work by myself, but later in the evening I found myself once again in the lobby on my computer. Canadian chick comes downstairs with a few other girls who I assumed were her roommates. They were all chattering about some random tours or something, I don't know.

Canadian girl and I started talking again.

She goes, "So what are you doing tonight?"

"Hmm," I said awkwardly. "I dunno." I knew where this was going.

Then she's like, "It's almost rum and Coke time."

I forced a laugh. "Oh really?"

Meanwhile, the other three girls had gone silent. They weren't looking at us, but I knew they were listening.

"Yeah," she said. "Do you wanna come?"

I felt my heart rise up into the back of my skull and did one of those like, uncomfortable shifts in my chair. "Ummm... yeah? I guess so."

I could have said no. But ever since I've made the transition from agency to consultant, the amount of actual hours that I have to spend in front of the computer has dropped.

So I've found myself with a lot of downtime during the day that I normally would have had to spend writing articles or managing accounts. But now that I just refer clients to my service partners, they handle it directly and I just have to hop on the phone here and there and send some emails.

And after doing so little during the day, it's hard for me to mentally justify doing nothing at night, too.

Anyway, I packed up my shit, stuffed my computer under my bed and went downstairs. There were already a lot of people down there drinking, laughing, having fun. I don't know if any of you have had the backpacker experience in Vietnam, but the alcohol here is dirt cheap and people get drunk literally every night.

So we're all standing at the "bar" and I'm looking down at the menu with a big grimace on my face. The only thing I could think of was how many calories the beer had and how my morning workout would be fucked. But I was already there, so I said fuck it and ordered a round of shots for myself and my new friends.

It was me, the Canadian skin-picker, two more 20 year old Canadian girls and an 18 year old German chick. We start playing some drinking game and the only thing I could think about is how I would bore them.

No idea where this sense of insecurity came from to tell you the truth. I have no problem talking one on one or even to a group in a non-party setting. But turn on some music, add alcohol and 20 more people and I freeze up.

It's not like I've never done anything in my life either. I've done a lot of cool shit. Fuck man, I used to talk to women literally all day every day and convince them to give me hundreds of dollars. I think it just comes from lack of recent exposure to this specific type of situation.

Anyway, I quickly realized that none of them gave a fuck if I was boring or not. A few drinks later I finally loosened up and actually managed to have a good time.

About an hour later, we headed over to one of the other hostels in the neighborhood owned by the same company. There were about 40 extremely drunk and loud backpackers there playing Flip Cup. There was also a pool.

We unironically loved Zyzz for his personality too

I'm not going to give you the play by play of the entire night, but suffice to say that I realized that this whole time I had been making a big deal out of nothing. There is literally 0 reason to be worried about what any random person thinks of you because most of the time they actually don't give a fuck about you anyway.

This isn't exactly a new concept for me, but when your biology takes over and your chest starts pumping, you can't really think yourself back down to a normal heart rate.

Not only that, I realized that most of the people I talked to actually had WORSE social skills than I did. They had no conversational ability, overreacted to innocent comments, and/or were just boring people in general.

Working out every day in an attempt to cure your autism has its benefits as well. When you finally DO get over your mental retardation and put yourself in a social situation, you're normally the most fit person in the room. Or in this case, at the pool.

One of the Canadian girls had been eye-fucking me all night, and while the alcohol had definitely helped to clear some of the gunk from my social pipes, there was still some residual autism that prevented me from taking advantage of it.

At around midnight we came back to the original hostel to wait for a bus to come pick everyone up and take us to a nearby club. They were playing some hip hop shit or something, I don't know. All I remember is these Canadian girls gyrating in front of me while I sat there - expressionless and exhausted - and did nothing. Literally all I had to do was get up, take her hand and pull her back to my room and that would be the end of it.

Instead, I started talking to some sour-faced girl next to me and ignored the mating dance happening a foot from my face. I felt like an idiot when they wandered off in search of someone with bigger balls.

Exhausted, I figured that was enough for one night, so I went up to my room and collapsed onto my bed.

There were two new guys in there. One of them asked me, "So how was your night?"

I'm obviously not the type of person to beat around the bush. So I told them straight up about the Canadian girl offering herself to me and my lack of action.

Long story short, this lead to a 2 hour conversation about all kinds of shit - girls, 4chan, feminism, the army, money... all kinds of shit. One of them was actually Jewish, so once I told him that I had been in the IDF it was off to the races. Two very cool guys from Denmark.

I woke up at 7:30 in the morning with a mild hangover. Three cups of coffee later I pondered what to do with myself while everyone else was still sleeping. I felt inappropriate levels of guilt for filling myself with liquid courage the night before, so I did what any of my /fit/ bros would have done - I went to the gym.

