You care too much because you are too free

Do you care what other people think of you? That's a good thing!

Because you want to leave a good impression, so that others can like you, appreciate you, in order to get more attention.

If a person lives in this society, completely does not mind other people's opinion, that can be a very dangerous problem.

When you are too concerned about other people's views, you will consume a certain amount of energy, and live tiredly.

You always want everyone to say hello to you, but it is not an easy thing. Sometimes unconsciously, your words or one thing will offend a person.

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When others say you are not good enough, please do not be sad, first reflect yourself where did you messed up, if it is true that it’s your fault, silently make the correction, meet the needs of others as close as possible, let others stop saying you are not good enough.

If you want to shut someone's mouth and stop them from saying you're not good enough, then you have to find a good reason to distinguish between right and wrong, but I don’t advice to do that.

Some people secretly say you are not good enough, in fact, he is fragile, indicating that he still cares about you.
A person who really does not care about other people's opinions will not be disturbed by the evaluation of others.

When someone says you are bad, you have to find ways to correct others. This feels a bit like Napoleon, to conquer the world by force, as long as there is one person who thinks you are not good enough, you will not be reconciled until others agree with you, I think this method must not be considered.

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In fact, too concerned how others look at you is narcissistic. Everyone has this narcissistic, but some people show it out and some people hidden in the heart.

In the world around you, no matter how many 100 you have done, there will be 20% people like you, 20% people hate you, 60% people don’t even care about you, this is the 226 law.

You can work hard for a person, of course, you can conquer the person's opinion on you, but there are many people may hate you more, because in their eyes, you are not the same anymore, they will say you have changed.

The more successful you become, there will be more people hated you. Of course, someone around you will like you, but also in the pursuit of this success, you will ignore some people around you.These people may be your closest friends, and your neglect will make them say you are not good enough.

In fact, these people are also narcissists, and they also care about what you think of them.

There is a desire for conquest in every heart. When a person conquered another person, he will put the person aside, and then conquer the next person. This is the nature of man, in other words, we all want people to respect us, do not want others to be despise us.

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A person will not be too nice to people close to them, only to those who think they are bad, and spend more time on them because they want to get their approval and recognized by them .
Human nature is so cheap; sometimes this cheap makes people distressed.

You are concerned about other people's views, in fact, these people are in your heart, you are afraid of these people will not satisfied with you, so all you can do is do your best to satisfy them.
When other feel comfortable, your heart will be steadfast.

Sometimes blaming and controlling others may seem powerful, but it is still a weakness and a humble one because you put other people's opinions in a more important position than yourself.

The more you care about others, the more energy you focus on others, your starting point is not about how you feel, but how others feel and views about you.

You will not take care of yourself first, but take care of others first, make others feel that you are good enough.

The more people in a person's heart, the less position for himself/herself, they slowly become unimportant.

You are concerned about how other people see you, in fact, it is a way to get in a relationship, in the desire for this relationship at the same time, if you work hard, others will like you.

Once you end this kind of hard work, your good is over, they started to leave you slowly, alienated you, and say all kinds of bad about you.

If you want to maintain that good, it will take some energy and time to correct their perception of you in order to maintain the possibility of your relationship.

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Sometimes, even if you want to please them again, ask them why you are not good enough, but at the moment you give the effort, you may not get their satisfaction.

Don't put two person's relationship responsibility on yourself. This is very tired and unfair for a person to carry alone.
If your performance is not bad, the other side can leave at any time, ignore, don’t have to detain, because there is no leisure time to entwine but pay attention to your words and how you says.

When you are doing good but they say you are not good enough, it means that in front of such people, we can’t gain self-esteem, even if you are bad, I believe in their hearts, they still like you.

If you still care about what others think of you, it means you have nothing to do now, you must be too free!

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