Usually, I don't talk about stuff like this. So be prepare for TMI, My boyfriend and I recently got into an argument. I'm upset that over the course of years, He still hasn't been able to get a job.
I'm not even expecting anything fancy, I mean at this point. I'd be jumping up and down if he got a full-time job at Mcdonalds.
Keep in mind he's almost 25 years old, And I'm 24.

I've been mostly quiet about it. I felt that "pushing" him too hard. Would cause him to "rebel" against me. So I shut my mouth and continued to do my own thing.

Finally, I got fed up with it. I'm making ALL of the money, and I've been working hard to move forward with my life. I want to be able to travel the world. And date someone who can also support themselves.

I asked him why he hasn't got a job, And his reply.
"I'm trying."
After years? It doesn't seem like he's trying.
Finally, I asked him why he hasn't started a side hustle. Or got started on business. His reply just about gave me a heart attack.

"I'm too scared... "

WHAT!!!?!!??

I don't mean to brag. But he had a front row seat to some of my biggest accomplishments in my life so far. When we first started our on and off again relationship, I was still in high school! I was 18. And even then I did the unthinkable.

I dropped all of my required classes, In pursuit of nothing but art classes. While simultaneously taking my required classes online. At one point I took over 25 classes at once. I graduated a little late, But I still did it. And guess what I WAS SCARED ABOUT THE WHOLE THING!
At that point in my life, Graduation and college were everything! I was terrified at the possibility of not graduating.
And I did! I graduated a little late, But it was worth it. Because I upped my art skills.

He says he can't start his side hustle or business when he's scared. He's always wanted to be involved in videogames some how, If he IGNORES HIS FEAR, And pursues it anyway, Heres whats going to happen.

• He could start a podcast or a video channel about games he likes.
  He could make money doing what he LOVES!

• He could get laughed at And harassed by trolls. It happens.

• Money wise, The Sky is the limit. He could make more than any job would ever pay him.

• No college education required!

• He could travel And have ultimate freedom both financially and time wise!
  
  Heres what happens if he sticks with his "fear" and goes after a regular job.

• We could be waiting for another 2-3 years for him to get a job.

• Because his limited experience, It would be a lousy, Janitorial or fast food job. That would pay him like crap and have limited/ if no benefits.

• He wouldn't even be able to travel; The employer would own his time And his paycheck.

• He wouldn't be able to make what he wants; He'd be given a specific wage, and that's it.

Which would you rather do?

He has an advantage!

I'm still in disbelief when he said that.
I can't even describe how TERRIFIED I WAS when I hit "publish" on my first coloring book, Hell I'm terrified EVERYDAY! And EVERYTIME I publish a new book.
But I shut up and do it anyways.

He doesn't realize the advantage he has; He's dating a woman who has a ton of income streams, And three businesses. I could help him and drop him hints along the way.
When I became self-employed, I was on my own. I had no one to "help" me through the fears. I had to bite the bullet and learn everything I could. Then learn the hard way.

• I've been thumb- down on youtube!
• I've been flagged on Steemit at some point.
• I've had a book fail, Hell, On one of my bad reviews, My book was compared to the "Great Depression." YEAH . THAT BAD! I was also described as a "Spoiled brat." I gotta admit, It was a bit harder to "brush off." But I still did it. I'm not going to let a bad review bring me down.
• I've had entire platforms where I built my income, Fall, Losing all of the money.
• I've been banned from Target. And Banned as a seller on Ebay.
• My first two businesses I started completely failed.

I've had so much more Big and small failures; I can go all day along.

Whats the deal these days!

I'm embarrassed; My generation is full of pansies. We can't handle a little cut on our finger. We can't handle dealing with a little adversity. So many people are so afraid of failure they never try anything new, And once they catch a wif of failure, they bolt away and don't even try to learn from their mistake. Hell, most people refuse to take responsibility. Instead, they blame someone else.

It makes me sick.

I have a sick obsession....

Sometimes I feel overwhelmed with pain when I receive bad reviews. When I put my heart into something. Do you know what makes me feel better?

• Go on Amazon, Look up your most favorite author.
• Click on their book.
• Now read their bad reviews.
  Did you know that James Altucher has bad reviews too?
  Sometimes I read them when I'm feeling bad, Because in my eyes James Altuchers books are so incredible, I could never understand why he would get a bad review. And yet, his best-selling book "Choose Yourself" also has bad reviews.

What does this teach us?

Sometimes we target the wrong people!

• Sometimes we need to improve certain aspects.
• Sometimes people are just having a "bad day."
• Sometimes our approach sucks!

It doesn't mean you should be so scared you should never take the risk again.

You Will Fail No Matter What.

You will fail at some point. You will never be successful at everything. If you don't rush towards what you want you will fail in your "life goals."
So unless your goal is to work a dead end job your whole life, And live in a tiny apartment. You WILL fail!
Failing is almost a practice, And it gets easier! Just do it!

If you don't do it NOW you never will!

Another excuse my boyfriend makes,
He's waiting to get the right "Stuff" Do start his videos. Or his podcast.
Seriously!? It doesn't take much! Buy the stuff, and do it. I make my youtube videos with a video software I paid 40.00 and a 15.00 Microsoft headset.
You could even get the video software free. Some YouTubers use their cell phone to record the videos. Many people will watch you if you have a good message!
If you don't start now you never will; you'll keep putting it off. Don't have any excuses. If your sick today, and need to wait for tomorrow, Fine. But if you care enough to accomplish something, you'll make it priority and you'll go after it.

There's too Much "Competition"

Ugh.....
Yes, You need to find a good "niche." But too much competition should never be your excuse. You can go into a unique one to reduce competition.
So if your "Niche" Is Videogames,
And videogames are too competitive; You can go into something more specific to give yourself an advantage.
So maybe you can do Puzzle games, As your niche. That should reduce your competition. Although do your research and make sure it's good before going into it.

It's been done before.

Again.. Ugh.
Sorry to burst your bubble... But nothing in your head right now is completely original. Someone Somewhere has thought of the same thing as you. Anything you put out in the world, Is similar to something that has done before.
One of my boyfriend's friends "changed his mind." About publishing his book, Becuase he saw that there were other books similar to the book he was writing.
There will always be something similar. Refer to the "Reducing Competition rant above."

Lets look at Steemit,
It's nothing new, We've seen blog sites before. Look at Medium! We've seen social media, Look at Facebook. We've seen paid social media, Look at TSU!
Steemit has been done before. But That's where Dan And Ned, Gave it a slight twist to make it different.
By doing it on a "Blockchain."

Conclusion

This was a very long blogpost! Thanks for reading. I hope it encouraged you to get off your ass and do something in life. Fear is not something that should ever stop you! That is how people become successful, Is by continuing despite their fear. Look at any successful Entrepreneur; They have failed at some point. And they have been scared at some point too.