One of the best things about working out is that you begin to feel less guilty about eating food that may not be super healthy. The same goes for alcohol. You feel like as long as you get your workout in, you can have a couple beers/shots at the end of the night.

So I pounded out a two hour workout fueled from shame, three hours of sleep, and a few grams of creatine. Went back to the hostel, checked out with my two new Danish friends and moved down the street to the hostel with the pool.

Nothing without great labor

That was six days ago.

Since then, I've been going out every night, slowly drinking the autism out of my system and flushing the alcohol out of my blood with two hours in a local Vietnamese gym. Come home and eat some food, spend a few hours at the pool and then do my work for the day.

What I've noticed from this little six day experiment is that my party game is fucking garbage tier. Very humbling for me, especially since I'm a tall good-looking American and should be dynamiting the fish in these barrels. I've started watching old school PUA videos again, but I can tell I have a long road to hoe.

Actually what I want to do at some point is go to one of those PUA bootcamps where they like coach you for a few days. There are a few "immersive" ones where you go out literally every night for as long as you want and you get help from coaches. I think that's the best way to learn. And with my location-independent lifestyle and semi-constant flow of income, that's something that I can actually do.

Honestly though, I feel SO much better after just saying fuck it and partying. I would never have thought that I could exist on 4 hours of sleep, drink myself retarded and then wake up in the morning to crush it in the gym almost a week straight.

The parties weren't even really that fun, but just the fact that I've eliminated this fear from my life is unbelievably liberating. I can't count how many social invitations I've turned down because they happened at night and involved alcohol.

And here, just because of one slightly less socially awkward Canadian girl, a new world has opened up for me virtually overnight.

I think a lot of guys these days are too focused on looks. We read shit like r/TRP on Reddit, talk about "Chad" and how things like height and physical appearance are so important, how women are biologically programmed to be promiscuous during ovulation and it totally fucks with our heads. We start to think that we need to be the most jacked alpha male anywhere we go or we're literally worthless.

It's obviously stupid if you think about it logically, but that's really how we think. PUArtistry has fallen out of favor and is even seen as "outdated," but meanwhile those guys got laid like rockstars and with high quality people too, not just a bunch of average looking backpackers who are thousands of miles from home. Not to mention they built massive networks of influential people as they worked their way up the social foodchain through nothing more than simple conversation.

It's just so much easier to chalk your lack of success up to biology or some other excuse that's beyond your control. But to actually go out every night and do cold approaches on girls with inflated egos is not as easy at it used to be. Validation through social media and online dating have skewed the dating game way out of our favor.

But just because it's "harder" doesn't mean you shouldn't try. Honestly I don't even really want to have sex with most of these girls that I talk to. I never used to consider myself particularly picky when it came to girls, but this trip made me realize that it takes more than just being a walking pair of tits to get me interested. Depends on how nice they are I guess.

That's not cool, bro

The craziest thing is that all this "#metoo-esque" bullshit I read about on the internet is actually a thing.

The other night we were walking to a bar and I found myself next to two Australians, a guy and a girl. I heard the girl speaking some Hebrew so I struck up a conversation about Israel, etc. As we're walking, somehow we got on the topic of the bahn mi - a local Vietnamese sandwich that is Vietnam's go-to sandwich like a hamburger is in America.

There's a few famous bahn mi places here in Hoi An and this girl told me that one of them was especially good.

I was like, "Yeah... I dunno. I've had bad luck with Vietnamese food so far. I don't think it's so good."

She goes, "No, but you HAVE to try this place. It's amazing."

"Ok ok," I said, waving her off.

I leaned over and said in the guy's direction, "What do YOU think about this banh mi place? You're a man - I trust YOUR opinion."

Dead silent.

Finally the girl goes, "Oh my god, did you really just make a sexist comment?"

I wasn't sure if they were fucking with me or not. I had heard about people actually getting offended at shit like this, but I just chalked it up to people exaggerating on the internet.

I had watched a video earlier about "offering perspective," which is where you just try and reframe the meaning of what you say in case it's viewed as inappropriate. I thought this would be a great time to try that.

So I said, "Oh, I just say that to people to see where they stand on the issue."

They didn't buy it.

The guy piped up and said, "You can't just say stuff like that bro. It's really offensive."

I had to actually look at his face to see if he was joking or not. He looked legitimately angry.

"Yeah," the girl said, "it's really offensive to hear things like that."

They really started ripping into me after that about how it's sexist, blah blah blah. Now I was the one who actually started getting angry.

