Having "I wish I could..., I could've done better" mentality is absolutely draining. A taste of failure in a relationship, career, school's presentation, job interview and the like, is always acceptable when we did try our very best in the first place than not giving our very best shot and ended up being remorseful for not trying hard enough.

It's more than common to think that more often than not, there's no repeat as to what life is giving or offering us. The way we act and decide on what is being laid on us needs our very best. We should humbly think that sometimes we are bound to fail but we have to think that there's a way of failing gracefully and not making ourselves suffer for the hurt or for the depression that failure has caused us.

This is where trying hard enough takes place...

For instance in a job interview, a mediocre applicant will never attract an employer as he is construed as a plain job seeker who lacks substance. In other words, he never embodies the skills that the company needs and he is somehow understood as someone who needs so much supervision, thus, he is surely not shortlisted.

So, when we come for an interview, we do nothing but show our very best. It can lead us miles and miles ahead. In case, we do not get the opportunity, we can never be so down and regretful for the result as we did nothing but the best. That's easy to let go and no thought of "I wish I could have done better."

As to relationship, we all know that love is either for a lifetime or momentarily. In case break up happens, at least we have shared our love more than enough. We gave our best in that relationship that surely made our partner and us over the moon somehow. We may regret for the loss but at the end of the day, we can confidently and guiltlessly say that it's all worth it since what needs to be done in a relationship had been passionately given.

Hence, we never dwell for a very long time on the failure of the relationship. The burden of letting go should never be heavy then.

In this life, failure is never a strange thing, never new, and surely a thing that visits us all - may it be in any forms.

There are lot in this world who can never accept it and become depressed or tormented. We have to see it as something that every now and then hits us. However, before it strikes, we surely have done our best effort in trying to win. If failure is really inevitable, at least we did give our best.

By then, we can avoid the harsh pain of remorse and the mental and emotional suffering by the thought of, I wish I could have done better.

This is my Week 12 of my Self-Improvement Challenge - Every Friday's Pause For Thought.

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~Month of MARCH

Week 11 click here BEING A RESPONSIBLE ADULT AND AGING GRACEFULLY
Week 10 click here IN LOVE? LADIES, DON'T BE BLINDED, SPOT THE ABUSIVE TREATMENT FROM YOUR PARTNER | CELEBRATING INTERNATIONAL WOMEN'S DAY
Week 9 click here JEALOUS? WHY NOT CELEBRATE OTHER PEOPLE'S SUCCESS?

~Month of FEBRUARY
Week 8 click here THEY'RE RACIST SO SHE SLAPPED THEM WITH MERCEDES BENZ
Week 7 click here DO NOT TAKE ALL THINGS PERSONALLY
Week 6 click here LIMITING BELIEFS ON THE LANGUAGE OF LOVE
Week 5 click here LISTEN, JUST LISTEN... THAT's ALL WE NEED

~Month of JANUARY
Week 4 click here SEIZE THE OPPORTUNITY, NOW!
Week 3 click here GRANNY, THE CRANBERRIES, AND DEATH
Week 2 click here DON'T LOOK BACK IN ANGER
Week 1 click here OF ADVERSITIES & FAITH
To check the background of this challenge click here PAUSE FOR THOUGHT