Why do we like to blame the people around us?

If you can go back to 10 years ago, what do you want to say to yourself?

I read a story about a girl:

Ten years ago, she was still in school, the class organized a parent meeting, the girl's grandmother came to school for her parents, but the elderly grandmother grew up in rural areas, usually doesn't go out socializing. At most will only talk to the neighbors about family chores and only speak dialect.

When her grandma came to school, she repeatedly asks about the performance of the girl with dialect, but the teacher can not understand, can only smile.

When the teacher did not respond, grandma asked anxiously repeatedly with her dialect. When the girl saw her grandma, she feels ashamed, the students around were looking at them, and she wanted her grandma to stop questioning and urging her grandma to go home.

The girl pulled her grandmother's sleeve and said, "Well, don't embarrass yourself here, go home!"
Grandma feels helpless, only can follow the girl home.

From that day onwards, her grandma did not attend any of the girl's parents meeting; even the school informed her parents to the meeting, they were far away from home so they can’t attend.

Ten years later, when she recalled this incident, she regretted that she had hurt her dearest grandmother’s feeling, and she said if she helped her grandma to translate, her grandma would not be embarrassed in the crowd.

She thought if she can go back, she will hug her grandmother and said, "Grandma, I love you! It doesn't matter if the teacher doesn't understand, I will help you to translate.”

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Yes, we are always inevitably hurting the closest people around us, take their love for us as a burden, and say the most hurtful words to them. Perhaps because we feel a complete sense of security in love, even if we hurt them, we believe that they will not leave us.

Have you ever said something nasty to your parents, your partner, your close friend, and be extremely polite to strangers?

I believe that perhaps we have had a similar experience, when we have a bad mood, we will treat them badly, release your anger towards them, but why does this happen?

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Why do we always blame the people close to us?

It is understood that no matter what goes wrong in life, most people's first reaction is to blame the people around us, the most childish part of our hearts, convinced that they could afford more.

It is also impossible to be angry with those who really hurt us, and vice versa, we get angry with the people around us because we believe that they will tolerate and forgive us.

We are accustomed to being angry at the kindest, the most compassionate, the most heartfelt people around us, those who do not hurt us and never leave us.

We tend to be polite to strangers, even if they are offended, we will not blame them, but only in front of the people we really trust, we will act completely unreasonable or treat them badly.

That's because it's easy for us to get into the private realm of unreserved venting, and not everyone can step in.

But this is not a good place for us to vent our emotions, the closest people tend to care about what we say and do, rather than vent our negative feelings on people close to us, it is better to find a proper vent for ourselves. People close to us should not be our emotional garbage cans, we should not unleash our ego in front of love one.

The older we get, gradually will know to keep some distance with people, no longer guard against people.
Often reflect on our shortcomings, indeed, since it is mortal, not a perfect body, itself has many flaws, even if you can’t see it, it will still hurt.

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