I interrupted them and said, "Actually I wasn't joking. I really do think that. I don't care if you're angry. Learn to take a joke."

The girl's like, "Oh... well that's... good to know."

Meanwhile, I looked over at homeboy and he legit looked like he wanted to strangle me.

Now, I've been doing Muay Thai for a few months, so I wasn't actually scared for my well-being. However I WAS scared that this guy would try something and that I'd have to hit him, which when you actually know how to fight, you actually tend to avoid in situations like this.

Anyway, they "went to go see their friend" and disappeared behind me as I walked onto the bar.

Not gonna lie, that conversation tilted me for a while that night. I couldn't believe that there really were people out there who were playing games like this in conversation to score morality points with each other. Mind boggling.

I'm with Him

Traveling as an American, a lot of people ask me what I think of Trump. I used to be scared to give my actual opinion, so I would just give the standard, "oh he's an idiot ha ha ha" and leave it at that.

Now that I give far fewer fucks, I tell them the truth with no hesitation. I tell them that I love Donald, how I'm so happy how he won the election instead of Hillary. Then I look to the sky, interlace my fingers and unironically say, "thank you, whoever you are. Thank you!"

I know some of you just groaned as you read that. You're probably like, "Welp, guess I'm not reading HIS blogs anymore."

Nice knowing you.

I always tell them WHY I like Trump too. My standard explanation is something like:

"Look, I don't agree with everything he says. But I have respect for him because of how he handles himself. The guy is facing pressure from so many angles and has managed to stay congruent the entire time. There is a literally media empire working 24/7 to bring the guy down, and not only did he WIN the election, but he's still getting shit done and doing what he said he would. I don't agree with him on everything, but I can still have respect for someone even if we don't agree on everything."

Something like that.

Then people's next response is something like, "But he's an idiot! Building a wall in Mexico, the Muslim ban, how can you respect someone who says shit like that?"

This gives me the perfect opportunity to explain how he's such a savvy negotiator.

"When you enter into a negotiation with someone and make a ridiculous demand, you use it as a starting point for your deal. And the US has the upper hand in most negotiations anyway. So if Trump says he's going to build a wall between the US and Mexico AND that Mexico is going to pay for it, he can use that as a bargaining chip later in other dealings between the two countries. Maybe they don't pay for the whole wall, maybe they only pay for part of it. Or maybe they concede another point in the negotiation instead."

Then the lightbulb slowly starts to flicker.

So last night, we're all talking outside a club and I gave some vodka-RedBull-powered variation of the above explanation. There was a black guy from Denmark there listening to everything. We had met officially but never really talked. I only mention that he's black because it's very rare that you have a black person from Denmark, and also because on average I've noticed that black people do not like Trump. Maybe some do, blah blah blah.

So he says to me, "Hey man, I heard something really bad about you and wanted to ask you about it."

I couldn't help but smile. "Sure, go for it."

He goes, "One of these girls told me that you said some really sexist shit last night."

I go, "Yeah, probably. But what did they tell you SPECIFICALLY that I said?"

He goes, "Uhhh, I don't really remember, but it was something like 'girls should stay in the kitchen' or something. I don't know."

I'm sure he was drunk last night like the rest of us, so I don't blame him for not remembering exactly what was said.

I told him the story of what really happened. Before we could talk about it, the girl in question actually walked by with a female friend of hers. I had a drink in one hand, so I grabbed my giant balls in the other and said to her,

"Hey, this guy is telling me that you told him that I said women should stay in the kitchen or something?"

The Danish guy goes, "No no no! I didn't say that! I said I DON'T remember exactly.."

I refreshed everyone's memory, emphasizing how it was a joke and how ridiculous it was that some people would get legitimately offended about something so mild.

The Danish guy goes, "Look man, I understand what you're saying, but it's 2018 and you have to be careful what you say now."

I cut him off with another wave of my hand. "No. You're wrong. That's the worst thing you can do."

He looked confused. "What do you mean? Why?"

I felt all the blood start rushing to my face. "Because I don't care what fucking year it is, a man shouldn't have to worry about saying that he trusts another man's opinion over a woman's ABOUT A FUCKING SANDWICH!"

That got me some laughs. And the fastest way to win an argument is to make your opponent laugh.

Even the girl was smiling. She had this sly look on her face that said, "Yeah, you're right. I was just fucking with you last night to see if you'd buckle."

The other guys there were like, "Yeah! Yeah, you're right. That's right!"

Most of them were Danish or Dutch, and from what I understand this shit is out of control over there. Plus Europeans are less likely to say outrageous shit, even after too many drinks at a bar, probably because their culture is more socially progressive on average than the US.

