WE DON'T CHOOSE OUR DEATH

in life •  7 months ago

Christmas morning…just saw a text from Christmas Eve letting me know that a longtime friend was in a serious car accident and had slim chance to survive….

It just isn’t right…”what isn’t right you ask?” That someone who gave so much of himself to so many people…should die this way…

Face it…while death is not something we dwell on…there are times in our lives when we are forced to confront it…As a child, ​it usually began with the death of a pet… depending on the type of pet…it may involve a backyard burial or if a goldfish…a flush down the toilet…in my household, ​such a “ceremony” usually involved some reference to heaven and god…

As time went on an older relative would pass away…my parents would dress my brothers and I in our Sunday best…we’d be forced to attend the wake having little or no guidance on what to expect….and despite the lack of instruction…we’d somehow manage to look at a dead body in a coffin without freaking out. Of course, ​when we asked any questions….we’d hear once more about God​ and Heaven …

As we grew into adulthood…some of us faced the tragic death of someone around our age or perhaps as a parent…the tragic death of a child. There’s no doubt those moments cause a lot of pain and reflection…and I believe a piece of us dies with that person which we never recover.

Gradually as we trend into our senior years…the obituaries become more important to be in touch with. That coupled with the passing of grandparents…parents…aunts…uncles…even friends…leads to almost “regular” visits to the funeral parlor….Sadly one almost becomes immune to it as a method to avoid facing our own mortality…

But face it we must…and like much of life…death can seem very unfair…take my friend Steve… at age 85…about 25 years older than me…having the girth and jolly personality of a Santa Claus… our first encounter 25 years earlier involved him giving me a bear hug as I entered a twelve-step​ meeting I had been part of for a few years…honestly…the experience annoyed me…I wasn’t a huggable type…but…once I got home…I realized Steve was the one I wanted to be my “sponsor”…

Through his mentorship…friendship…guidance…listening ear…and open honest sharing about his life experience…I came out of my shell…grew up emotionally and into a human being I am proud of today…Even better…I give out hugs at meetings today…

And despite his age…Steve was still full of life…regularly attended meetings and was always available whenever I or the hundreds of others that he befriended needed a listening ear…meanwhile he religiously visited his wife in the nursing home…remaining a loving husband by her side in the 15 years since she suffered a paralyzing stroke…all that despite the multiple debilitating medical issues that challenged him.


No…regardless of his age...such a passive soul doesn’t deserve to die in such a violent unplanned way...but…"we don’t choose our death."

However, ​we do choose our life…and similar to other times in the past when forced to face my own mortality reality…I realize once more…it’s not how many moments you live…it’s how you live each moment…because…

I want to give a shout out to @grow-pro for helping me with the presentation and edit of my article...he did a magnificent job...and as the cycle of life often shows...in times of pain...we often find a welcoming hand...

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A very somber but thought provoking post.
It is said that society is built on the illusion that we will never die. It does seem that way for a long time until our own ageing face in the mirror forces us to face the the truth of the matter. No one escape death and as you say we dont choose when or where it is our time to go.
I am sorry to hear about your friend and my thoughts go out to you.
I also lost a best friend three years ago on Christmas Eve. I was seriously ill in hospital myself at the time. I was even thinking about him when I head the news. I had promised myself that when I got better I would make the effort to spend more time with him. We had somehow gradually drifted apart and when I became ill I realised that he meant a lot to me. My wife came in to visit me and told me he had died of a heart attack in the night. The pain of hear that news was terrible and I am not ashamed to say that I cried for hours. It took me months to get well again but I still miss my old friend more than ever. He looked and acted very much like the old actor Orson Wells, He was so full of life I could not accept that the world could function without him.
Life and death seems so unfair. Unnatural. We are given this great gift of consciousness for a short time and then it is taken away-
I will not get religious on you as I know religion is a person thing but I will say this- I have cheated death 3 times in my life. At 14 I died of an asthma attack and my heart was restarted. At 37 I barely survived a car accident. A huge lorry crashed into the back of me and four other cars killing one driver, seriously injuring 3 others with one left in a wheel chair for life. I myself woke in the hospital missing a kneecap and a back injury. I had to learn to walk again and it was hard work. And three years ago I contracted a serious life threatening virus and was flown to hospital by helicopter. It took a year to recover. So I guess I have looked death in the eye and survived it. But what I wanted to tell was that on each occasion when I faced death, something special happened. At first I felt fear. Surely it was the fear of dying. But then a calmness came over me. My whole body felt like it was being bathed in warm water and then it came. The wonderful sensation that I was going home. To my real home. A home where I was going to receive the best welcome anyone could ever have. I do not want to die just yet, nor for a long time. I feel I have so much more to live and to give. But all I am saying is I do not fear death anymore. I do not know if there is a God but I feel certain that when this life is over it is not the end and where we go from there is a wonderful place.
Best wished to you my good fellow.

