Things To Note: For Him XII, Contributed By @olawalium.
…continued… from part 1, part 2, part 3, part 4, part 5, part 6, part 7, part 8, part 9, part 10 and part 11.
As a man, you need to be strong. You need to know that life is full of ups and downs. You need to anticipate things faster and earlier. You need to build capacities for eventualities. Let her trust you to always be on top of situations and how can you be on top of situations? Only when you know life will happen, situations will threaten and nothing lasts forever, no matter how it feels today. Learn to rely on her love, as she would rely on yours. Life is full of ups and downs, and that is not always a negative thing. There is so much promise in your life, don’t let the vicissitudes of life snuff it out for you. Don’t let them deprive you the opportunity of living and being a responsible husband and father. You need to be strong for them, only then can you have a story to tell and lessons to teach your children.
As a man, we have what we call ego. Yes, we all have it. Don’t let your ego get in the way of common sense. Think with your heart as well as your head. You can’t be poor and proud, that is double tragedy hahaha. Be humble, be kind, and be reasonable. There is no crime in being unemployed for a while. That is why I said life is full of ups and downs. Don’t feel the need to be controlling because she wakes up and goes to work while you are yet to find something to do, either for one reason or the other. Life happens, calm down and it doesn’t mean she will think less of you or respect you less, especially if you are not the lazy type. This is the place of understanding I earlier stressed. Before the job you hope for eventually comes, you need to get your hands dirty. You have to be a man, and being a man means you have to take initiatives and do whatever you need to do. You need to earn her trust that the future of that family actually means something to you.
”Pursue groundedness, not the fad of the moment. Fads come and go but nobility and virtue abide.” - Leke Alder.
A lot falls on the man and this is why we attract many criticisms and rightly so. We need to do better, and be better. We are going to be raising children too, so we need to set an example for them, and they need to know how to do things and improve on them.
So, I am ending this series on this note, and I hope we learned one or two things. Like I always say, I don’t have it all together too, I have been constantly learning, as I read all your valuable comments. Thank you all for always being there and sticking around.
Thank you for your time.
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@olawalium i belive when it comes to a happy marriage both the partners need to stand together rather than being relying on other. That would define the trust and love on each other. Spending life solely on husband wont balance a happy married life. For sure due to the gods favoring men with more physical abilities the pendulem will always move towards his side..but in that case both the partner need to understand the situation and help each other...
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That is the place for understanding and i rightly understand you. The post is just for the guys and the ones for the ladies would come up soon too. I mentioned it that even though i targeted this for the guys, both parties can learn from it. The onus rest more on the guys but with understanding, both parties can learn to help each other as you have rightly said, my friend.
Thank you so much.
Ohhh i didnt noticed..but when it come to marriage relation...i will treat them one.....2 body on soul...only if there love exists
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Yes, that's why we should go for the person we love and we can always have deep relation with. Both parties need to learn and bring what they have learned, then seek to improve always.
Relation never develop overnight..it takes time....give every relation certain time to blossom
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Yes, i mentioned the need not to "rush" earlier in this series. A lot of people feel the need to have someone. They skip process and they forget that everything is subject to time.
Well written i must say.but bitter truth is every man don't think like that.i just wish every man will read and learn from it.thanks for writing this post.
That's why we live and learn. No man knows it all and i hope many more people read this too.
Thanks a lot for your kind words. Gracias.
This is a nice note, I wish all men can reason like this and swallow their ego, thanks its very helpful
Great thinkings, my dear there come such moments in life when a man becomes completely hopeless, but he should not lose hope. As time never remains the same, it changes .life is full of hurdles and obstacles but be patient and wait for your victory.