In fact, as I made the comment, I looked at the black guy's face and a huge toothy smile practically split his head in half before he tried (unsuccessfully) to hide it.

"Yeah yeah, you're right man," he said.

And then everyone stood up and started clapping.

That black guy's name? Abraham Lincoln.

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Beautiful, well done on the pictures .. looks amazing experience
Great post from you
Thanks for sharing‏..

I will consider that this was the knowledge of the world.
There is an ancient wisdom: "You can feed people with fish, but it is better to teach them to fish themselves. It's safer to fight hunger. " This wisdom is permissible to rephrase: "You can teach a person his whole life, but it is better to teach him to acquire knowledge independently. This is more reliable for the spiritual development of man. " This goal is pursued by the theory of knowledge.

It's hard to relate to your fellow travelers because your motivations for traveling are so different. They want to visit some random temple while I just want to hit the gym and get my work done.

I wonder how you do in the middle of an anti-capitalist/communist/money-is-evil talk

I do great. As you can tell I’m very good at pissing people off

true

Weapon's grade autism ftw.

I read this to a point, and then I had to just slowly drop off, maybe I would have finished the whole thing if the canadian chick story had a sexy ending, but no, it didnt. aint got energy for this sht. what are you on bro!? you're writing a whole damn book in a single post. damn!

He could have lied, that he did.
Many would have in this situation.
But he havent lied.
Learn to appreciate honesty.

You prefer lame fantasy over not-so-entertaining reality it seems.

Lol. Laserade, it's not this serious though.

I appreciate the story and wish I had stuff like this to write about. I was lightly pointing on the issue of the Canadian girl but for real the post was actually long and I couldn't finish reading it as I have short attention span myself.

Lol! I have a friend who also has autism like the writer and my cousin also has it. One is a videogame vlogger who will go on and on about the same story plot on his game for about an hour if his fiancee didn't cut him off at 15 min per video 😂 It might be an autism thing, and maybe he just has a lot om his mind. Who knows. I found it kinda funny and entertaining to read.. I had to skim some of the end, but it was a pretty quality post for a blog in my opinion.

Lol. If autism makes you write this much then maybe autism is good. I was enjoying the blog too but my patience level and attention is low. And since the story about the hangingnout didn't end as expected, I had to fade off slowly. Lol.

this guy doesn't have autism. it's a term used by the 4chan guys to describe their stupidity and social problems - or their otherness to the normies. chances are 95% he doesn't have real autism.

Lol. He just said 100% so he has figurative autism as you pointed out.

weaponized autism ftw.

I think I've seen you already - a science journalist at Futurism website?

Wait, are you offering me a new job?

Not yet. I'm just verifying my apprehension. Is you that science guy at Futurism?

Well, sorry I'm not that guy but if you would offer me the job now, I can learn some science. Lol

Not all stories have a happy ending where the hero wins bru. Shakespeare anyone?

well,,,, happy shakespearing then.

why didnt you smash that pussy bro.....whats wrong with you?? ;)

you are a talented writer but this is getting really depressing haha

you are a talented writer

That’s the important part right there. I guarantee you if I made all the right moves in this story then people would not find it as engaging or entertaining.

wouldnt mind and upvote and follow from you......haha ;)
im reading all your old posts man and today i open an instagram account to see what can i do with it.... you GOT my attention

Bro if a $0.20 upvote is going to help you then you have problems that I can't solve. Write something worth upvoting and we'll see

You are a piece of work, dont you?? Hah
Ok, fair enough
Still love your posts ;)

I can't say I envy you the upvote beggars- we've got about the same steem power, but since my posts only make it to trending in science, and not main trending, they largely don't see me. The price of (steemit) fame, I guess?

ok what miscer are you

This right here today just might be the longest post i have ever read on Steemit being here since 2016 :D Honestly

Just remember who took your 4000 word post virginity.

ahahah:D

I see you employed the Trump strategy here. Make outrageous statements to get views and replies and a hefty payout. Minus the bots of course. I guess you are the smart one.

Write a factual representation of what actually happened including all the parts that make you look bad.

FTFY

Right wing opinions stopping you from making friends? Make right wing friends :P

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Looking the great art of this

First I was like: PUA, incel comics and Trump? Stereotypical douche. but then I saw

That black guy's name? Abraham Lincoln.

You raise a few good points, a few bad points and a few whatever points but honestly it is hard to discern what you are serious about and what not ;)

A big chunk of the whole PUA and incel crowd is entitled little boys who think they deserve life on a plate, while being an ass. Would be interesting to hear your opinion on that crowd.

