"Hey there! What are you doing?"
"Oh just waiting for ________."
"Well, because it's not ready yet."
"You know you don't have to wait."
"Of course I do. I'm waiting for it to be done."
"I still don't know why you are choosing to wait."
"I'm not choosing to wait, it's not time yet."
"You are choosing, because you don't have to wait... ever."
Waiting is an activity that can only be engaged in through choosing to do so. We can always be doing something else. While moving through our daily tasks, feelings of frustration can easily arise as we perceive precious time slipping through our fingers when we feel we must wait. Even for those who have cultivated great patience, waiting rarely feels worthy of moments that could be used in other ways.
So just stop waiting. Do something else. Anything else. Find your presence. Waiting is purely a perspective, not a fixed reality. If you feel like you're waiting, then you are.
I, personally, do not enjoy the feeling of putting my life on hold. So I practice not waiting. Yes, I am going to stand in line. Yes, I am going to stay on hold for hours. Yes, I am not going to leave my friend behind while she finishes fixing her hair. But am I waiting? No.
I choose to be doing anything else I'd rather be doing. I might take the opportunity to engage another human in line. Maybe I'll doodle or write a steemit article while on hold. Perhaps I'll delete some of the photos off my phone so I can take a picture of my fabulous friend. Sometimes I'm just thinking.
But do I ever call that waiting? Well, I certainly try to avoid it. What I've found is that doing something else or simply deciding that I am not, has profoundly affected my experience of what I once would have described as waiting. My patience has skyrocketed, my enjoyment when running errands has uplifted, and I find it easier to maintain what I term "the flow".
I invite you to try it on for a while. See how it affects your life. I have appreciated the shifts it has caused in mine. I still catch myself waiting once in a while, but I take that moment to shift my perception and reengage my will in another direction. Refuse to be waiting and see what happens.
I pray you find this useful in your daily life as well.
Alexis aka @alexstacy