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Incredible story...Amazing what you have lived through or should I say died through...sorry to hear about your best friend...why can't the universe sprinkle what you went through over a few other people so a few more would appreciate "real" life? Thanks for your powerful thoughts.

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Have a happy new year stay safe

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It was my pleasure, @bobreedo. I am sorry for your loss - it sounds like Steve was a genuine friend and those cannot be replaced, although they are never forgotten.

I greatly appreciate your perspective on the topic of death - it is something many of us are afraid to even think about. Losing those that we love and care for is something we all handle a bit differently.

There is no easy way to grieve the loss of a loved one. But we can find strength in the lives of those we mourn the passing of. Their physical presence on Earth ends, but they remain in our hearts and our minds.

We choose our life, not our death. That's a beautiful message, my friend. I am glad our paths aligned when they did and I look forward to a happy, healthy, prosperous 2018!

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Grateful to have this outlet and receive the incredible well wishes I do...

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after that we just ordinary people~

Steve sounds like an amazing person. I am sorry for your loss. It is true that we can only choose the way we live and not the way we die. Thank you for reminding us to appreciate the life that is given to us and to make the most out of it.

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You are welcome and thank you for taking time to read my post.

https://steemit.com/poetry/@thinkhappy/the-breath-of-life
The Breath of Life short poetry writting

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I think steemit can be a healthy outlet for harnessing those stream of thoughts...keep sharing...Thanks.

this post made me emotional. god bless everyone

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You as well.

I enjoy your pictures and your sharing very much, thank you :-)
And I am too sorry for your lost, but death is a great teacher, is teaching us to appreciate life and love people.

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Very true...thank you.

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Thank you too :-)

I don't agree. We are all making choices internally that the whole world is not aware of. I've come to believe that death is a very personal choice, and that it is not a matter of chance.

I had my life flash before my eyes, and had visions that I might have even died or been seriously injured while on a dirt bike. But instead I put the bike tires back underneath me in a most miraculous way. I've lived since then feeling that death is no accident. I'm far more mindful of my thoughts, I've come to believe the law of attraction is real, that what I think matters.

In talking to people I get very personal, and have found their life situations to match there attitudes of mind, there approach to life. I'd be surprised if you had never had the thought of ending it all. Most people have at one time or another. The question is of the intensity, and how strong your will to live is.

I have a story, from a past girlfriend that really brought this home to me, she tried to kill herself in a moment of despair, but her will to live was still strong. she took many sleeping pills, and probably would have died. but a coworker, who had been to her house exactly once and never visited, felt something was wrong, came over that day, within an hour of her taking the pills, found her, called an ambulance, and saved her life.

I don't think anything that happens is being done to us, but appears that way because we live unconsciously. This incredible events that 'shake us up' tend to wake us up from this slumber. Perhaps your friend is on the edge of awakening to an even greater truth for his life.

I've heard before, and believe, that our spirit moves to the greatest idea we have for ourselves, and the fastest way to close that gap is death. but it doesn't hafta be that way, we can close the gap in this lifetime, but doing it requires a complete change in thinking, overcoming fear. But sometimes the gap is so great, the suffering so severe, that we have an event that those outside see as tragic, but God never makes a mistake, everything is a perfectly aligned for each person and those that end up hearing about it, being there, and going thru it.

peace, love and happiness, let them be your guide. I hope your friend pulls thru.

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Fascinating way to look at things...while I agree perhaps we do "invite" realities to ourselves we aren't even aware of...based on sub quantum wave inside us...I do question something like a car accident that wasn't one's choice nor their fault which leads to death...