Your post reads nice but it seems that the goal was to offend people. Sure, but honestly, I still don't know what actually you wanted to say with it :D

First of all, you can’t lump incels together with puas in the same category. Incels are people who have given up on improving themselves. Puas go out regularly to risk rejection in an attempt to better themselves. I recommend you learn more about the latter.

Second, Pepe and Wojack memes are not incel memes. They are commonly used images on 4chan to depict different emotional states in response to comments from other posters. Wojack is used as more of a sad/helpless filter, while Pepe can be more snide but also helpless. They are not alt right, incel, nazi specific and people who state that only show that they have done zero research and just believe whatever they read in the Washington post.

To your point, the incel crowd is garbage because all they do is complain. PUAs deserve respect because they risk their ego every time they attempt a social interaction with a member of the opposite sex as they generally are not confident 6’4” bodybuilders but don’t want to let that prevent them from sexual relationships with attractive women.

Fourth, the goal of this post is not to offend anyone and that comment makes me wonder if you actually read it or just skimmed it and commented based on the Pepe memes. The goal was to tell a story with as much authenticity as possible, even the dark parts that would paint me in a vulnerable light.

I find that this is the best way to resonate with an audience as you establish credibility when you admit that you are not perfect and give specific examples of your shortcomings. Not just give it lip service and reframe your faults as “that’s just my personality.”

For example I didn’t say that I didn’t find the Canadian girl attractive and that I wanted to sleep so I could get up early and work out. I told it like it was, saying that I bitched out because I was too scared to make a move. That is the truth, and anyone who spends time on sites like 4chan would know that anything less than admitting your faults in a gut wrenchingly honest way is unacceptable.

The purpose of the post was not to offend anyone. It was to tell a story that adhered to the actual events as closely as possible, warts and all. If my opinions or actions offended anyone, that’s just a coincidence. There are many people who read that any are able to identify with my responses to the situations there without them offending their enlightened sensibilities. At the end of the day it’s just a story. Think of it like a journal entry

My general experience with pua and incel is that both groups have a tendency to see women as the abstract withholders of sex and not as people. Fits great with messages like: 'all women want x' and sure, the way they approach it is generally different, their attitude towards women is similarly toxic, same as Christians and Muslims are both religious and for an atheist can be lumped together as theists.

I meant the Chad meme, pepe is used for almost everything right now 🙃

I respect puas for them going out and risking rejection. What I don't respect is an often heard notion of 'find insecure girls, insult them so that every affection you give them is something they crave' which is a highly toxic attitude. Treating others as things is the root of all evil. And honestly, if you go out and talk to people, you are brave, not a pua, at least from my definition. But I would be happy to see a good example of how pua is not a weird abusive predators game thing, I love changing my mind about this 😊

The offending part was because of 'oh no, meetoo people police everything I say' and then 'I know how all women rate restaurants'. It felt forced edgy for me 😅

I really like that you don't whitewash what you are. It is a great quality to have! And it is what made me want to interact with you. If your intent is not to offend but to show yourself, would you mind me commenting on future stories with my opinion, tips, feedback and food for thoughts? The best puas are not puas but themselves. Emotinal honesty, great communication, consent and being brave open many doors. I think I would enjoy talking with you about this more!

Comment away brother. You don’t need my permission.

That said, I think you are reducing puas to something way too simple. It’s not about finding insecure girls and insulting them. I assume you’re talking about a neg, which is very misunderstood since people get their information from Cosmo and not the actual source.

A neg is just a way of teasing a girl. You don’t tell her that her makeup looks like shit, you joke around and tell her that her nose wiggles when she laughs. Huge difference.

Second, as far as viewing women as withholders of sex, that is true on some level. But again I think you’re letting your preconceived notions of the community paint your “observations” in a negative light. The fact is that a woman can get sex within the hour if she wants just by asking who wants it, whereas a man needs to prove his value before even being considered. Game is all about crafting yourself into a better person so that you’re he type of man that women want.

Most guys are under socialized, awkward and have bad hygiene. They have no idea how to keep a conversation entertaining let alone get a woman into bed without being overly aggressive or inappropriate.

Game is all about teaching these skills. There is a lot of fake it till you make it going on from the sheer volume of approaches that you have to do to get to the level where you can confidently approach stunners and give the impression that you are on their level. Straight up, that’s something that most guys cannot do given their present state. Takes an enormous amount of work and eating shit to get there. Rejection is not fun.

