Child Sexual Abuse - The @kida Revelations of 'Inside' as 'Out' and 'Upside', 'Down'!
The sexual abuse and exploitation of children is widespread – it is global and traverses all social classes and groupings. Statistics lead NAASCA (National Association of Adult Survivors of Child Abuse) to state “it's conservatively believed that in today's society 1 in 4 girls and 1 in 6 boys WILL BE sexually molested before they are 18 years old”. These are figures for the US – globally it is hard to imagine them being any less, indeed these are conservative figures and the true picture is likely to be very much higher. The impact of even a seemingly 'small' incident like a grope or a 'misplaced' hand or finger, can utterly shatter a child's world – for example coming from a parent or teacher, corrupting and confusing the child's sense of 'trust' and 'love' before they have had a chance to develop. The child is hopelessly unable to articulate or emotionally process what is going on. The experience remains an unacknowledged and shameful secret, the wound festers.
The effects of CSA (Child Sexual Abuse) are far reaching and often manifest as dis-ease of the mind and/or body as the victim goes through life. The child victim of abuse oftentimes may grow into an adult abuser as the cycle spirals on. Memories and experiences of abuse can be very difficult to access and heal from as they have so many layers of protection and concealment in the psychological makeup of the abused person. Untangling the mess is a painful and very difficult process. For the most part, victims of CSA live with acute effects of the trauma throughout life and may at best receive some partial help, some little sympathy. They may be told to 'get over it' or that 'it happened a long time ago' – these are statements of a world that does not wish to acknowledge the phenomena, or else considers it to be someone else's problem. Tragically, many survivors of CSA turn on themselves. There is constant and merciless background radiation.
What is it about the phenomenon of (ab)using a child in a sexual manner? It seems to be less about pure lust and more to do with Power and Control. It is certainly not mutual (although abused children may over time and with repeated abuse, develop some feelings of pleasure and may even initiate in a twisted attempt to please or receive some attention - this confuses the picture even more!). The child is weak, vulnerable and may not have their emotional needs fulfilled (attention, love, acknowledgement etc) in their primary environment (which may also double up as the abusive environment). Such children are easily manipulated into situations where they can be exploited – they are needy, and an adult can easily 'fake' the appearance (promises) of meeting their needs. Their 'childlike' innocence is exploited, the energy of youth is stolen (or systematically extracted).
90% of child sexual abuse victims know the perpetrator and 68% are abused by family members. The perpetrator may be an opportunist who feels their own life to be out of control and seeks gratification from an easy target. The perpetrator may themselves have been sexually abused as a child and have a deep sense of 'normalcy' about doing to another what was done to them. I am not trying to dissect the phenomenon of CSA, just to introduce the subject and lead in to the point of this post.
Most mainstream reports of CSA revolve around institutions (schools, religious institutions, orphanages, 'care' homes etc). The BBC Jimmy Saville scandal blew the lid off something that had been going on for a long time, and something that many people in high places were aware of but did nothing about. It indicates the likelyhood of something much BIGGER, something systemic rather than just institutional - the submerged 90% of the iceberg with powerful vested interests and long tentacles! It points to the possibility of a widespread and organised harvesting of children. It points to complicity at the highest level imaginable! Although sexual 'gratification' may seem to be the primary driver here, it would appear that there is a lot more going on in the dark waters where the submerged iceberg resides. This is the leap - from the perception of CSA being a 'freak' and relatively isolated phenomenon, to seeing it as something potentially far more widespread and organised than the mainstream picture suggests. If this concept is new to you, or comes across as far-fetched bullshit, you may be at a crossroad of perception, where old beliefs of how the world is organised get a nice little kick up the arse! One is free to look away too of course - such has been the collective human response to the phenomenon in the past - we just haven't had access to information, and to sources - but consciousness and awareness is lifting, as are the veils and masks of concealment.
When a child is sexually abused, childhood ends abruptly, their universe irrevocably and traumatically shattered - it is an ALMIGHTY attack. The under-developed mind cannot cope with what is happening and this is where compartmentalisation and splitting take place. The experience is too intense, there are no tools to process what is going on, no guidance. Behavioural changes may not be picked up by an uncaring world, or else blame for this placed on the victim without investigation - no support! Denial and inner burial take place; being is shut up and locked away in some remote corner where it is safe and 'protected'. The 'real' self isolated, a multitude of 'fake' selves the replacement. Life-force, the pristine energy of youth has been extracted, leaving behind a shell. To grow up with this deep inner rift, to become cognisant of it and to try and heal it, is an IMMENSE undertaking. To do this, to be able to articulate one's experiences, as well as the process of 'waking up' and healing, with the intention of helping others... well this is what @kida has been writing about!
