Don’t try to explain yourself to anyone
During primary school, there was a student, Ben, who is unsociable and likes to be alone.
There was a time when there were strange things going on in the class, and somehow everyone was locking up Ben as the suspect for this series of events.
Although there is no conclusive evidence, but everyone looks at Ben differently since then.
Ben also felt himself to be the suspect, but he never explained for himself.
Strange things will still occasionally happen, but Ben was always calm and free, live in his own way.
The more he acts so, the more the people suspected him.
Later, Ben transferred out.
After he left, those strange things continued to happen, and everyone's misunderstanding of him is naturally lifted.
A few years later, I met Ben at the reunion party, and talk about this matter, I asked him why he kept the blame in silence.
Ben answers frankly: “Things that I didn’t do it, how can I explain clearly? Just like a drop of ink on the paper, the more you want to wipe it clean, in the end, the paper becomes black. So, it is better to not explain. One day, time will clear your name, things will come out from the bottom.”
When I heard his words, I was surprised with his maturity, but also began to understand that: “Never explain yourself to others.”
In life, we are always eager to explain to others, explain what kind of person we are, what kind of things we have done, afraid that others have misunderstood ourselves.
But in fact, this explanation is feeble.
Those who know you don’t need explanations, and those who don’t know you will not believe any of your explanations.
Most of the time, the explanation also needs cost.
Instead of wasting time needlessly, it's better to concentrate on what you believe in.
The most important thing in life is to live his/her life in his/her own way.
Choose to be true to yourself, choose to follow your heart.
If you are always trying to prove to others that you are eager to explain yourself, then you have lost to your own obsession.
Moreover, sometimes it has been very difficult just to be yourself, why bother to make other people's voice about your own life?
In any extreme environment, people will at least have freedom, that is, the freedom to choose their own attitudes.
Whether you're facing other people's perceptions, or in an unfriendly environment, you can always choose to laugh away.
There is no need to belittle yourself and no need to catering to others.
Life is about welcome the cold and ridicule, the wind ahead of the journey, and those different edges and corners on your body will become your most powerful armor.
We are always used to explaining ourselves to outsiders, but we often forget how we see ourselves.
There is no way for you to satisfy everyone, so you just have to do what you want to do, to be better at yourself is enough.
Life really does not need too much explanation, from now on, you have to adhere to do what you want, spend time on the things you want to do.
Only in this way, your life is worthwhile.
Posted from my blog with SteemPress : http://walkinharmony.vornix.blog/2018/08/22/dont-try-to-explain-yourself-to-anyone/
Your friend Ben was extremely wise at a young age. It is sound advise to not explain yourself.