I too had a "near death" experience back in my college days with a car accident...it was like a slow motion movie...seeing the truck come over the hill while my car drifted into that lane during a bad snow storm...I remember seeing moments of my life pass thru my brain...total peace within...and calmly saying..."this is it" right before the truck crashed into my little 4 cylinder car...needless to say I lived...

Was it all a bigger force orchestrating it all? Or simple random quantum waves? Perhaps in the end...we find the answer...

Thanks for your thoughts...

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I do question something like a car accident that wasn't one's choice nor their fault which leads to death...

I no longer think you can look at it that way. Outside events mirror the inner state.

Was it all a bigger force orchestrating it all?

the Law of Attraction orchestrates it all. We are magnets for what we believe.

Or simple random quantum waves?

I've come to see that a random world cannot contain the coincidences i've experienced. however, a intentional world can appear chaotic based upon belief that it is so.

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That is what Abraham Hicks keeps telling all of us

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Glad to find you on steem, sir.
One of the most interesting discussions in a few weeks.
Thank you for the time and efforts to share your thoughts.
Best regards,
alex

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It has been quite a journey.

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I’m glad that yours is still going on.
Same as mine.

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Law of attraction is the powerful engine that brings us where we think we need to go.
Peace and love and happiness - what else is there to ask for?
These three things give you comfort and pleasure from life’s smallest gifts.

Much respect for your thoughts

Best regards,
alex

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Nice post very informative and inspiring

In my faith , knowledge and experience, death is not a big deal because I believe in the next life after death.
Thanks for sharing your thoughts about death @bobreedo :)
Happy New Year!

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Thank you for sharing yours...Happy New Year to you as well.

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Dude that was so impressing text !

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Thank you very much...

Beautifully explained.. even though i didn't feel like reading, your story forced me to read till the end and that's true a part of us dies when someone close to us departs forever and that part is never to be lived again.. I can understand the pain you must be going through. God Bless your friend and May God relied him off this pain. Amen.

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Thank you for sharing your difficult experience...

Being a "glass half full" kind of guy, though sorry for your loss, it sounds like you were very fortunate to have had him in your life as long as you did. And he is smiling right now as he reads your touching tribute, as death is just a door, it means very little to the Author of Life *-)

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Nicely said...comforting...Thanks.

sorry for your friends but death is our ultimate fate we have no escape.
happy new year and god forgive your friend

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Thank you. Happy New Year.

It's true..we don't choose our death.good post

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This made me emotional, its was a beautiful post. Thank you for sharing. We should share more of our personal stories. Keep smiling.

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I find writing a positive way to express my emotions...thank you for taking time to read and express...

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Aww your welcome

Friend whose hand I shook on Christmas day was gone a few days later with no warning. It is the craziest feeling.

I am very sorry about the loss of your friend. This post is exactly how I have been feeling lately and you described it so well. This is so beautifully written!! You did a great job. I really like the style of your writing.

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Very kind of you...Thank you.

Greetings of friendship...

hello very nice story i love that i follow you hope to follow me back also @alcabes thank you

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Thank you.

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follow u pls follow back

Death is a sad truth and there's no escaping its kiss. Maybe we just have to let life flow on it's own and stop going against the current. Just appreciate the journey and enjoy everything and everyone you cross roads with and leave your mark. Make a life out of everything let cry, love, be loved, be hurt take everything out from life then in the end you won't fear death anymore instead you'll embrace it smiling. It doesn't matter how you do it just make sure you're smiling with death while you're taking its hand.

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Very well said...brings me some peace...Thank you.

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always welcome..

I am sorry for ur loss.

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Thank you.

Yeah.....life is not static. It's dynamic and how we live or die depends on us. Words are power though. We sometimes kill ourselves by the words we say

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Yes...words can do harm...and also show peoples' hearts. Thank you.

you are so right. we dont choose our death, but we can choose how we want to spend our lives before our time comes. Here;s to a fulfilling life! =)

I've lost a lot of good friends over the past couple of years due to sickness, accidents and violence. Memories and things I have learned and experienced knowing this precious people took a lot of the fear away after I went to the stages of denial, anger and frustration. I will live my best life, never forget any of them. Yes, we don't choose out death. Thank you for sharing your thoughts with us!