The Chad vs virgin meme is fairly common now these days as well. Not only used for sexual things. In this case it just speaks to the lack of confidence that many men have when it comes to women. We have stiff competition these days and girls have thousands of eager competitors no more than a right swipe away. There is not as much room for error unless you see them regularly face to face.

As far as game being a weird abusive predator thing... that’s so ridiculous I literally don’t even know what to say. Maybe google some of the communities, read some of the literature out there other than what you find in girly magazines? It’s all about making yourself a better person through rejection. It’s true that from the amount of approaches people do you can tend to commoditize the interaction, but that’s only because you want to improve your skills. It’s not even really about the girls, it’s about yourself.

Also I never said I know how all women rate restaurants. I said that women are more easily influenced by branding and reputation and I assume that’s obvious enough that I don’t have to back it up with specific examples. Once again, the comment was said tongue in cheek and the two of them took it as an opportunity to do some virtual signaling and jerk each other off at my expense. Irritating to say the least.

The best puas are themselves... thank you captain obvious. We call those “naturals” and guess what, either you are or you aren’t one. If you’re not because you spent your childhood playing RPGs and jerking off to tentacle hentai, what do you suggest is the proper course of action when you see a real life girl who you want to start a conversation with? Talk about elder scrolls 3 and how it’s so much better on pc than PlayStation? Come on bro. You need to play the game if you want to have a chance. That’s why it’s called the game. It’s all about learning how to turn yourself into a more normal human being by getting hobbies, cleaning up your appearance and desensitizing yourself to the fear of approaching/talking to women because of their perceived elevated status in society and your natural biological triggers. That shit doesn’t come easy and it’s not natural unless you were lucky enough to have a few sisters and be around women your whole life.

don’t take my word for it. You’re welcome to do your own research.

I researched pua a few years back. And it probably depends on where you are in the community. I found many advices on using someones insecurities to get them into bed and that put me off a lot.

I said that women are more easily influenced by branding and reputation and I assume that’s obvious enough that I don’t have to back it up with specific examples.

I don't think that that is generally true. But then again it doesn't really matter.

As for being a natural, I disagree. No one is a natural. It takes bravery to overcome your fears and be yourself. And there is this huge notion of being someone who you think 'all women like' and the advice of being yourself is to go against that notion.

From what I found, women can get bad sex everywhere, sure, but so can men. Actually connecting with someone is what takes bravery and authenticity.

I really like the saying: If you are not happy with yourself, why do you expect someone else to be happy with you. Don't expect others to fix your own shit.

So if you want to talk about games all day, find people who want to do that too. I met enough women who are bigger gamers than I am. They exist :D

Hit me up on discord if you want, responding on chain is tiresome, this post does not load well on mobile :/

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Wow! This is great energy, I need to read this again and again, its simply well put. Thanks for the inspiration and motivation @yallapapi

I agree, something that stands out I usually try to read from 20-30 posts a day, and usually they are kinda the same

You should read the rest of my posts. They’re all like this, just with fewer images.

Interesting stuff. Back to The Game. It was a a social game changer for me too. Gone are those days though.

That lifestyle takes a lot of work and makes you check yourself daily. Much easier to blame the system and spend time in the gym instead of developing yourself mentally.

The one with the twitter tweet about not offending anyone is so true.

nowadays people get offended so easily that by even not posting anything can get them offended, and when you do post something it offends them even more.

Read a long article after a long time, you can tell stories that is why Canadian girl was interested ;) great work ... keep enjoying what you are doing.

Eh - I don't think it's so much about the comment being offensive as it is about women hearing comments like this soooo often from guys who think they're being hilarious. shrug it grates after a while.

As for the rest, well, it can amusing to go out and get tipsy/hammered once in a while but I find doing it every night gets super tiresome and I start feeling really shitty in the mornings. It's interesting that you consider yourself a shy/socially awkward person though :) - it doesn't come across a lot in your blogs... Most people, as you say, really don't give a damn though. They're happily self absorbed enough to not give you a second thought.

As a woman, when a man jokingly tells me to make him a sandwich (if I am home) I grab 2 pieces of bread and place them over his ears like Gordon Ramsey and say..." YOU ARE A SANDWICH."

Yeah most of the time I’m really not. One on one situations I’m golden, even in a small group. It’s really the bigger groups where I don’t know anyone that I’m weak. But like anything else it’s just practice.

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Beautiful art.
Your story is very nice.
Thank you sir...

I also have very autisms

Agree. I don't like Donald much but I agree with him more than I agree with Hillary and that won't change. The shitstorm thats followed also proves how close minded the democratic party had become.

+++that is really a dividing subject and just something where not everybody will agree, never i guess

I still have hope but only time will tell.

