BoldspiritRecommends: Dare to be like this older lady aka phones, social media vs reality [Through my eyes]

in #life2 years ago (edited)

I am sometimes wondering why am I such a weirdo. In times when smartphones allow us to record every minute of our lives, shouldn’t I be more grateful for that possibility?

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Would you believe if I told you that I had my first telephone after graduating from high-school, as a reward for passing my exams to a law school? Crazy, isn’t it? And believe me, I’m not that old (well, back then I would say that a lady in her thirties is, in fact, mature to say the least 😉). My mobile phone was a tool to...you wouldn’t guess... make phone calls and send/receive text messages! No smartphones, no internet, no applications.

Back then.

There was a time when mobile phone producers were putting their efforts to make their products smaller, and with a stronger battery. Those prerogatives have completely changed with the arrival of smartphones and their bigger and wider screens.

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When we were heading to a dinner or a party, we weren’t taking selfies or photos of our food. We were present, we were there in order to meet with people we genuinely like to spend our time with. And please don’t get me wrong, I am not saying that today this is not the case. I can’t stand when people are making generalizations. What I want to say is that it was different, more into the moment I would say. How many of us know people who are there smiling once the photo is being taken and then sit in a corner scrolling a phone. Or people who are having #timeofmyIife #tothefullest etc. when in fact this is only an illusion created to impress others.

What I genuinely detest about growing up without the presence of a “camera” is that I don’t have many photos. Simple as that. 😂 Not to mention that half of the photos that we possess are blurry and moved. Obviously, it would be fun to be able to laugh seeing those precious young crazy faces again from time to time.

Today?

You see my point, it is definitely a great thing to be able to record and make souvenirs of your everyday life. And smartphone is a great tool, becase it allows us to have a camera with us 24/7. But on the other hand... It can be superficial. The world of Instagram is full of photos of beautiful skinny girls. They rarely admit how much time it takes to take this one photo. Contrary to professional photoshoot it seems effortless and casually taken.

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And in my opinion, this is worse and more damaging for teenage girls/boys than the fashion industry. How can they understand that in vast majority those photos are taken by professional photographers or are photoshopped, that “models” that suppose to be “ordinary” girls next door are professionally prepared by make-up artists and hairdressers?
It is great to want to look good and healthy! But... It is not if you are portraying something that you are not and causing other people feel bad about themselves.

“For instance, if she has photos of food on her Insta, it means she enjoys food”. This is what one colleague told me recently before going on a date with a girl met on Tinder. It struck me because i am an absolute food lover and I rarely take photos of my food. I just enjoy it.


A witty advertisement about the idea of posting photos of food for “likes”. 😂

Becoming a blogger requires a lot of attention to everyday activities. I am still learning that instead of simply living the moment I should take photos, because, who knows, maybe I will be able to write a nice story based on them. But I am as genuine as I can be and I never used photoshop. I am still embarrassed taking selfies and I act clumsy in front of the camera.

A question to all of us - do we really need to be present more on social media than in real life? What are we teaching new generations?

Thank you for being here with me. I hope until next time!
Pura Vida and enjoy your journey! 💛

  • Some of my recommendations:

🍀 Just take it S L O W. Slow movement and travel.
🍀 Gustav Klimt. “All art is erotic.” (# 1) and # 2
🍀 TED – the amazing world of "ideas worth spreading".
🍀 A source of inspiration: Gertrude Bell – a female adventurer [#1] and # 2

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I sometimes wonder the same thing when I’m at some event and if I just want to enjoy being in the moment vs taking pictures or video. I do however like the photos or video afterwards because it is a captured memory I can relook back and show others the same experience.

Exactly! The only solution i guess is to have a private photographer, haha! ;)

Hi @k-a-s-i-a! This post really reflects the struggle I have sometimes between just enjoying the moment or thinking about ideas to blog. The video about food post from IKEA is so funny 🤣In the end, we have to take conscious decision to give a break sometimes - but I think it all depends what the motivation is, when we take a photo and being authentic to yourself! We should ask to ourselves - not only in virtual but in real life - What do I enjoy doing and what will bring me further in life rather then what is expected from others for me to do! Does it make sense?

haha, it does make sense :)

That mature lady looks much more content than the rest of them...

I take your point, we are really doing a lot of damage to the young people, pretending that the life on the screen is real.
When I think about it, my most precious moments in life aren't photographed or shared on any media, that way they are completely mine.

I like your point of view, thank you for passing by! :)

The best and most beautiful things in the world cannot be seen or even touched - they must be felt with the heart.

You're right.

Hello k-a-s-i-a!

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We all want to catch the present, with a painting, a photo, a video ... but what really catches it, in our memory, is the great joy or misfortune we feel at that moment ... everything else helps.

thanks for that!

A friend on facebook said this: "Social media turns out to be a sort of distraction, a temporary break from a taunting reality. One of the side effects is that we get too engrossed in the virtual experiences we enjoy, so much that we are lost in it, and it has become OUR reality."

I think I somewhat agree with him. On social media a lot of people turn out to be who they aren't and they do not always bother about the fakeness because they love the attention, and the wrong signals they send to others who look up to them.

This generation grew seeing, more than feeling, despite having all the tools, it seems that life is not lived.

Only buy something that you'd be perfectly happy to hold if the market shut down for 10 years.

I am a big fan of taking pets and food photos lol and this advertisement is so funny. I have to torture my friends that way as well :) We live in a crazy world that social media became even important than real life and relationships. We will be surprised of what will come next in the future :P

so nice to read your comment:)

Thank you! Enjoy your day :)

I think I am older as you are and I grew up with photos. Already at the age of 7 or 8 years old I had my first photocamera. For me the big change was the digital camera but I do not think it is better.. it is responding simply too slow. I regret I threw away my collection of camera's as I became ill. I still make nearly daily pictures. A modern smartphone I have since 3 years. I still have my simple samsung and my samsung duos (both to call with).

I would love to own a camera as a child... anyway thank you for sharing your little story:)

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