There is a Greek philosopher named Epictetus who is credited with saying the following:

We have two ears and one mouth so that we can listen twice as much as we speak. _source

This quote reminded me of James, another ancient writer, who was inspired to write the following:

My dear brothers and sisters, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry (James 1:19 NIV)

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Be Quick To Listen

Here are some of my thoughts on listening:

• Engaged listening shows genuine care for others.
• Hearing and listening are not the same.
• Forming a response while "listening" is not authentic, engaged listening.
• Sometimes people just need to be heard. A response is not always required.

Be Slow To Speak

Here are some of my thoughts on speaking:

• Choose your words wisely.
• Don't interrupt someone who is speaking (even when you have the "right" to defend yourself).
• Momma said "if can't say something nice, then ...", but sometimes you need to deliver the truth. But always do so with love and kindness.
• Earn the right to speak into people's lives before exercising the "right" to speak.

Be Slow To Become Angry

Here are some of my thoughts about anger:

• The emotions you project as you speak are just as important as the words you proclaim.
• Anger impacts your voice inflections, tone, body language. Anger impacts your message.
• Anger is often a reasonable response to any given matter, but it is not also the best response.
• Never go to bed angry.

I want to hear from you!

Let's continue this conversation​ in the comment section.

1. Do you find it more difficult to speak or to listen?
2. What is the biggest obstacle to engaged listening?
3. How do you control your anger when communicating with others?
4. Do you have any advice to share in regards to listening, speaking, or controlling anger?

Thanks for stopping by!
@SumatraNate