I first came across @kida in a post by @cmoljoe, who was concerned that kida might have left Steemit as a result of being discouraged by a lack of support. Happily, kida is back after an absence of almost 4 months, and his/her story now continues to be told: "I had to take a break to work on a project and process some more memories. I plan to continue writing more over the summer." This post is also a celebration of kida's return to steemit 🔆 🔆 🔆 .
In his/her introductory post, entitled Hello, I am a survivor of ritual abuse and I'm here to expose their systems, @kida writes:
When I was a kid, I was taken to a house by a lake in the UK where children were abused in an organized, ritualized process. I have joined Steemit to talk about how these networks of abusers exist within the context of an abusive society, and to describe and deconstruct their methods of torture, coercion and psychological conditioning.
I hope my account can be used by others to piece together their own stories and share information on the systems used by our abusers.
I want to talk about how networks of abusers in the UK specifically pick out children who are non-conformist and target them for the most aggressive torture. I will describe how this process is used to maintain power systems and hierarchical control by splitting the psyche into fractured compartments. I will also look at how this associative-conditioning is used to destroy children's ability to make changes in our corrupt societies. And how this is directly tied to our political and judicial institutions.
In short, I will recount what is going on here in early 21st Century Earth.
There has been a lot of recent interest in the Steemniverse regarding @fulltimegeek's quest to raise awareness about #donaldmarshall and what he has to say about the dark and hidden agendas of the 'ruling elite'. Amongst others, sexual abuse and torture is used as a deliberate and systematic means of splitting and mind-control. Here's a post by @shayne titled An Introduction To MKUltra: What We DO Know. What kida is exposing seems to be contiguous with all of this and I have added the tag #donaldmarshall to this post.
I invite and encourage you to see for yourselves, starting with kida's intro post. The revelations (same with the #donaldmarshall ones) may appear incredible, but if we consider how many lies we have been told, it is actually a lot less so. When the lie gets to be BIG enough, it can remain concealed in broad daylight. However, IMO, times are changing - awareness is spreading and consciousness is being raised.
I salute brave voices like @kida with great admiration and respect. Kida expresses not just the first-hand experience of the trauma, but also presents a living example of how the self/being/consciousness can rise above such intensity of suffering and shine as a model for others! Kida states that he/she has experience/training in the psychotherapeutic process, this comes across very clearly in the presentation, and is a factor of how powerful his/her material is.
Thanks for reading
Namaste!
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Thank you for writing this, @barge.
I am still going through the healing process. It was hard enough to wake up from the abuse, but now I see the consequences of it all around me: In our societies, our politics, our collapsing ecosystem.
I used to think enlightenment was a bliss state. Now I see that true enlightenment is very difficult: To be awake in this world is to see almost too much.
I hope change comes soon.
I support you fully @kida, as do many here. The voices of those who have suffered are beginning to be heard. Through sharing your story, you release some of the binds, you free yourself in proportion, you break spells. I suspect healing is a life-long process. 'Enlightenment' may perhaps be no more than a moment-to-moment state, and as such, achievable by the individual in the very instant of experiencing even a flutter of true lightness and freedom (perhaps it is simple and no more than expanding that flutter). To wake up to one's own pain is also to see the magnitude of suppressed pain in the world around (the opposite is true, and seems to be the condition of much of humanity - ie asleep to own pain, blind/indifferent to pain of others). To wake up is the first step to understanding and healing - this here is your own highly individual journey! When you look at the slimy rotten carcass of experience such as what you were subjected to, it is not easy to discover a world where this is not the norm. Yet what has been experienced is not natural, and there is a free-flowing natural world that awaits. IMO, your own healing, your own unraveling and understanding and release of the energies that bind will have a corresponding effect on lifting the cloud that perceives darkness in most corners of life - overlooked chinks of light will begin to come into perception. When you change, the world changes. Your own power to heal and help others is a function of your own self-healing. It is by NO means ALL negative @kida. The worst is over! You are a survivor! You can thrive! It is not at all easy. You can reclaim who you are. The abuse/abusers are not more powerful than you, not now! You have great courage!
