3 suggestions for young people
When I was thinking about giving advice to young people, what am I actually thinking about?
Thinking from a different angle, the advice I want to give, in fact, is also combing my own outlook on life.
I hope these will help you and help me at the same time.
Make the most of your time
We must learn to make the most of our time and spend our time on things that allow us to gain the ability to accumulate. This can be said is the most important principle throughout life.
When you look back in the future, you will find the key years that determine the trajectory of your life, is the present moment where you are now at.
If you haven't taken advantage of your time and chosen to be relaxed and enjoy during this time, what will be waiting for you is the decades of discomfort and struggle.
In fact, such examples are very common, we know that many college students do not study well during college, sleep in class, play phones, never do revision after class.
They want to fully enjoy their youth years, fall in love, eat, drink and have fun.
In short, it’s good to be young, always feel that the future will not be too bad, then act according to circumstances. Of course, they have the power to make that choice.
Without accumulation, they will come to a completely different world than they expected.
The scope and level of their ability to act according to circumstances are also limited.
To put it mildly, every choice is very difficult, every road is very painful.
Graduates with the name of the university, but they are just a fresh graduate that don't actually know anything. How high can they reach?
They can only choose to start from zero, no-threshold positions, from there and start to accumulate experience in the workplace.
This seems to be the starting process for every fresh graduate.
But many college students have put the process into the university, and even some have carried it out very well, whether it is flexibility, plasticity or ability, and even more than those who work just to work.
When they graduate, they can enter a completely different world at a completely different starting point.
If you don't want to give up the so-called college free time, the only freedom you can get in the future is to complain about the freedom of low wages.
Of course, everyone's encounter is not the same, not that you need to do something in the university, but it must represent the bitter in the future.
There are also people after graduating from college into society, breakthrough with extraordinary perseverance.
But in terms of the trend, people who enter such a trajectory of development, the survival situation is very general.
Their monthly wages are basically enough for their expenses and lack of room to improve.
This is not the responsibility of their company or society, but their own value is only at that level.
Make good use of your time, is not a motivation speech, but it is the only way you can add value to yourself.
Be sure to pay attention to your health in any case
As you get older, you will increasingly feel that the people around you have died as a result of various diseases, or have endured torture in hospitals.
Health is a thing that easy to ignore, and it is our most valuable wealth.
Usually, we don’t feel its existence, we will only feel its extreme importance when we ill.
Many may think that sickness is just sickness, people have to get sick, after cure, we will back to good health.
In fact, health represents the level of your body's condition, this is a process that requires long-term maintenance, rather than what many people understand when the body is "unhealthy", and then through the treatment to become "healthy."
Many people don’t know that when they are slightly older, the various diseases are accumulated when they were young, rather than the sudden illness they think they are suffering from now.
Like a lot of people when they are young always feel that there is nothing wrong with a big sip of drinking, at most is just dizziness and sleeps for a day.
It's not just a matter of cognition, it's not a sense of risk management at all.
We have a certain physiological basics knowledge that although the body has a certain ability to heal itself, but is limited, it cannot withstand your regular extreme drinking.
A lot of times you've created a dark wound, a hidden danger, but you can't feel it right now.
It's also because you can't feel it, so you'll keep doing it, and when you're older, when your body's function drops, it will suddenly appear.
Everything has a bearing limit, and when it collapses beyond that limit, it is likely to be an irreversible process.
And it's your body that's going to break down, isn't that enough for you to take seriously?
There are a lot of elders around me who get sick not because they are older as if they were supposed to get those diseases. There are also a lot of people of their age because good habits and they don't become regular visitors to the hospital.
What I'm trying to say is that even those older people who are many years older than you, who are more likely to experience life than you are, who choose to be more judgmental than you are, may not stop doing stupid things. You don't have to be a part of them.
Health not only requires us not to die, not to destroy ourselves, but also requires us to pay a certain amount of hard work to fight for. To put it bluntly, you need to exercise.
Many people don't feel that their health needs to be acquired through exercise.
What they think of as health may be that they are not sick, and never think that their physical function is also a sign of health.
Exercise can bring people closer to the state of mental health, it is easy to have a good mood with good health.
It's often hard for people with quirky personalities to have a good exercise habit.
Exercise is an important habit and an important way for you to keep a healthy body and mind.
Don't give advice casually.
Everyone's experiences and stories are different.
So for everyone, what is right is not the same.
So your advice is basically doesn't apply to the other person.
And, you give advice out of kindness, but the other person is not necessarily appreciative, and may also spoil your friendship.
The most important sign for adults is to take care of their own business, which includes not only being responsible for their actions but also not being distracted by others.
Some people really hate being advised by others because they will feel that it is pointing fingers and interfering with their lives.
You may be acting out of kindness, but you are likely to be subjected to unprovoked suspicion.
The worst outcome is that the other person has come up with other views of you from then on, and your relationship can no longer be reversed.
It is not that I deliberately portray the world as sinister, but that the human nature is complex and has its own purpose and gloom that cannot be easily presented.
So I advise you not to give advice casually, try touch such a place as little as possible.
And the key point is that your advice doesn't really matter to anyone else at all.
You may want to try, don’t go to a certain person to present your insights, let him try according to his own ideas.
You will find that after a long time, they are still doing well and will not be as bad as you think.
The reason for the enmity between many people is that one side is self-righteous in trying to prove that he is better than others.
There is no free lunch in the world, the same, there is no free advice in the world.
Others will not believe that your unfounded advice will not have any other purpose, and they will think that you are trying to control their intentions.
And a lot of "well-wishers" just because they feel that the other side does not pay attention to their sincere advice, can not help themselves to be worry and take some relatively cross-border behavior, which will further accelerate the collapse of the relationship between the two sides.
Adults must understand that distance produces beauty so that your friendship will remain in the long run.
Only when people sincerely asking you for advice, only then you can be a teacher.
Don't play such a role at any other time.
Being hated is a small matter, but it's big to hate people.
This is not to preach human apathy, but this is the reality, you simply can not predict the motives and needs of others. Rush to give your advice, will be considered as offensive and invasion.
It is easy for us to pretend to be friendly, pretend to be lively, pretend to be close, but in fact, two hearts will never get in one place.
So, stop wasting your time giving advice to others.
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