Advice From A Reformed Hoarder Part II: Tackling Large Collections

in #declutter7 years ago

Today was another work on purging stuff so I can fit into a tiny house someday day. Did I toss bags and bags of things into the trash? No. Because I really am a reformed hoarder (see my first post about this here: https://steemit.com/downsizing/@phoenixwren/downsize-and-declutter-advice-from-a-reformed-hoarder ). So while I am not super fast at it, I AM really good at getting into the ring with my psychological demons and chipping away at it.

So today I tackled cassette tapes!

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Now before you check your flux capacitor to see what year it is, understand literal hoarding and that I'm 39, so yes, cassette tapes were a part of my childhood/coming of age, and I had a lot of them. At its height, my collection was pushing 500 tapes. A lot, a lot.

I do actually listen to them in my kitchen radio, but prior to starting this category of collection purge, many of them were scattered about and stuffed in boxes, so like many things when you are a hoarder, you HAVE things you LIKE but you can't really access them. And here is where the advice part comes in!

Step One: gather all items in a category together.

If you have to, start broad here. When I first began this process, I had "craft supplies" in approximately 5,879 places, so Step One was compiling them all in the hall closet. Any time I was clearing out a box or bag and found any kind of craft item, into the closet it went. I didn't worry about purging it (unless it was an easy toss for some reason), I just put it all in the same place.

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The hall closet (Tetris'd with NOT craft supplies in this photo)

Step two: divide into sub-categories.

For craft supplies, that could be yarn, scrapbooking, fabric, notions, paint, canvas ...etc. For media (another huge category for me), movies (VHS and DVDs were stored together for me), cassettes, CDs, records, books. You get the idea.

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part of the movie purge

Step three: Start purging one category at a time.

First I took ALL the movies down off the cube tower o' movies. It used to be full all the way to the ceiling.


Yuan takes out the top stack at 1:43

I pulled a bunch out that I wasn't interested in/likely to watch again. Some of them I had fond memories of, but I was a TMNT nerd when I was 14, not 34; I wasn't going to watch those cartoons anymore. I threw a whole big paper bag full of VHS that was just stuff I had recorded off the TV right in the trash. Then I listed the whole list of VHS and DVDs on Facebook that I was giving away and asked friends if they wanted them. I gave the whole Friends series to a friend who loved them, as well as a boxfull of others. I mailed two boxes to a friend with kids. I gave my Smallville seasons to my aunt who had borrowed them from me years before. What was left, I put in the bag in the above photo, posted on NextDoor, and left on the porch of my apartment building for two days with a note that said "free." After two days, I had a half dozen left and put them in Little Free Libraries, where they were taken in a week or two.

CDs, I took all the myriad stacks of and fit into two binders. Records, I began selling online (still have some left). I haven't had a working record player since that wore out and got purged, but I hung onto the records for years after.

Cassettes though, I didn't start tackling until recently.

It's a slow process doing it in a way that my anxiety doesn't murder me for, but it works, and breaking it down helps.

Step four: find good homes.

I got into this idea with the movie purge story above, but I totally get it when the thought is, "this is perfectly good stuff that someone will enjoy!"

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books that got delivered to Little Free Libraries

Again, if it doesn't stress you to just haul everything to an ARC donation bin and go, godspeed with your Buddhist detachment self. But if, like me, that makes it harder, you can take the time to list things on NextDoor or Freecycle (have given away things on both) or get to know all the LFLs in your neighborhood or go to a clothes swap with the intention of giving away a whole cartload and only coming home with three items (did that twice). Once you have whittled down the giveaway pile and don't know what to do with the rest, THAT can go to the ARC bin.

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It was so weird to me to give away jeans, because jeans get worn out. But I shrunk six sizes, so I wasn't wearing these anymore. I found a lady who collects for a clothing bank and jeans are always in demand, so off they went to new homes!

So after two bouts of Cassette Tapes Round One purging, I tossed a whole bag of tapes and broken cases in the trash the first bout, then today a small pile of broken cases went in the trash and 30 more tapes stashed in a bag for a local artist who put out a request for them on NextDoor, awaiting their response. All my tapes are now neat and organized, and I can listen to old favorites again! Maybe tomorrow I'll wash the dishes (you do not want to see a photo of what my kitchen counter looks like right now). 😅

Are you struggling to overcome your hoarder or packrat ways? Or have you always been minimalist and find it easy to let go? I promise, if you're like me, it does start to feel good eventually! I've been working on this for years, and now I like it!

