Marriage - Another Year
Tomorrow marks mine and my husband’s 17th wedding anniversary.
CRAZY!!! How has that much time passed? How do relationships even last this long? How do you really wrap your mind around so much time with the same person?
We met July 1, 1999 in the lobby of the Hotel Beacon in New York City. At the time I was leading 24 day cross county bus tours through the USA, Canada and a touch of Mexico. He was on his first overseas trip, having left his home in Australia to end up on my tour! We were both just 24.
Falling in love while traveling is a bit of a whirlwind. All of your firsts get remembered not only because they are your firsts, but also because they happened in different towns. 🔥 😉 Our first kiss was in Orlando, first dance Memphis, first movie date Dallas, he got me a bouquet of flowers in Gallup and dropped the “L-bomb” in Anaheim.
But, the tour eventually ended. He went home and I was back on the road. We spent the next three years dating long distance. I would fly to Australia, he would fly back here.
We got engaged June 26th, 2001 while visiting the Royal Botanic Gardens in Melbourne, Australia. It was just us on a red bench next to a pond. There were hundreds on giant fruit bats in the trees overhead!
My future husband came to the US for a month the December after our engagement. Then we didn’t see eachother again until AUGUST! In some ways it was a bit like entering our own arranged marriage. Looking back now, it is insane to me how little in person time we had from meeting until wedding.
Kids do the darnedest things! 😄
Wedding Day 👰🏻 🤵🏻
On our wedding day, we met at the chapel early for photos. One of my favorite parts of the day (besides getting married) was having all the people I loved in one place. Family, childhood friends, sorority sisters, people my parents had grown up with... it is a powerful thing to see your people all together.
Next came REAL life!
A lot goes down in 17 years. We’ve moved across the world (twice for me) and changed jobs innumerable times. We bought a house, went on lots of vacations and attended hundreds of concerts. We tried to have babies and ended up with fur babies. We made friends, let go of friends, fought, laughed, disliked one another, played like kids, gone to bed angry, been lazy about chores and have carried eachother through heartaches, sorrows and health issues. Through it all and despite some stuff, we are still trucking 17 years later.
So what is our secret?
No f-cking clue. 😄
If I had to give any advice, the secret to staying married is literally just choosing to stay married. Making this choice is easier if you avoid being a d*ck and your spouse does the same. Do whatever you can to stay friends. Your friendship will hopefully carry you through the rough. And most importantly, avoid choices that soothe today’s woes but will make bigger messes later on.
Every day is a work in progress. ☺️
There is a song by Death Cab for Cutie called I’ll Follow You into the Dark. It’s basically about a couple who have been together for many years, but they remain side by side as the light of their lives start to fade. The song is melancholy but also hauntingly beautiful.
I have posted about the song before here saying:
It is beautiful to witness another person’s life and to share in building their dreams. If you are able to get to the end with someone, to be there, looking back at your time together with a sense of satisfaction at a life well shared - you are lucky. I hope to be so lucky.😍
Here’s to the start of year 18!
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🎉HAPPY 17 YEAR ANNIVERSARY 🎊
I wish you The best in life and many more happy years ❤️ amazing pictures and Thank you for sharing your life and love with us.
You are amazing my sweet Sister 🤗😘❤️ much love
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Awww... I appriciate You to my sweet friend/Sister 🤗😘 and you are such an inspiration. Im Lucky to have you in my life ❤️ have a wonderful week and much love to You 🌹❤️💋
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I'm sure that if I were a softy and had any emotions, I would say something like "when you know, you just know" and "if it's meant to be, you'll make it work"....
Happy anniversary buddy, congratulations on 17yrs and here's to many more. Cheers 🍻🍺🥂🍷🥃
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Thanks for the “wel-sh” wishes! 🍻
Here is to 17 more years. beautiful.
Thank you. ☺️
Congratulations to you both and wishing you the best for the next 17 years and more :)Myself and Lulu just celebrated 17 years back in July so thats something we have in common, and also initially we were in along distance relationship also :)
Have we talked about this before? Did you come here initially to be with Lulu?
Yay for 17 and long distance love. 🎉 How funny that we share these things.
Have a groovy Monday!
I am not sure if we have, but no, Lulu was in Spain and me in Bosnia when we first met online and I went to Spain to meet here, and then after a few months she came and joined me in Bosnia Nd we moved together here for my job, and decided to get married and got married i City Hall in NYC
WONDERFUL !!!!
Ahhh thank you @ronaldoavelino! 🤗