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As always, a great read, full of detail and charisma. Would expect nothing less from @yallapapi.

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Coming from you, I will definitely consider that a compliment :)

Had to delete this comment and make it again because I used the wrong account haha

It sounds like you had a whole lot of fun 😂 I don't quite understand the social fixation on constantly being offended by everything either.. Like, just say what you mean and be who you are.. If they don't like it then they don't need to be your friend. Plain and simple!

Yeah I wouldn’t have believed it either. Not sure what’s wrong with people, but I think it’s just their way of reclaiming some of their lost power.

I think so too.. It's no longer acceptable to institutionalise people for having unpopular opinions so they gotta get offended and raise a stink.

So basically, you are only this cool on the internet......I get it....

I’m this cool in real life too. It’s just easier to convey when I write about it.

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That was a fun read. Sounds like a dream over there honestly. Hanging out and partying.

Yeah there’s definitely worse places to spend your time.

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I like your writing style

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keep it up with a fighting spirit

Very interesting post sir.
I really enjoy this.
Thanks for sharing.

Good the news thaks @yallapapi

Man I really dig your writing style, even when I think what you're writing is ridiculous. Looking forward to seeing more! I also love reading about Asia before I travel there later this year.

Thanks. Yes it is ridiculous.

who is the phobia? the white guy or the green guy?

I read it to a point where I say well played Abraham Lincoln... ok fine I skimmed through, but really...f07.jpg

lol

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Wow that really funny...

@yallapapi you tell me the truth. I know you do. What kind of next level shit do you smoke every time you write shit like this? As always I don't have the patience to finish reading your shit.

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Honestly... wrote this from about 9 AM to 2 PM while sitting at the pool at the hostel. Had my earphones in listening to Markus Schulz and Armin Van Buren mixes. 100% sober. I take Wellbutrin and modafinil every morning with a bit of noopept. Definitely helps but none of those are recreational in any sense.

How about Adele or MDMA?

Also what type of kool-aid do you use to catch typos and all those stuff automatically? Do you use some AI-level of some sort?

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Also what type of kool-aid do you use to catch typos and all those stuff automatically? Do you use some AI-level of some sort?

No, I just do several edits of the post before publishing. For example:

  1. Edit for copy (word flow, paragraph spacing etc)
  2. Edit for links/formatting to make it easy on the eye
  3. Edit images
  4. Edit headings (the hardest part)
  5. Edit again for copy

Several times. They don't come out like this on the first draft

The latter parts of your post made me feel proud about not going to clubs and bars ever. I had never liked those places and I'm more of a Book, laptop and privacy sort of guy and I don't even know the real name of more than half of my friends.

Lots of people talk about minimalism in life. I'm not that much of a minimalist I just lack money (highschool dropout - One of the best performing students in the class). I've always had a minimalist approach to social interactions and I can be proud about my friends and some times I kind of rub it on them how shitty some of their human interactions tend to be. Even many of the girls I talk to tend to have a great taste (Ender's Game, Ayn Rand, Matrix, Raid; Redemption, Dan Brown, Sherlock etc.)

I had some great non-PC jokes in a old post of mine: https://steemit.com/comedy/@vimukthi/revisiting-trudeaueulogy-some-of-the-best-political-satire-ever

The comments had some great jokes too.
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I know what you mean but secretly I wish I had all those things. Millions of dollars, vibrant social circle, a fresh rotation of smokin hot girls who think I’m the shit... it’s the dream. I’m also tempted to say “oh yeah I’m the type of person who would rather chill with his laptop and a cup of tea,” but if I do that then I know there’s no chance I’ll get those things. At least this way I feel that there’s still a chance.

I'm trying the sit behind a computer screen, learn and invest approach. I'm already satisfied with the quality of the few friends I have and money shoul naturally lead me to good opportunities and good projects tend to have good people behind them.

Good Luck!

Not gonna smash any fitness models from behind your screen

I think the more socially adept you are the more you pay attention to detail. So, you understand what makes people tick and not doing those things "feels" like you are socially shit.

There's always a "too much" version of everything. And it's a horseshoe, the extremes meet. Being super aware of social cues can really fuck up with your abillity to socialize normally.

For me, either I look like a sociopath looking people with dead eyes, because I've done this conversation a million times and I know what they want to do, say or accomplish or I can flip a mental switch and be the normal version of me, whatever that means, though it's never that smooth a transition.

Implying that you don't trust a woman because she's a woman isn't inherently sexist? You can't step out of your own thought process for half a second to look at that from an outside perspective? Just saying, man. Comes off as pretty douchey. Nice bidbot novel!

