Children Don't Listen to Us; They Observe Us ๐๐
I have always observed how small children pick up on imitating their parents; whether it is good or bad. It is beyond their capacity to understand all of that and differentiate. They only look at their parents and try to copy and be them. Hence it is so much important to create the very right atmosphere for them.
Parenthood I believe is the toughest job of all. Every single moment you need to be on your toes as to what you are doing, speaking, acting in front of your child, because our Children learn exactly what they see us doing. As it is so rightly said "Action speaks louder than Words". If they see their parents all the time on mobile phones which is so much of a fashion then they would want to do the same, if they see parents behaving rudely with their elders or if their parents throwing around their weight and tantrums, they would observe all of this and learn to do similar actions.
One of my friend's son who is still a toddler just a year and a half I see him imitating almost everything that we do, and that would also go to an extent that if he would watch anything on Television he would try to do the same things. And I realize it is so important that we are mindful about not only about our own behaviors at home but also what other things that takes their attention.
Creating the right atmosphere for Children
The most important thing for a Parent is to create a Loving, peaceful atmosphere at home. If there is an atmosphere of fear, anger, fights at home it will impact the child. The Child is going to pick that up and learn that and it will become a part of his or her character. A lot of childhood blocks can go lifelong with children hampering their lives when they grow up. Children can turn out to be criminals if the right atmosphere is not set at home. Abusive parents cant be devastating for children. I have also seen parents who may not do any wrong actions in front of children like fighting in front of them but they show a behavior of indifference with their partners in front of children, even such behavior can impact children. Parents need to ensure that all their arguments, differences at home should be resolved when their children are not around, but when Children are at home there should be peace, love and harmony.
Parents self-assessment
It's very important as a parent to keep reflecting on your own behavior as to see; are they doing the right things in front of their child. The way they talk. behave, their habits in their presence is something that a parent needs to be very mindful about. It is ok to sit and confront with yourself in those little reflective moments about what is not right with them. No one is perfect, everyone has their weak side but the best is to confront, work on it and not let it impact the children.
Understanding Children and their wants
We as parents sometimes feel that we know what's best for our child and we want to do all of that for them, but then there are times when our children want to have an other way around. It is equally important to understand what is it that they desire for and what are their wants. All children are different and all of them have different ways and means to approach them, understanding their limits, their capacities and then reaching out to them with compassion will sow in seeds of love and understanding in them also.
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Thank you for sharing your thoughts
I was in a big indoor playground this week with my little niece.(2.5 year). We were having a ball and next to our table there was a mother with a similar age kid who was constantly on her phone. At a certain point the kid started to cry and hung on me, almost begging is he could tag along.
This was seeing so much going wrong in parenting, and the girl even looked at me angry because of that I was sweet to the child. These kinds of moments might end up as turning point in kids lives I truly think
That's really sad. Sometimes the parents presence is there just physically but mentally and emotionally they are not involved with them and this can create disasters for children
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Children do not have the developed mind and understanding of the adult to learn. They just watch and observe the other and adapt themselves acvordingly. My little one is highly influnced with english just by watching few youtube and she always surprises us with some english words...she is just 3 year old. Being a hindi speaking atmospgere at home such thing is quite incredible for me
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They can learn many good things also so its just that we parents are just mindful about what our kids are up to. You must be having a good time with your little one๐
Yes indeed...the chirping voice takes away all worry
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Children are very much influenced by what they see anyone around them doing, it isn't just family either - friends and classmates at school can all influence and ensuring these are only positive can be tricky.
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That's very true @c0ff33a and hence it becomes so important for parents to spend good enough time with their children to understand their behavior patterns and what keeps going on in their mind.
Children learn from their parents because they are more often their constant companion and are influenced by them so it is just better for parents to do the right things and teach their children as well to do the same and guide them for their children to grow up a good person and a productive member of the society @nainaztengra
Thank you for sharing your thoughts @cryptopie
Hello! And thank you for this post!
Imagine if all children were on the receiving end of the parental guidance you suggest herein. I believe the difference would be measurable, I believe the social construct that so limits human development would be obliterated, and more simply, we'd be a happier species!
I'm beyond the structure and strictures of parenting, and gratefully state that my 3 YA offspring are well-sprung. Thus, the next endeavor is at hand.
When I consider for 3-seconds the challenge facing humanity's children, I shudder and take a deep breathe (yup, just did that). SO much work ahead...
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Very well said @jimmyoblog. Parenting I believe is the most difficult and tricky job which requires so much sensitivity and patience. What you sow you reap, so how you take care of your children when they are very young will matter when they grow up.
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Respecting our children as they are growing is the most wonderful thing we can do for them. You've hit on some very good points here (from a mom of five now grown kids) and I think you said it all very well!