This post has been a long overdue. I have been going on and on about the philosophy of happiness and have been making my posts about it or in that theme but somehow failed to mention why is it important and why we need to be happy and positive. Maybe "need" is a strong word, and maybe not. It all depends on what you want, really. I guess you could say that everyone wants to be happy and I would agree with you if you told me that some 10 years ago. Now, I have to be honest and say that not everyone is so keen on happiness. Whenever you hear someone say "I can not be happy." it means "I do not want to be happy." This is a horrible horrible thing to say, I know, but the truth is not always pleasant. The fact remains, if you want to be happy, you will be. It really is, as simple as that. Or is it? I hope that you will get what I am saying by the end of this post and I will do my best to make it so.
There is no NEGATION
Your brain knows no negation. The Universe knows no negation. If you are a parent, you are probably familiar with this. When you say to your child "Do not do that." what does he do? Exactly that. This is not because he is a bad child but because his brain does not process the word not. The same goes for adults. If you were put in a room with a giant button and someone told you not to push it, all you would think about is pushing the button. The research in this area is vast and I encourage you to look it up, some of it is quite interesting. Have you ever heard that old saying that we always want what we can not have? This is because we respond to "have" instead of "not".
"Forbid us something, and that thing we desire."
Geoffrey Chaucer
Did you know that couples who are allowed to have sex with other people do it LESS than those who are not allowed? Whenever you try to ban something you are getting an opposite reaction than you expected. The only way we humans have learned to overcome this flaw is by using punishment. We punish our children and our lovers when they do something we told them not to. This triggers the cause and effect understanding so the only reason for not doing something is the fear of the consequences and being punished for our actions. The wish for it,
however, still remains and we are always tempted to do the things we are not supposed to.
STOP using "NO"
There is a big difference between positive statements and the negative ones. You can use the word stop instead or string a sentence together that will carry your message but with the use of different words.
I never say that I do not want war, I want peace, and when wanting to make a point I try not to even mention the thing I do not want, I focus and speak about those things that I do want. Avoid using "no" and "not".
Negation and negativity is all around us. Just look at the news. Have you heard anything positive lately? If you focus on what the media is feeding people you will think that we live in a terrible world. There is nothing but trouble here on Earth. Sick, dying, starving, raped, killed, traumatized, robbed, deceived and politics politics politics. Would you believe me if I say that this is actually the best time to be alive and the Earth, along with all that it has, is the best place to be? Beautiful and full of possibilities? Abundant in everything you desire? IT IS. We live in a time when information is accessible and technology has made it easier for us to live. You will not die when you get a cold, and you do not have to sneak around to learn how to read. Everything is accessible to you. You can travel from one place on Earth to another in a day. Do you know how long it would take you to make that trip some 100 years ago? Focus on the positive and speak about the positive.
Mind your attention
The title of this post is very important. Have you already come to a realization why that is? Everything is energy. Your body as well as your thoughts, and everything is made of tiny little particles that are always vibrating at a certain frequency. You are literally made out of stardust. The chair you are sitting on, your eyes that are reading this text, my thoughts that produced it and the screen that is showing them to you, all of it is made of electrons. Have I said that your thoughts are energy? I did? Let me say it one more time...
Your thoughts are energy.
Where your attention goes, energy follows, and by shouting about the things you do not like, you are giving them more exposure and power. Smile and the world will smile with you. Cry, and it will cry too. Which one of those things do you want? I know that synapses are tricky things and if you have programmed yourself to see the world in one way it will take some work to think differently. I hope my posts help and that you have already read some texts about the philosophy of happiness and got some advice in turning your life around. Start by smiling more often, everything else will follow. Smiles are your greatest weapon against negativity.
You are a DIVINE being
No one is writing your destiny except you. You are a divine being that has the power to control its life. You have all that it is necessary for it to be a supreme life. All that is needed is some determination and acceptance of the responsibility for yourself. Your parents, the media, your horoscope, God or the lines on your palm have nothing to do with it. Those are excuses. You are THE CREATOR of your own experience, you are the one who chooses and you are the one who is in control. Your thoughts and actions determine the reality that you live in. Make it a good one and have some fun along the way. You are strong enough, capable enough, brave, special and unique. You are divine. Where your attention goes, your energy flows.
KEEP YOUR SMILE ON!
P.S. Since I have officially been welcomed to @thealliance family I am sending some special amount of love to all my new brothers and sisters. Since this is my first post as a member of this family, I am dedicating it to all you lovely souls that are already a part of it. Keeping smiles on your faces will be my new and favourite mission here on steemit. I am here for you in whatever way I can be. I love you all. 💚💚💚
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we only create negativity , i daily do meditation to come up with negativity within me and from others , as currently people in the world are being jealous of your every work. , if we are positive our surrounding will also be positive..... ;-)
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You are right, we create our own negativity just as we create our positivity 💚
I love the messages in this post. People really do need to take charge of their own attitudes. Parenthetical note: I don't quite agree that if you want to be happy you will be, and that it is as simple as that. A lot of people have some serious sh*t go down in their lives and feel helpless, or suffer from chronic depression which cannot be fixed with a simple attitude adjustment. So I'm always sensitive to that.
