What you can't do doesn't mean others can’t do it too

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Recently, my friend complained to me: "why I worked hard every day, my colleagues don’t appreciate my hard work, even my family and friends don’t notice it?"

I said, you just think that you are working hard, others have no obligation to understand your efforts.

This reminds me of many people think that they are trying hard, they should be understood, others should see their effort, and then recognize this effort. But in fact, the world does not owe us anything; the world has no obligation to understand us.

In other words, what you can't do doesn't mean that others can't do it too.

Too many people live in their own narrow view, every day complaining that they are the most hardworking person in the world, why the world is always not responding to them?

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Don't be obsessive.

You don't want to be too obsessive. No matter how good you think you are, there is always someone out there that are better than you. When you feel that you're working hard, it's probably just self-righteous.

You force yourself to believe that what you can't do, how others can do it, but also think that the people around you, they can’t do it too.

Do not forget, in dark time, you can not see other people's hard work, and also can not see other people's growth, maybe one day someone had a sudden change, then you are surprised that others did what you can’t do.

In fact, this is just your point of view. Narrow the angle of view; you can only see your own efforts. Widen the angle of view, so that you can understand, what is the face of things, what others can do, and what you can also do.

You should not be too obsessive, because we should force ourselves to act continuously, not to be obsessive in our thinking.

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How is it possible?

One of the classic words that we hear from a person when seeing someone has a sudden: "How did he do that?"

Yes, how he did that? And why can’t you?

Because you can’t do it, so you will think that no one can do it.

For example, you can go back and observe the people around you and see if they will say, "I didn't learn anything, how can he learned something."

I find it difficult, and others should find it difficult too, which is what many people have in mind and even think that those who do it are all made-up stories.

But when they really see others done it, they will secretly sigh: how did he do that?

I think the reason for this is to prevent our pride to be hurt, so continue to self-deception.

I've seen too many people who like to force others to do things that other people don't like to do, even if others do better, and they will feel their ways is much better.

In fact, it is because they feel that others can do better in other ways. They think that no one can surpass them, and they are the best.

The most common is, through the circle of friends, if there is no one doing it, why should I do it.

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Do your own thing

The difference between people has pulled apart everyday bit by bit.

Do your own thing, keep doing it, improve it bit by bit.

Because the action is the action itself, perhaps in the experiment, perhaps in the adjustment of something, perhaps doing something others think that I can’t do.

Start trying and jump out from your self-righteous circle, and look at yourself and talk to yourself by changing your perspective. Changing the perspective, you can jump out of the circle, it is possible to start doing something.

Done a thing perfectly is not easy, you will need to satisfy with a lot of conditions, so, this is not a simple matter.

It is normal for others to be different from us, because of this, the world is so colorful. We should not always spend every day speculating on others, at least live every day in a full and interesting life.

Do a little more investigation, a little more research, do your best in everything.

Then, do not easily jump to conclusions, continue to collect information, constantly draw inferences, and constantly verify the inference.

Maybe someday, when you did it, people think you can't do it, but you have the results to prove that you did it.

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Keep practicing

Recently, I sigh with emotion; some people began to become optimistic, said that 2017 going to pass, let's start thinking what to do in 2018.

Is it the time to start making plans? Maybe, when you feel that there is no hope of completion, decisively gave up, who said this is not another good rational decision?

But next year November, have we done it, or we don't think we can do it?

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