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Thank you for reading...commenting and sharing your experience with painful times....

The best welcoming hand is Jesus.

Very good post, nice pictures to see. I hope you enjoy this photo really, hopefully you can post another interesting interesting picture and share the experience, and I will continue to follow you on every post.

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They are wonderful photos courtesy of @grow-pro...thank you for kind comments....

Thank you for sharing your experience. This is a very difficult topic to discuss. I had an Organic Chemistry professor really depress me once. He and I talked one day because I was going to miss my final for a funeral. Maybe he was just testing to see if I was telling the truth, but he explained how the older he gets the more people around him die. It was not an easy topic to discuss back then.

I have changed my opinion about death a lot since that talk with my professor though. It gets into the warrior ethos I often talk about, but to me we are already immortal. We are electrical beings that live forever. Our physical bodies my be damaged and die, but the energy that makes us is eternal. Therefore, having those beliefs, death to me is no longer a concern.

I too believe we should live as if we might die at any moment. By that I mean though that we should be forever improving ourselves and the world around us by those personal improvements. We should make connections in life and built a better world for those who will be in it once we physically die. Fighting for good causes and making good connections with other warriors is what life is about to me now.

I'm here to "fight the good fight." I'm probably not going to be able to pick my death, but I do seek a good one. A good one to me would be dying defending what I love. If I die battling as a warrior defending or furthering a good cause, I will die happy and with a smile on my face. I do not plan to die broken or weak though, and I plan to keep fighting until the day my body is no longer my vessel.

Thanks again for the well written article, and I hope you find comfort in the knowledge that those you love are never lost. They are just transformed. :)

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Thank you for your interesting perspectives...

I share that there were times in the past...when I felt so beaten down by my life circumstances....that the thought of death was comforting...fortunately...I wasn't one to plan such an action...but...didn't see any other way out of things at those times...

My life circumstances along with my life perspective has changed for the better...however...there are times when I feel so exhausted...whether from age...the pace of life...dealing with stuff...coupled with not being a very good sleeper...that the thought of a "deep" sleep...ie...death...does not upset me...in fact...such peace feels comfortable....

So...regardless what's on the other side...I do my best not to wish away...even the "shittiest" feeling days...any of my time "on earth"...as I wrote in a previous blog article...."This is the NOW that God Gave Me."

I hope you die a noble gladiator...

Sometimes... shit just happens i think.

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That it does.

Cool one bobreedo.

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Why thank you.

Thank you for sharing your personal thoughts with us. This article resonates with me because I also woke up this past Christmas morning to a text about my grandma being sent to the hospital on Christmas eve. She was like a second mom to me, even though I joke about many of our years together being spent on constant physical discipline when I was young. After I visited her at the hospital on Christmas, she passed away the next morning. She was a very strong woman and I had already accepted that it was her time and that she passed knowing that she was loved. I hope you'll continue to spend your days with loved ones enjoying each moment!

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Sorry to hear of your loss of someone so special in your life...Glad you got to say goodbye.

Sorry to hear about the passing of your friend.

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Thanks...

Sorr to hear about your loss. Death of someone we love is hard to with. I have seen a mother’s eyes when her son died, it is heartbreaking.

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That is a moment one would never forget. Thank you for sharing.

Good post👍 followed and upvote you hope you will do same for me😊

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I thank you and will follow.

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You welcome😊

Beautiful words, and in such a heavy state of mind, wow. Grief is the most baffling thing. How so much of the world can just ...continue as if the universe is not crumbling. As if the things that matter have anything to do with nail polish or starbucks or football or ANYTHING. Yes- I have walked that road more than once.

It is the thing that I believe takes the very first innocence from a human, when they have to face the loss of someone - it sucks.
Anyway- I do not know you yet. Your words are strong and so is your spirit. Hang in there.

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Thank you for your honest sharing...these are the moments we reassess our faith and what truly is important as you suggest...Thank you.

For me the post was kinda dark. But i agree with you, and i'm sorry for your loss. Also very well explained👍

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I understand...for me writing about the "dark" reminds me of the light...Thanks for taking time to read.

Nice post! I follow you! =)

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I appreciate that.

