YOU are YOU, that is TRUER than TRUE
Have you ever looked at a mirror and asked yourself a question "Who am I?" What part of me is here because I want it to be and what is here because I inherited it, learned it from my surroundings or am copying it from others without realizing. I had a busy week and have not been on steemit for a couple of days, a lot of things happened and a lot them challenged my zen and my philosophy of happiness. They survived, I am happy and kicking or at least I am trying to and that stands for something too. There will always be ups and downs and the only thing that matters is how we deal with them. It is easy to be happy when everything is going fine and dandy, it is easy to talk about positivity when you do not have any problems to face. Our mindset gets a run for its money when not everything is going as perfect as we would want it to go. My friend lost her husband, he died of a stroke and I helped her and her children move to a new house. My father went to an open heart surgery and is still in the hospital and to top it all off, my best friend just phoned me and informed me that her daughter age 15 tried to kill herself and is now in hospital. Hurray. Did someone say that some planet was in retrograde or something? Yeah, I love when that s*it gets in retrograde...
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Today YOU are YOU...
You could blame your parents, you could even blame the world we live in and the media that bombards you with all the negativity. Maybe your teachers were bad and your childhood friend who said that mean thing to you when he did and it scarred you for life. But you know what? Those are excuses, always have been and always will be. Yes, you can not control everything to the extent that you would want to and maybe some bad things did happen to you but you are the one who decides how much power is going to be in those things and how much will you hold in your hands. You are you. You are everything that is you. You are your thoughts and your actions, you are even your taking of responsibility for you and your life. I know it is easier to blame others. I know it is easier to resent and sit with your hands crossed saying how life is just not fair but what good does that bring you? Are you happy with that kind of mindset? Are you satisfied?
“Life isn't fair. It's true, and you still have to deal with it. Whining about it rarely levels the playing field, but learning to rise above it is the ultimate reward."
Harvey Mackay
If you are not satisfied with where you are, leave, you are not a tree. Get up and leave. If you are not satisfied with who you are, change. Yes, that is possible and highly probable but only if you decide it to be. When you are stuck in your old patterns of denial or even worse, acceptance of your flaws with no wish or will for change, you will remain like that. Do not whine. Either change your situation for better or keep it the way it is and shut up. Do not whine about it.
That is TRUER than TRUE...
I have my ups and downs when it comes to whiners. Sometimes I can deal with them better and listen to them for hours and sometimes I can not. Maybe my patience varies depending on the Moon phase, my menstrual cycle or it depends solely on the amount of caffeine and chocolate running through my systems. I am not certain which of it is, but it does not matter anyway. I have good days and bad days when it comes to dealing with people, just like everyone else. There was a time when stupidity was something that I could not deal with, it irritated me enormously but nowadays whining and weakness are my triggers.
You are only as weak as you decide to be!
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There lies a great strength and power in you, it is not even hidden. You can reach it whenever you want and use it. There is no big secret or conspiracy, you are capable enough to be all that you want to be. You have it in you. We all do. The question is, are you BRAVE enough to use it. It is easier to look at life instead of living it. It is easier to sit on your couch and whine instead of getting up and actually doing something but you CAN do it. It is all about you and your attitude. If you convince yourself that you are incapable and that you are unable to change your life then you will not change it. It is simple as that. It is ONLY up to you.
"Whether you think you can, or you think you can't--you're right.”
Henry Ford
There is NO ONE alive...
You will get scared sometimes, that is normal. We all get scared when facing change, those are just your stubborn synapses informing you that you are in a new situation. Unknown is always scary but that scary part is over as soon as it becomes known and stops being new and unfamiliar. Sometimes there is nothing to fear but the fear itself but Zig Ziglar explained the feeling of fear the best:
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F-E-A-R has two meanings:
No one can live your life for you and no one can make your decisions for you, not your parents, not your friends and definitely not the media. If you want your life to be different, live it differently. If you want your thoughts to change, think in a different way. If and when that does not work, change it again. This is trial and error type of thing and there is no guarantee that you will magically be a new person tomorrow. You will not. Life is about learning and personal growth, strive to be better, you already are perfect. You are perfect at this moment and for this moment because everything that you have experienced has led you here. You are perfect. That just does not have anything to do with your happiness. Your perfection is in your ability to be aware that you are not perfect when comparing yourself to others but by comparing your today you with your yesterday you.
Who is YOUER than YOU.