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It's only my opinion, but I have thought to myself before, "I think @barge is an enlightened soul." I really believe you are. You have a rare ability to make people feel good with the way you convey your thoughts in text. I don't believe this is an easy task to achieve. Although it requires a high level of intellect, it also takes something more.. A something that you possess. I think anyone would agree that you are empathetic, but more importantly, you actually utilize your empathy to help others by talking with them, and letting them know that you care and support them. I commend you for this.
I find your support here to @kida very touching and uplifting. What you did with your post rewards for this left me speechless. You're a very kind man, and someone I'm honored to call a friend.
Much love,
@futuremind
Thank you very much my friend, your words were an utter delight to wake up to and totally made my day
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Thank you for bringing this to our attention. I just learned about kida and the #donaldmarshall tag through you.
This is just sick. I read kida's intro post and I was trying to read the most recent one about being spun after the abuse and I can't help but cry. I hope kida gets more support from the Steem community because this has to be heard by the world.
This is true, the world has ignored them too long. Even the overused statement 'time heals' is just not right. Something has to be done for their healing and not just let it pass with time.
It is heart-breaking!
We can send the energy of healing (feel it for and within ourselves, and share it with the 'other'). We can raise awareness as we feel moved and inspired to. These are powerful actions IMO!
Thanks so much @wanderlass 🔆 🔆 🔆
I have sent this link to people I know and also dropped it to the communities I'm part of. :)
Stellar article. Sad and infuriating, but unfortunately necessary. Thank you for sharing.
Resteeming for visibility.
Thank you very much @arbitrarykitten 🔆🔆🔆
I am going to resteem this, as it's as important as our attention to prevent it. Thank you.
Many thanks @azension, it is much appreciated!
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I'd definitely go with "conservative". This is just the tip of the iceberg. In fact I think 3 in 4 its more accurate for girls knowing what I know amongst friends. I can't comment on boys though.
This could mean half to two-thirds of the world's population (or more) will likely have had unwanted sexual attacks before the age of 18. Often patterns are repeated, and of course the pain of the initial trauma doesn't stop when the physical act stops - it spirals and augments through life. Such heaviness, such sadness.
I think the figures for men are also much higher than 1 in 6. It's a detail that may not be shared amongst friends, and the whole male positioning on sex is very confusing for boys. There may be pressure to turn 'victimhood' into a 'conquest', but more likely it remains buried in shame and silence. There may be confusion about feeling 'pleasure' from the abuse (which means it is difficult to acknowledge it as abuse).....no outlet, just anger and rage...anger and rage...and an infinity of 'acting out' expressions of unprocessed trauma!
OMG!I never knew all about these.It's really heartbreaking to learn all of this awful statistics.However,good to know than to be ignorant .Great job @barge.Thank you for sharing.
This is really so heartbreaking. I think of my own children and try to imagine...it is just too much. Thank you for sharing this and bringing this to our attention. I read kida's posts and cried. They are just little children! Really so sad! Thank you for creating more awareness.
@barge Thanks for the support! @kida really deserve it! Every @kida post will have my resteem for sure...
And many thanks to you @cmoljoe, it was your post that originally brought @kida's writings to my attention!
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@barge, a very sensitive and important post..now a days, the child abuse is increasing at alarming rate...In India too every other day we get to hear something horror story. and this week my subeject for #innervoice contest is on the same line. Would appreciate if you can open your heart on the subject.
Hi @steemflow, thank you for your comment and your appreciation. I also think that the phenomenon of Child Sexual Abuse is widespread in India - what the mainstream media reports is very little, and is biased towards sensationalism and drama. There is the heavy, everyday aspect which is not dramatic, and so close to home that it remains a secret that nobody wants to break. I think awareness is being raised on CSA, rape and 'eve-teasing', but this is a slow process and there are overt and covert interests in Indian society that deeply resist. It touches the elite in their walled-in mansions and the exposed railway track slum-dwellers, and the multitudes in between.
Thank you for inviting me along to your contest. I have carefully considered it and will respectfully decline on the following grounds:
Thanks for stopping by. Best wishes!
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Appreciate your decision @barge no one is forced to join the contest👍....and thanks for going through it...👌 steem on !
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