I've tried my best to live a normal life

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A few days ago, there was a girl who is graduating talked to me, mainly told me about how she was confused about her future.

She told me a lot about the current state of anxiety, such as do not know which city to go to, do not know what job she is looking for, do not know what she loves, do not know how to score perfectly in the "graduate" questions.

During the period, I was particularly impressed by the words she said: "Anyway, I can not choose wrong, every step cannot go wrong because I want to live as I like, I want to live a little more extraordinary."

The tender and firm tone was the same as I was before.

20-somethings, we will feel that the city has limited our development, the identity of students that hinder us from going to a larger stage, always feel the ordinary life now is too common.

We want to be the kind of people that every day, standing in the center of the world, surrounded by the spotlight, by everyone focused on the "extraordinary" life.

Therefore, when facing intersection after graduate, anxiety not knowing how to choose, do not know which way to go, prudent and rigorous, as if a slight deviation, and passed by "extraordinary life," as if choosing the wrong step, life is over.

But life won't be over so easy.
Under normal circumstances, I will encourage them to face these problems.

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But one of the few first-ever, the "I want to live a little bit more extraordinary," I reply back: Maybe you have become what you want to be, but it's still just an ordinary life.

Urban white-collar workers, seemingly bright, independent, brave and beautiful. But it is only a common lattice in the company, scolded by the boss, stay up late overtime, will be the person silently crying after work, not like those tv series can be a collection of thousands of love in the life.

Those of us who go out to start their own business, not every day is about yacht, beauty, good time; they are still a boss and a husband.

In this world, there is no "perfect and extraordinary" life, only a slightly better life.
And it's not that easy to live a normal life.

During university, dream to be a gamer, want to play games to make a living, after graduation, went to a game company.

Thought that working in a game company can help be closer to the dream, can create games, can develop games, can play games.

But in fact, the daily work content is to test the game, constantly testing, repeatedly testing.
And it's all mini-game, and if it weren't for the company, she wouldn't have known that there was such a game in the world.

Other than that, she needs to continually work overtime. The key is that even if it has been so hard, low salary, pay the rent every month, deduct the cost of living and transportation, the money left is not enough to buy a gift for the family.

As mentioned in those articles, the monthly salary of tens of thousands, the annual salary of tens of thousands of people living in the peak of life, and she is not living in that world.

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She worked in the provinces almost half a year and did not go back hometown, her parents miss her, and wish to accompany her.

But looking at the price of the transport ticket, although her parents miss her, they hard-hearted and said to her, "The ticket is too expensive, it’s not easy for you to earn money, we can not spend it so extravagantly."

At that time, she told us that her parents are coming to visit her, she was looking forward and happy, after the news, she feels frustrated.

Although she did not say, we can see that she is very sad, after all, 20-year-old may be the age to be independent, she thought that after making money, life could become different, who knows life is harder than she thought.

There is no ‘easy’ in an adult world, and sometimes it is hard to have a good life.

You work hard is not try to earn more money, not to be successful, many times, you work hard is to hope that your family can live a happy life, like a normal family.

Ordinary life, not equal to not working hard life.

Life can be ordinary, but living can be rich and colorful.

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A while ago, my condition was not good, the fast pace of the big city, the youth crisis, stay up late, make my anxiety more serious, the pressure of life and the burden make me hard to breathe. I complained to my brother, the topic is all about anxiety and pressure.

My brother introduced me to his friend; he describes her as a gentle and very good woman.

Out of a media person's professionalism, at the time when I heard the word "gentle," I weighed it again and again in my mind.

The conclusion is that "nowadays gentleness is a less attractive word."

After all, we all like the kind of tough girl who eats the flesh with bloodshot eyes and does not blink.

But, after chatting with her, I changed my perspective toward the word gentle, listened to her love story, listened to her story during university, and slowly said with a patient tone.

She lives in a second-tier city, she engaged in many of us "disdain" for the system work, taking the not so gorgeous salary.

According to the standard, her life is very ordinary.

Looking at the photo of her friend's traveling, although the photograph did not beautify, also did not add any filter, although not all times about Bali Island, or Europe 7th tour, but those few very ordinary photos, let her have a "quiet years of good" feeling.

She also worked hard to do her job, and she made modest achievements in her field.
She lives in an ordinary life, but also has the rich and colorful life.

Such an ordinary, not bad at all.

Saw a phrase online:
When you are 15 years old, go to school by bike, occasionally take a bus, when seeing someone with school uniform, you will notice him, and those bloated uncles, and elders that carrying the food, are invisible people.

When you get off the bus and make contact with the elders, you finally notice such a person, the clothes have a smell of dust, and you think, I will not live like that after I grew up. When the elder walks out for a certain distance, looked back at you, his heart has some fluctuations, reminded him when he was 15-year-old.

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When we are young, we are all the same, feel that we will always be young, won’t get old, have the heart of the stars and the sea, feel that we are the most special, the unique, will have the most different life.

At that time when casually met a humble person, you will be thinking in the heart that person is so ordinary.

But what you do not know is that one day, you will become the ordinary in other's eyes.

When we were young, we toasted and said, youth will never grow old, not 30 years old, not 40 years old, don't be ordinary, always be a maverick.

But now, I am no longer afraid of ordinary, but more determined what I will become when I am 30 years old. My life can be ordinary, I can be an ordinary person, but I must do the things I like, must live the life I like.

The life in my eyes is living and being alive.
It will be a great life to choose the life you want to live in and keep going.

Therefore, life can be ordinary, let our life be ordinary, rather than living in a stagnant tide.

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