"what's a life, we born, we live a little while, we die." Charlotte's Web.

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But its the "web" we build while here that makes it seem more than that...

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Bobreedo, so sorry to hear of another tragic death. If you follow me you will see that Mr. George was met by a tragic end as well. We celebrate the life and times we had with him this Friday along with his son, family and other friends of "Murdock". I will try to do a better job of explaining to my 7 y/o son about what we are doing at the funeral, why we gather, why we pay our respects. He knows Mr. George is with God, but honestly his whole attitude about death is so dismissive. It bothers me. His great uncle died, fish have died (Fin, EMO I and II) and our wonderful old dog Rawley (17 yrs. with me). Death just sorta seems rolls off of him and much of the younger generation in my opinion. I guess the desensitization is due to so much death in video games and on TV. Maybe it is just because he is 7. He will likely come into a deeper understanding of the experience of loosing somebody close to you in his own time. I guess we all do. For you, I'm sorry for your loss. May your friend rest in the peace and glory of the kingdom of heaven. He will still be there for you when you need him. Just call and think about what he would say to you to give you strength to carry on. God Bless.

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Thanks so much for your powerful thoughts...I wouldn't be too judgmental on how a seven year old copes with a death...I know seven year old children that still believe in Santa Claus...their minds are in between reality and fantasy...and unless its someone involved in their life daily...like a parent...its hard for them to understand how it impacts their life...

Good luck with coping with your losses and thanks again for sharing.

Indeed. Death in inevitable

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So far...who knows where science leads humans...won't be in my time...

This was absolutely beautiful. Remarkable telling of this relationship and a difficult subject we all approach carefully.

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I thank you greatly...its amazing what one can write when its from the heart...

Life is truly the greatest treasure that no money can buy. Never waste a moment.

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As the Ad says...."Priceless".....

I am sorry for the loss of your friend. It sounds like he was doing the work of Angels, right here on earth. My daughters' outlook regarding life: 'Quality, not Quantity.' She died much too soon, almost 9 years ago. Your post rings true.

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So sorry to hear about the loss of your angel....Thank you for sharing.

The affections do not disappear with death ... they take hold in our hearts and allow us to remember them as the people who were important to us in life

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So true...they become part of our inner fabric...

Sorry for the lost.They say " God always take the good person first".I believe Steve was a good person.

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In the words of a famous song writer..."only the good die young"...he was that for sure...thanks.

First of all, I am sorry for your loss. Secondly for us who stay alive a food of thought to ponder: Do I treat my most loved ones in the manner that they will miss me when I die? Do I show them how much I care them?
Often in life we are way too busy with nonesense and forget what is important, the people we cherish so dearly. No moment is granted for us.

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Wonderful sentiments...I remember I hit a point in my life when I recognized I treated clients or even strangers I hardly knew...better than my own family...needless to say...that changed...thanks for your thoughts.

Yes, sure we should be enjoying our life when you still here!

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That's the spirit...

I hope your friend is okay, please let us know what happens.

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Sadly he did not survive.

OMG! THIS IS MI FIRST COMMENT EVER!!!, im new here but im so excited TO BE PART OF THIS HUGE COMMUNITY OF WONDERFULL PEOPLE LIKE YOU. Your pictures are amazing and I BELIEVE what you are doing here.
I am so sorry for your lost, i know what is like but like all things we must move on.

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Glad to know my sharing prompted you to participate...in my short time here...I have found many amazing people...I hope you do as well.

Nice one

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Thank you.

I am very sorry to hear about your friend. Most people fear death and it is hard to talk about. You are so right, we don't choose our death. I think that is what I like about existentialism though. It explores areas such as the topic of death. It helps others to search their own meaning in life and meaning in suffering, and come to the acceptance that we must live the best life we can since death is inevitable.

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Thank you for your kind thoughts...My generation didn't have the comfort level or outlets I see my adult children having...and regardless...I think it is a good reminder...no matter what your age...and how "shit_ty"...life appears at any given moment...its borrowed time...

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You're welcome! I hope you have a happy New Year!

Life is so fragile it's amazing how easily it can slip away.

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And at the same time we are durable and resilient when committed to life, God bless your friend, hope he's ok, a very thought provoking post here @bobreedo.