That said, I see people go through life not hearing the negativity they spew out, and I just try to skirt around them and take a different path. I think we all should take responsibility for helping to make the world a better place, through actions and behavior.
It's easy to read the news and see what's going on in the world and think everything sucks. But to take charge of your attitude and spread sunshine instead is so powerful and contagious, and worth all the head-rearranging effort.
Sometimes negativity just becomes part of the subconcious mind and becomes the default behavior which requires effort to be mindful of and to alter....
So true!
Thank you for your lovely comment.
I need to make myself clear on this. I agree that you can not be happy immediately if you are depressed, that is too big of an emotional jump. It is simply IMPOSSIBLE. I know this because I was diagnosed with a severe depression, panic disorder and agoraphobia a couple of years back.Took some serious medication and daily self-work to pull myself out. The thing that I mean is if you want to be happy, you will be. Maybe not this second, but it is up to you to get there. It is not easy but it is doable, and if I managed to do it then anyone can. You can read all about my journey in these posts:
Personal journey to a land of mental disorders and back
Panic attacks - a heart-attack monsters
The most important thing that I have learned is that we are all beautiful and strong beings who have the ability to help ourselves be better. It is our responsibility. The moment we decide that we will be better and we will be happy is the moment everything starts to change. That is the moment we take control of our lives. To all the people that you know are suffering from depression, I wish all the love and strength in the world 💚💚💚 They are strong enough and they have all that it takes. Remind them of that. 💚💚💚
Thank you for that thoughtful addition to your post! I had a journey somewhat similar to yours, which is why I had a slight reservation to that one statement. I agree wholeheartedly that one must make the decision, start the journey, and take the steps, and the road can be long and hard but well worth it.
I think one of the most debilitating aspects of depression is that you feel alone. It's wonderful that you are a success story, and that you are out sharing what you went through to get back to mental health. Kudos! Hopefully your work can help more people feel less alone in their suffering, and more hopeful that change is possible.
Yeah, that feeling of being all alone in the world is scary familiar. You are surrounded by people, people who love you and want to take care of you and still you feel like you are alone and nobody knows what you are going through. I am so happy that feeling is gone! :) And I am happy that you are on the good side of the street after your journey 💚💚💚
My mother is huge on POSITIVE thinking and hates negativity. She would love this. ANd you do have a point.
Btw I love your gif at the end. It says ''hard work pays of''
Thank you honey, you are such a sweetheart 💚
You got me on the title already. As always you're fully right! I've talked about that theme with many of my friends a lot of time and as thoughts are energy you have to direct them to your goal if you want it achieve it. No matter how big or important it is.
Damn that's good! I'm glad seeing someone like you on the right track in life, noticing the most important things and giving right attention to those. You deserve everything on this platform and you'll achieve it very soon, believe me! You rock :D
Your positivity about this is amazing! Thank you for your lovely comment and your kind words 💚
Have you ever read that book The Secret? I did around 10 years ago, and it totally stayed with me since then. I notice after reading the book I will catch myself negating, and had to force myself to reword the sentence. Fast forward 10 years later and is something I do without thinking about it.
Anyway, I enjoy your blog. I hope someone reading the post will start enforcing the positive thinking.
Yeah, I have read that book and many others like it. There are some great people in this world who are doing an amazing work with this subject.
Thank you for stopping by 💚
I was just about to comment on The Secret, although I can't fully advocate it as it sort of comes across as fighting your inner feelings, possibly too much on the side of wishful thinking, maybe I'm not sure what I'm talking about...
I think your inner feelings are still in place, but the way they are converted into words or thoughts is where the feelings can get lost in translation without the proper conscious effort to express them right. But like you, I am also not sure I know what I'm talking about... (make sense in my head though )
yep, fair enough
Negativity is contagious. I'm trying not to be contagious, and to stay away from the people who are like that all the time. Great text! Pozdrav
Thanks micika, it is contagious, but so is positivity, let us all be contagious in that 💚
What a nice article once again.I find myself extremely calm whenever I read sth of yours.I think we share many same thoughts as I can see through your posts.Great work!
I am so happy to hear that my words bring you ease. Thank you for always being a loving support 💚
The "Big Truth" in this existence is that we are energy bodies having a physical experience. Your post is another illustration of how important it is to understand!
That really is the big truth and I am happy that you are aware of it 💚
Such a wonderful post, and welcome to the family!!! Thanks for the reminder on the word "no." As a mother, it's a tricky thing for sure! I know all of this, but reading it again strengthens that knowledge. Keep being you! :)
Mothers have it the hardest :) Keep using STOP instead of no. It is a positive statement and it does wonders hihi. Thank you for your welcome 💚
I am always positive in my outlook towards life but today I am very very pissed off... I agree with what you are saying, I have several posts in the same lines. But sometimes, things happen which are so beyond your control that all you can do is try to ignore them... but what if those things have severe impact on your freedom and future well being
It can get hard, I know but all you can do is try your best, you will see that it is good enough. Keep that smile on and fight the negativity with positivity. Negativity cannot be won with negativity. Eye for an eye leaves the whole world blind. 💚
yup... Mahatma Gandhi said that
I did not think that me quoting Gandhi to an Indian would go unnoticed :D