SteemWomen Club Engagement Challenge Contest 1 | My Kids are My Heart, Meet My Eldest Child

When does a neat-freak makes peace with the following situations?

• the food crumbs on the floor
• oily handprints on the new sofa
• abstract sketches on the living room wall
• onions under the bed
• shoes on the bed
• trash carefully spread outside the bin

Answer:
When all these are the doings of his/her own product(read child).

We usually hear about how life changes after kids. I also heard stuff but never did I know the intensity of the matter.

I didn't know that life takes a 180° shift, kids become the axis of your presence, your thoughts, plans, routine, work everything molds according to those tiny beings.

I was a night owl, loved peaceful hours, liked everything organised and super clean..

Now I can't stay awake after 10pm on most days. I don't get peaceful hours, my house is constantly rumbling with shouting, crying, rhymes, my squeaky clean floors have muddy shoes prints most of the day, I have to step carefully in the room as Legos are planted on all the walking area.

These things used to raise my blood pressure and still do sometimes but I bear it all. Why?

Those tiny humans who create this mess have my heart. From the moment they came into my life, my life is just about them.

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About my kids

I have two boy kids, Muhammad turned 5 this January and Mahad will be 2 in coming August. Both are poles apart in nature and keep challenging my nerves on daily (read hourly) basis.

Where Muhammad is a calm, sensitive, peaceful, understanding and caring child, there Mahad is everything opposite. He's not even 2 and bosses around the house.

Initially Muhammad was over the moon to have a baby brother but now he wants to send his baby brother to the moon because baby wants everything to himself that Muhammad puts his hands on.

Despite all this clash of behaviour, Muhammad doesn't allow anyone to disturb his baby brother. He acts like a true big brother and defends him outside the home.

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I choose Muhammad as the subject for this contest.

Not because I love him more. I chose him because he's grown up and I can write more about him whereas Mahad is still a baby, doesn't even talk so I have less things to share about him.

Muhammad is the most caring child in the world. He's intelligent, curious and very sensitive. He's always been different from most kids of his age. Since babyhood, if I stopped him from something, he obeyed me.

He takes care of me when I am sick and asks his dad as well to take care of his mom.

He's just 5, but he has always been thoughtful. He makes sure to give a nice present and bake a cake for me on my Birthday. Though, usually he asks me to bake the cake. 😀

He loves making cards, so he tries to make one for me.

He makes sure that I take vitamins daily by handing me the glass of water and my supplement bottle.

There are numerous things he does, I don't know how much shall I write.

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Effects on my life

I try to recall the life before kids but I can't remember how it felt back then. It feels like both of them had always been in my life.

I was the laziest person back then and now I move around the house like a robot. I constantly worry about their meals. No matter, how sick I feel, I drag myself to the kitchen to make something for them.
I have never compromised on my sleep, now I have lost the count of sleepless nights I spent taking care of my sick kids, specially Muhammad. He's always been prone to viral and bacterial infections.

I graduated as a software engineer from one of the best university of Pakistan, I was a good developer but I left it all for the better upbringing of my kids. It's been years now that I put my career on hold and sometimes I feel like I don't even remember how to write a simple program because kids have made my brain an empty shell.

Still I don't have any regrets. These intial years of their lives will never come back and they need my undivided attention. I can pursue my career later on, when I will have more time on hand.

Yesterday, Muhammd got his result of final exams and has been promoted to next class. I wasn't active here a lot because I had been busy with him. He aced in every subject and his teacher was extremely happy about his performance throughout the year.

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Either I am on Steemit or spending time with my family. Muhammad noticed that I was spending too much time on laptop so for him I cut short some of my duties on Steemit and don't take any responsibility over the weekend. I spend time with him as much as he wants.

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There's so much more that I could write here but I think I should conclude the post and invite @pixie.dust, @wander.lust, @vvarishayy and @haidermehdi to this challenge.