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We are amazing creatures...appreciate the comments...

It's a part of our life but i feel sad about your friend. May his soul rest in peace.

That's true that we don't choose our death. What we choose is how we live ^_^

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So make each moment count...Thanks

@bobreedo I am very sorry to hear about your friend. i follow you hope to follow me back also @salmanbahadur thank you

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Thank you.

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follow u pls follow back

The most romantic is to meet and escort dawn sunset....

Very sorry about that !!

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Thank you.

ciertamente es un proceso natural del ciclo de la vida; pero difícil de asimilar...

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Thank you.

ho! Lord, im sorry about your frind :(

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Thank you.

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Thank you.

Very moving story , I loved !

Sorry for your loss.

I used to be so scared of the finality of death but, since the passing of my Mum in August 2016 and the spiritual realm making itself known to me, I realise that death as we 'know' it, is a false concept.

When my Mum passed the spirits told me not to be sad - that I should celebrate as she had come home. I have spoken to her since and she is having a ball!

:)

With Love.

xox

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Sounds re assuring...thanks.

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Yeah, death is a false concept. It is like to say: Universe Matter will disappear one day… your mom’s vibrations are partly yours with all love, care and warmth And there’s no any mystic.

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I appreciate your comment, thanks.

The melding of vibrations particularly appeals - I hadn't thought of it like that.

xox

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The happier and calmer we are the more in harmony those who gone stay. Every time tuning in this statement you may feel an inner ease and bliss

excelentes fotos me encantaron disculpa por la publicacion o comentario anterior lo podrias borrar saludos

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Thank you.

Jesus is the reason for the season.

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God is breath until time for our death.

This was hauntingly beautiful and touching.

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Very appreciative of those thoughts.

siento mucho lo sucedido, pero recuerda que tu amigo esta en un lugar mejor, un lugar de paz, donde no existe el dolor, la maldad ni el sufrimiento.

I too had a death to deal with on xmas eve I don't think I have grieved yet so I have that to look forward to. I couldn't help but notice the story of flushing goldfish down the toilet, There is a fact I know that many don't realize about goldfish, They have very small stomachs & people have a vast tendency to over feed them, They only need a tiny bit, When they are over fed they float at the top of the water & look like they are dead but they aren't they are just so full they cant move, If you leave them for a day or even longer they have a good poo & then start swimming round again. Basically people are flushing live fish down the toilet & it's happening on a very regular basis many people who are reading this will have done it. I probably will of myself before I knew. Anyway scrub that from your mind, It looks like we both have a funeral to attend in the near future which is more of a pressing issue I have to attend mine on the 26th he was an inspirational uncle to me. Condolences on your loss Bob you are quite right we don't choose our fate or time of death unless we take our own life of course. It's an eye opener when somebody close to us dies it makes us consider how we live our own life & how insignificant it all could be. Live for the moment we never know how many we have left.

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Love the goldfish information although now I feel like I may have performed goldfish "genocide" over the years...learn so much in forums like this..

One of the reasons I write is to get in better touch with my feelings...my upbringing made me a bit numb to feeling...gotten better at it...

Good luck with your days ahead dealing with your loss...condolences to you as well...

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The genocide of goldfish is rampant all around the world, People just shake the food in like oh yeah he will like this lets feed him up. It's only a tiny little thing swimming round in his little bowl but they put enough food in to feed an army of them. He will eat it too there isn't much else for him to do he can either swim round & round or eat the yummy food & get fat. He won't be aware of the side affect either but he will suffer with it. Just like we do it's the equivalent of feeding your 5 year old nephew a 32oz Rump steak with all the trimmings. He will have the belly ache & become very lethargic with it. The result is he will float to the top & be physically unable to move but he's not dead. What happens next is little Johnny comes down in the morning & sees him floating there & shouts for Mum. Mum immediately thinks he's bought the farm & breaks the bad news to little Johnny. Then they have the funeral service long before he was ready, Oh dear for little fishy. If they left him be in the bowl for a day or two he would of been right as rain & swimming around again without a care in the world. If he get's flushed down the lavatory there is a chance that the shock of it will make him vacate his bowel immediately & he will swim for it but not for long. He will make a tasty treat for the nearest rat & he won't be far away. They reckon we are never more than 20 ft away from a rat they are usually underneath us or in wall cavities. I am glad to be a paucity of assistance to folks knowledge. It really is probably bad taste to laugh at the fishy situation but I would feel less than honest not to admit that I was creased up when I found out.

