Things To Note: For Him VIII, Contributed By @olawalium.
…continued… from part 1, part 2, part 3, part 4, part 5, part 6 and part 7.
Marriage is a learning curve. As with life, where we live and learn, so in marriage we grow and we go through it. You see things clearly, you understand things better. Your understanding deepens as you go through marriage with your spouse. What you never knew before marriage, you will know just few months into it and what you know every time increases as the years go by.
You don’t know it all. There are some things marriage will open your eyes to see, there are some level of understanding you will gather, a new level of responsibility that you will feel and a new view to her character. Marriage have a way of magnifying our strong side; either our weaknesses or strength. This is the main reason we need to work more on ourselves too. Always seek to improve.
Work on deepening friendship and commitment in your marriage. You will be the one to benefit from it in the long run. When you create a level of friendship with your wife, it shows you can talk about anything and everything. It shows you a certain level of closeness between you two, which leaves no play for ego and lack of respect, because you will have gotten so used to each other that you wouldn’t want just any minor argument tear you apart. You will rather lose the desire to be right than lose her.
Your spouse should be your ‘bestie’. You should be able to discuss just about anything because it saves further heartache and prepares your mind early enough. When your partner is in the know, it saves unpleasant surprises and shocks.
I recently heard of a story about a couple, few weeks ago. When they were about to be joined together, the presiding pastor asked if anyone was against the marriage and right there a guy stood up. With stares and still a desire to know what his reasons could be, he told the husband: ”Is this the lady you want to spend your life with? Someone I was still with yesterday evening and we had sex? Someone I have known even longer than you? I would suggest you retrace your steps”. He said and he walked out. With sweat beaming from the guy’s face, he looked at the lady and she said amidst tears, ”I can explain.”
...to be continued...
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Marriage a way towards belongingness. Where each other sould found solace with being each other the sense of responsibility and togetherness give them to live long.
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Powerful!. Yes, their sense of responsibility and togetherness will keep them longer. This is why being your spouse best friend would surely be helpful.
Thanks for this.
Thats true...good you like it...thanks
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Thank you too. :)
After marriage there are responsibilities.
Changes occure being married. A lot of new things happen, birth of a child, a lot of desires.
The life completely changes.
Yes, a lot of physical and mental changes happen and this is why going for beauty to decide a partner is risky. Love, respect, commitment and understanding would surely be needed.
Good one, my friend.