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i've had some 'collections' over the years but have really wanted to trim things away. i heard about the konmari method summer before last, and listened to the audiobook "the life changing magic of tidying up" - the big thing she focuses on, aside from keeping things neat and clean, is keeping things that SPARK JOY in your life. it's a beautiful concept, and it resonated with me something fierce.

in moving recently, i had a really easy time of it, because so many knick-knacks were already gone. granted, i probably moved about 300 books ... but those all bring me joy!

I'm familiar with the basic idea of the Konmari method but I haven't read the book yet. :) I too have a big book collection, which I used to think I could never pare down, but I actually have done so probably 25%!

super awesome, congrats on that paring down! high fives

If you can sell any of the stuff that you don't actually use, you might make some good money and get that much closer to your goal of buying a tiny house! Yay!!

I have done with some things, like records and recently my Super Nintendo and all its games. But the movies were unlikely to earn me money, though now that I am selling on ebay I probably could have gotten a couple bucks for many of them! At the time I looked at buy back places and selling used to Amazon, and it was like, "we'll give you 20¢ for that season on DVD that costs $20+." I said, fuck it, and just gave them away. 😉

Yeah, sometimes Half Price Books will give you better money for tapes, vids and DVDs than anywhere else. Not sure it that is a local place or not. Glad that you are getting something for the stuff!

Oh, yeah, we don't have them here. Friends in Texas talk about them and make me jealous, though. LOL

Wow! Good progress!! Don't even get me started with dishes. Been trying to heal that and laundry issues....for years. I hear they are both real patient!! And, your Yuan. What a nutbar! I'm sure the distaster worked itself out....kitties have a way of keeping you on your toes 😂 i had a kitty named 'brother' that looked a lot like your Yuan ❤

Thankfully, the Universe is patient with me, as well! If not, I'd be in trouble!
Yuan does keep me on my toes! He and Maggie teach me so much. 💚💜
And they help me purge as well. Like that time I call the Symphony of Destruction.
I, silly human that I am, had pulled the printer out at an angle to reach the plugs in the back. It was on a six foot high shelf. Yuan jumped on it, taking out it, the floor lamp, and the Himalayan salt rock lamp all at once.
Halping! 😂

Well you are not alone my dear. I too have always had an tendency to keep things that carry fond memories, that I like or that I may some day have a use for. I also have huge anxiety issues with all of the waste in the world and have a really hard time throwing things away.
I really appreciate reading about your ambitious downsizing. I am trying to do that as well. There is nothing that makes me happier than finding happy homes for the stuff that I'm ready to part with.
Unfortunately I am a hunter gatherer treasure finder at heart and it's a constant effort to battle those urges.
My craft hoard is my next mountain to climb and will be thinking of your accomplishments when I take it on.
Thanks so much for the positive good advice post.

Lots of good luck in your efforts! I feel you on the environmental consciousness being part of it, too. You got this!

Well I have an equally long story if not longer but I will keep it short. Been there, seen it, done it. Still have a ton of things but living in a smaller place now and still purging. I still have way too many clothes but I stopped shopping. What I have done at this point works for now, however sadly I now have to go and clean out my mothers 3,000 sq ft home full of so so so much stuff. I feel like I am drowning. Yikes. Good for you though...Be Proud

Oh man, that's hard to deal with! Good luck with your mom's place. Have you heard of "Swedish Death Cleaning"? The premise is basically, clean with the idea of not wanting to leave behind gobs of stuff for others to deal with if you pass away. You do this t any age. I kind of think of that, too now. "My mom would be so mad if she had to deal with my hoarding of stuff."

Yes I have heard of it. I have the opposite thought now, as I realized several years ago that I was following in their footsteps. So I have become the queen of purging. Now I am trying hard not to be angry, bitter etc at the hordes of things that have been left for me to deal with. Trying to be kind, helpful,considerate all the while thinking to myself WTF were you thinking with all this stuff.

Congrats on your journey! And sorry for the hardship. Maybe you had to take your own journey first to be able to deal with this?

Thank you and yes, that is true..as this is huge and thank you for your support

Great advice!

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