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Must be why you call yourself "professor"...too funny...and sad...

Sorry abt dat

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Thanks.

Death is a reality that we have to face. For me i don't think of it anymore for it could give me a negative outlook in life. We like it or not we are all going to pass by in this world. So all i have to do is enjoy every moment of the day and be thankful for being able to see another day.

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I understand...no need to dwell on it...as you say...we are on earth to "live"...something like this just makes us re think what "live" means...thanks.

Most thoughtful. Sorry for the loss of your friend.

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forgot to say I am following you now too. upvoted too.

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Thank you for both comments...

As much as we fear death, we must learn to embrace it. It's difficult to comprehend that a single event could end someone's life and cannot brought back to this world.
Really sorry to hear about your loss.

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Embrace may be hard...accept is best I can do...thanks for sharing...

The great thing about mortality is that we always have something to live for- a goal to make and achieve. Without out biological clock counting down- we become vampires with no real reason to achieve our goals. It is this sense of urgency that creates a desire to do amazing things. I often find myself feeling that one life time isnt enough time to spend with my wife. It makes me want to cherish her all the more.

My bestfriend/ college roomate died unexpectedly a couple years ago. It was one of the worst moments of my life and still haunts me every day. Even though I lost Jake, I think of him when I need a reminder of what is important in life. Like when your grandma calls you and you feel like you dont have time to call her back..
always call her back..
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To steal an old expression..."right on"...never thought of it that way...knowing we are mortal is what makes our humanness matter...wow...great read...and appreciate wife comment...I've learned to really understand what I think is "real" meaning of love as time goes by...so true about grandma...and very sorry to hear about Jake...

Thank you for sharing your pain and emotions with us man. I'm really sorry about Steve

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I feel fortunate to have an avenue like this to express it and receive such amazing feedback and well wishes...thanks.

I’m sorry for your loss.

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Thank you.

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I hope this helps!

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Wow...beautifully expressed...and I'll add....if one really is determined...they will learn to occasionally ride those waves!

Thanks for sharing this.

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Your welcome, enjoy the rides xx

Hi bobreedo, as i read you story about your friend a little tears felt in my eyes, Everything came back in my mind of what happen to my husband and my mom..They died in the same year, my mom died cause of cancer and my husband cardiac arrest, at that time it was so much pain that I was out of my mind that for me everything was useless..but I realize everything happen for a reason that God only knows,I always pray for strength everyday to face the fact that that they're gone,that I need to move on and live the life that God given me, and realize that we dont choose our death ,we don't know when it happen,that is why we need to cherish every moment we had in our loved ones,According to Christopher Pike, The Last Vampire
“Death never comes at the right time, despite what mortals believe. Death always comes like a thief.”

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Despite the feelings surrounding them...tears can be very cleansing...Glad to hear you are doing your best to move forward...that is quite a blow to absorb in one year...like you say...as humans we ask "why"?...and god replies..."why not"....best wishes moving forward.

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Thanks bobreedo...

Life is a gift, every time we lose a chance to express love our loved ones it also shortens our time to be with that person.
I'm so sad to hear your story about your friend. But, yes its true! We cannot choose our death and we have no choice but to accept it. Thank you for sharing @bobreedo

Keep safe always,
Xoxo
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Thanks for the warm and heart felt thoughts....

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No problem, I appreciate your work.

I believe Steve has just left for a better reason. Such a good friend never leaves us alone. They will always stay with us.

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Its a nice way to think about it...thanks.

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Its true,sorry about your friend,but truth is,Only the almighty one God Knows.

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I certainly don't....thanks for your thoughts.

You have puzzled me hard with your writing, pics and some of your replies to the comments. My answer: Death comes at the best moment for the soul to travel. I do not know who the author of these words is. My respect to your deep sorrow…
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One of the most poignant and comforting definitions of death I ever heard. And an old time classic song to boot. Made my night . ..Thank you.