Slap yourself in the face and re-recognize yourself
This is an impetuous era, but also a period of anxiety, and also a complex era.
I hope everyone in this era can live in the clear, live to understand, to be sensible in this complex era.
Many times, in fact, we don’t really understand ourselves, don’t know what kind of person we are, or even do not know ourselves.
The reason why we feel confused, anxious, and so on, is mainly because of our lack of cognitive ability.
Success = cognitive x method x action.
From the above formula, cognitive is one of the key success that we should solve and improve first.
Therefore, to improve cognition, we must first have the ability to re-understand ourselves, only by having a clear understanding of ourselves, we can truly know ourselves, and know how others look at us.
Your brain is lying to you every minute.
We are accustomed to, like to see a more perfect self.
So, we might desperately trying to shape and outline ourselves to satisfy and please others.
For example, we will try to show more on our perfect side or want to get the high recognition and evaluation of others to show your ‘less you’ side.
But sometimes, this will make us have a self-understanding deviation, and even doubt the present living self.
Perhaps, this time you will encounter some embarrassing situation, or straight poke the pain of reality.
Like a proud beauty goes shopping to buy clothes, tried a lot of clothes.
Standing in front of the dressing mirror, instantly astonished by her own beauty, excited unceasingly, so bought several famous brand clothes.
But the sad thing is, when at the counter, found that she doesn’t have enough money, maybe she would blush, embarrassed, helpless…
Examines oneself, will let us use a slice thinking low latitude to appraise ourselves.
Therefore, we will often feel that our character is multi-type, the mood is diverse, behavioral variable type …
Everyone has a proven bias.
Proven bias, in simple terms, is the brain's stubborn, that is, in the brain prior to the formation of a preset (preconceived) in the implementation of the unintended deviation from the facts.
In fact, the essence is just the way the brain cheats. (Result of enhanced self-awareness)
There is a variety of ways in which the brain cheats, without scientific verification, we will be confused by the appearance of the matter, blinded by the truth, and "self-deception" absurd phenomenon.
If we can not truly recognize ourselves, we will always go from the real direction to create the so-called perfect another self.
Memory is not reliable
The "Iceberg theory" can be a more figurative metaphor for the relationship between subconscious and consciousness.
In other words, the power of the subconscious is far greater than the power of consciousness.
The memory of human, including some behavioral habits, is basically controlled by the subconscious mind.
So some things we will use inertial thinking to consider, like everyone's childhood memories are always impressive, unforgettable, you will not help to freeze at that good times.
A lot of times, some specific experience in the past, things, etc., has become gradually blurred.
However, our memory is in a dynamic trend, it will be with your growing, experience, and constantly filter transformation and renovation, resulting in new memories and stories.
Learning is endless, knowledge has no boundaries.
The treasure trove of our knowledge will always be a bucket, and no one can master the whole knowledge.
Moreover, knowledge will change and renovate dynamically as we perceive the world.
Because you are growing, and your horizons and patterns are constantly expanding.
So your cognitive power and your knowledge system will have a whole new expansion deep digging.
Pretend, from another level, it is divided into two categories: non-deliberate and deliberate.
The former is simple, pretend is the great flaw of self-cognition, because it is directly defined as does not understand but pretend to understand.
Being overly self-confident is also likely to be influenced and misled by others.
And the latter is a little bit better.
At least at the cognitive level is not a too big defect, because he knows that he does not understand, but this can be learned through the later learning and cultivation.
Know yourself
Many of us often come to know ourselves through other people's evaluations, which are too superficial and will give us a tendency to be overly confident.
In order to get better recognition and evaluation of others, and use these evaluations to reverse shape the brain to our own impression, and then to create an ideal seems perfect, but actually more unreal self.
To get rid of this behavior, you must first realize that you do not rely on "pretending" to enhance your true self-worth.
Because the more you pretend, the higher the probability to be awkward and embarrassing.
Opportunity and Luck
Opportunities are always reserved for those who are prepared, I really agree with this sentence.
But I don't think this sentence is entirely correct, need to add a precondition which is should dare to try and grasp.
Otherwise, when you are really ready, the opportunities are gone.
In our life, in fact, everywhere is an opportunity.
The reason why you will complain about your underappreciated, it can only say that there are many opportunities you can not grasp because you have not yet opened its condition.
Of course, if you have the conditions but miss the opportunity, it’s fine, because the future will certainly have a better opportunity.
When you learn to accumulate, keep making preparations, and go forward bravely.
You will have greater possibilities and probabilities to reach more opportunities.
Quantitation again through the combination of different conditions, overlapping each other, will be able to play its enormous power and open your life another piece of heaven and earth.
Know yourself, understand yourself, so that you will not sigh: Why I always underappreciated? Why the world is so big, but can not find my own foothold? Why do I understand the truth, but still have a bad life?”
I hope we can all be the truest and beautiful self, self-confident, strong, courageous, optimistic self.
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Understanding ourselves is not easy. But if we understand ourselves better, we will be happier. I am trying to be more in touch with myself and to try to fully accept myself for who I am.