When I talk to people who are facing great challenges in their lives and dealing with big problems and see positivity in them, my heart expands and my faith in humanity is restored. Some of the people I know are experiencing some great troubles but they are still keeping their smiles on, they are showing strength, power and courage. I am proud of them and I am proud of you whenever you put a smile on your face. You are made of stardust kid, do you know that? Do you know that you are a divine being capable of amazing things and that you have it in you to be the best possible version of yourself you could be? You do. You do have all that it takes. Take responsibility, take control of your life and smile no matter what. See, hear, taste, touch, smell and feel the greatness of this world. There is still so much that you can do. You are the one who is setting the limits, no one else. You are good enough and you are capable enough. You are loved.
KEEP YOUR SMILE ON!
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For more of my "Philosophy of happiness" posts, please follow these links:
- Where attention GOES, energy FLOWS
- How to decipher your DREAMS
- Panic attacks - a heart-attack monsters
- Contrasting experiences lead to appreciation
- A TABOO topic, shhh...
- Why do you hate Mondays?
- Lucid dreaming - being aware that you are in a dream
- Mirror, mirror, on the wall...
- Personal journey to a land of mental disorders and back
- FAKE smiles are unhealthy
- What are the ROOTS of the embarrassment WEED?
- Why do we and how do we learn ANYTHING?
- How to train your brain to be positive
- Do you KNOW how to love and be loved?
- What is the philosophy of HAPPINESS?
- Are you carrying emotional WOUNDS or emotional SCARS?
- THE BRAIN talking about A BRAIN
- Science behind "THE CHANGE" and why are we so good at procrastination
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Amazing post!
Thank you honey 💚
Excelente post. Buenas recomendaciones, un abrazo. Éxitos.
Gracias querida 💚
Zao mi je sto se te stvari desavaju tvojim bliznjima...Mislim da za sve postoji razlog zasto se desava.. To te je navelo da ulozis svu ljubav i energiju i napises ovaj predivan post i podsjetis nas sto vecina mozda i zna, al zaboravi..
Iskerno, i mene nekad poremeti zivotna situacija da i ja u tim trenucima zaboravim ko sam i koliko mogu, ali se brzo vratim.. Vjerujem da, ako se brzo vratimo na onu visoku vibraciju, da nije lose, za pocetak, dok ne ojacamo i ostvarimo blagostanje bez ikakvih uslova.
Namaste Petra.
Ma što je najbolje totalno si u pravu, svi mi to jako dobro znamo ali je to negdje duboko u nama i brzo se zaboravi pa se treba često podsjećati 💚
Wowww. @zen-art quite an eye opener for many. Felt bad to hear of all the wrong done happening around you...frankly these are the phase of life...many things are happening around my life as well....the main thing is we need to keep head high and face life.....each new phase give you a new learning which helps in moving ahead....👍...also it us who will decide about our fate..with the strong decision at some peculiar time.....keep calm and be strong!
Yeah, we learn and grow with each day. 💚
Your post was exactly what I needed to read today. Thank you! It's true, when s*it gets in retrograde, everything is a mess. I am sorry to hear (read) about all the negative things happening on your end.
It will get better for those people, it always does. They are strong and positive and have a high enough vibration to always come out of everything stronger than before. Thank you for your kind words.
There are so many gold nuggets in here! This one stood out to me:
I used to accept the things that happened to me and wallowed in the feelings they created thinking I was powerless. But, I’m learning they only have as much power as I give them!
You are right, they do have as much power as you give them and I hope you will leave them completely powerless honey, you deserve to claim all the power for yourself 💚💚💚
Well said! This line: "If you are not satisfied with where you are, leave, you are not a tree" - that trips up so many people. We fear change at this very deep level, even if the familiar is misery!
That is because of our synapses and our genetics. Long long long time ago it was normal to fear the unknown and it stuck but the good news is, it can be beaten :)
Sorry to hear the misfortune to your close ones. Most people fear change, but we should embrace it, we change from the moment we are born, we change in our body we change in our mindset, and it has always been for the better, until a person decides comfort and security is the best for them. Although I am not judging, some people are fine with that and they are happy with having a secure job and same routine for 50 years, but for those of us who want more, inspire more, do more, be more, help more with no end, as no one can be done even if we lived for 10 000 years... for those.. face and embrace the change!
If a person is satisfied with his or hers life (no matter how it looks like) I am fine with them not changing because the most important thing is to be happy and enjoy life, the problem arises when someone is not happy but does not want to change anything :D Thank you for your lovely and thoughtful comment. 💚
It's the tough times that show us how strong we really are. Wish your father and friends' daughter speedy recovery.
#thealliance
Thank you honey 💚💚💚
There are no excuses, not to try to be best of YOU !
Nicely said, NO excuses! 💚