Dude you're an idiot. First of all, it's said tongue in cheek. Second, yes I trust a man's opinion about a famous sandwich place more than a woman's, because women are more easily influenced by reputation and branding. So if this place is branded as a "famous sandwich place," she's more likely to say it's good even if it's average just because of that.

Also go fuck yourself.

Mmk m8, cheers 🍻

That was one of the more interesting things I have read in Steemit in some time, usually I get bored with people's longer pieces. Sounds a lot like a touch of social anxiety disorder. At a certain age its not worth talking to Canadian girls even to get laid.

Can you give me an example of one of those shitty articles you want rewritten? Depending on what it needs I am pretty good at that.

That was one of the more interesting things I have read in Steemit in some time, usually I get bored with people's longer pieces.

The ultimate Steemit compliment.

Sounds a lot like a touch of social anxiety disorder.

I hate labels like this. People get nervous around other people. It's not a disorder.

At a certain age its not worth talking to Canadian girls even to get laid.

I think this is just a convenient excuse to not risk your ego for the potential result. That and maybe a touch of reduced testosterone and hampered inability to bond with other human beings quickly enough to make it worth it. Not just you, everyone.

Can you give me an example of one of those shitty articles you want rewritten? Depending on what it needs I am pretty good at that.

@omniloquent - those are the rewritten ones. Have plenty. Contact [email protected] if you want to get rolling

You're right, it's not a disorder until it prevents you from doing things you want to do or causes you undue discomfort, until then it is just social anxiety, something which almost everyone seems to have given the popularity of alcohol and cannabis at social events.

I just find Canadian girls especially intolerable, been there done that.

I'll check out [email protected] thanks.

I read this and it wasn't what I expected it was actually quite interesting and you raised quite a few topics I was able to identify with.

Well done

I read this and it wasn't what I expected it was actually quite interesting and you raised quite a few topics I was able to identify with.

This could be total copypasta but thanks anyawy

My comment? I am a lil heart broken that you'd think I wouldn't take the time to read what you have written :(

That’s why they call me a heartbreaker

Man, Im a fan of the way you write, You are my fucking spirit animal.

Plenty more where that came from. Writer's block? What's that?

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Hermano lo felicito usted es un intelectual de locura tiene una imaginación enorme, sus post son largos pero muy entretenidos me gustó mucho seguiré de cerca sus publicaciones .

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I can't believe that i finished your whole "story" considering that i am a slow reader and english is not my strengths, i guess i really enjoyed it? lol. good post.

10/10 compliment would read again

well, just read my comment is not what I want, ;( . lol. you go and figure it out.

Wow..very nice post..good job..thank you for sharing👍😀

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Just temporarily forget you have political opinions if you want to talk to people, what the hell

Good post for making new friends.🎿

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Wow wow wow ...What a explanation. Great post.

Great work keep enjoying what you are doing. Well done..!! Great Article..!! =D

The truly courageous man is the one who fear only the fear, or some shit like that.

Don't ask me why, just popped up in my head when reading your post. I conclude is something you write is the reason.

I was left traumatized with this, what were you thinking about?

Traumatizing the weak to make them stronger

I love Zyzz for his personality and for his transformation too. What about you ? Why do you love Zyzz ? If you don't like him say why.

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Damn Mister, that was one looooong ass post !
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But it made me laugh and think I’m not the only socially acward, introvertekstrovert, boarderline freak damn good looking ( hey, modesty was never my thing) note also: normal looking girl…
I’m also into the “gym and shit” and I feel people really don’t know how to have fun without alcohol, for me it is a waste of time. My time is precious, why would I waste it being wasted when I can either work, workout, have food for thought by reading or listening or just simply by taking a nap ( I loveee napping ) and let my body relax. Occasionally interacting with the opposite sex, but even those occasions tend to impress me less and less. Again just waste of my time, no added value to my life. I’m good with B.O.B. ( battery operate boyfriend ) A tan and a workout is also my priority, but unfortunately there’s not much sun where I’m living lol. I travel once in a while and my biggest tourist attractions are to visit the local gyms. I was just in Dubai. Those gyms there <3 I dream of what you have, freedom to surround yourself with whoever the hell you want. And what’s more better way for an social autistic beign then to be a digital nomand. If I just wasn’t such a #blond when it comes to all this digishit. ( but I’ll keep dreaming ) I have read some of your posts now and even I don’t understand half of some of your posts ( too technical and this crypto thing is still kind of going over my head ) I still find myself entertained by your butt naked honesty and the sarcasm in your posts. You are funny.
Looking forward following your content ☺️

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