Re-think "Success"

How would you define success?

Is it having wealth?

Is it being happy?

Webster’s dictionary has three definitions:

SUCCESS:
1 obsolete : outcome, result
2 a : degree or measure of succeeding, b :favorable or desired outcome; also : the attainment of wealth, favor, or eminence
3 : one that succeeds


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Of course, the definition of success has many meanings to different people for different reasons. It's not so easily defined.

However, society typically tells us that 'success' entails winning. In fact, from an early age, we're inundated with messages of what 'success' is and is not. We're taught the world is the way it is and our job in this world is to live our life inside this box that society tells us is a 'successful' life.

I remember my first college classes, the Professor asked everyone what kind of career we would like to have. He went around the room listening to each 'perfect' answer (which sounded like they were already applying for their new job) and my answer was simple, "I just want to do something that makes me happy and has meaning." The class broke out into a roaring laugh that went on until the Professor calmed things down. I was so confused by this, why would happiness be a novel idea and laughable? A few people added that 'everyone' wanted to be happy in what they did for a living but this wasn't the reality of 'life'.

Has anything changed? The majority of people I've met throughout life repeat this mantra - 'it's a job', 'it pays the bills' - but few will say that they are 'happy' with what they do for a living. And then there are others that I've witnessed taking this idea of success to the next level - stepping over others to reach that expectation.

Is this success? I wonder... Might it be more important to understand your reason for 'being' first?

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How many people can even answer this question given that they are exhausted, sometimes working 2 or 3 jobs, with very little free-time to even contemplate such a question, "What is your reason for being?" And of those that take the boxed version of success as the end goal, no matter the collateral damage to others, what do they really have that doesn't require more and more and more?

WHAT IF...We've had it wrong this entire time!

What if, we are meant to find our reason for being and apply it to our lives - to improve the world around us, add something to it, leave something meaningful behind. It's obvious to me, that if there were more of this, the world would be better for it. As well, we as individuals, would be better for it because we would have purpose/meaning. We're not robots and we're not meant to be crammed into boxes. No wonder there is an epidemic of unhappiness despite so many 'success' stories.

Why settle for the 'boxed' version of success? Haven't we reached that threshold of 'this isn't working' yet? Why not try something that is a departure from the ordinary - something that activates our passion and changes the world?!

If we can find what makes us come alive and believe in that, taking the risk of stepping out of our comfort zone of ordinary, life will meet us half way. I truly believe that!

One of the major obstacles to finding our own passion and success is Fear

I think that what prevents people from trying something new is too often 'fear'. It is almost as if we are afraid of our own success (or failure). We have not spent much time evaluating our inner terrain/dreams/passions - nor do we know how to implement this in our lives. Many of us resist trying things because we think we won't be good at them (even though we've never given ourselves the opportunity to try them) - we've not taken the risks to find out, to fail, to get back up again in order to learn this skill. We are too wrapped up in 'success' without even considering that success often times comes on the heels of many failures.

I fall into this category as well. I am absolutely petrified every time I hit that 'post' button. It's not comfortable for me putting myself out there like that. I am exceedingly self-aware of failing with something that means a lot to me (writing) and yet it has also been these moments of putting myself out there and feeling that foreboding fear of failure that has created moments of deeply moving exhilaration because I did take that chance. "Maybe wow...maybe I can do this!"

Did you know there is a name for that?

Fear of failure (also called "atychiphobia") is when we allow fear to stop us from doing what we would like to do.

However, the experiences and wisdom we gain while attempting something new is crucial to our survival and ability to grow as individuals and society as a whole.

Some famous failures:

WD-40
The name comes from the fact that the formula represents the 40th attempt to create a degreaser and rust protection solvent.
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Bubble Wrap
Engineers Marc Chavannes and Al Fielding created bubble wrap in 1960 in an attempt to create a trendy new textured wallpaper - it failed at being a wallpaper but succeeded in a use for packaging IBM computers
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Pacemaker
Pacemakers used to be huge – the size of televisions. Then Wilson Greatbach made a mistake that revolutionized medicine. When building a heart rhythm recording device, he pulled out the wrong sized resistor and plugged it into the circuit. When it was installed he realized it sounded like a human heartbeat. With some work, he miniaturized the device to two cubic inches. The result was an implantable pacemaker, which has since saved thousands of lives.
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Obviously, failure can be a direct path to success. Why not embrace it as part of the process of learning. Why not plunge in and start experimenting with those things that ignite your passions and curiosity, creativity?!

If you were to make a list of all the most famous 'successful' people they would all have a few common denominators: Passion, many failures and creativity

The creation of something new is not accomplished by the intellect, but by the play instinct arising from inner necessity. The creative mind plays with the object it loves. - Carl Jung

Success can come at any age!

Child's Play:

16-year-old, Daniel Burd, saw a need to solve the problem of the build-up of plastics in dumps and the ocean and set out to find an answer and succeeded. This would later be duplicated many times over by others.
Source

A 17-year-old from San Diego, California, solved a problem that has plagued scientists for years: More easily turning algae into fuel
Source

Mozart was already competent on keyboard and violin and composing from the age of 5

Magnus Carlsen became a chess Grandmaster at the age of 13
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Later in life - It's never too late!

Rodney Dangerfield is remembered as a legendary comedian, but he didn't catch a break until he made a hit appearance on "The Ed Sullivan Show" at age 46.

Charles Darwin spent most of his life as a naturalist who kept to himself, but in 1859 at age 50 his "On the Origin of Species" changed the scientific community forever.

Grandma Moses was a famous painter but never painted until she was 78!

Henry Ford was 45 when he created the revolutionary Model T car in 1908.

Richard Adams didn't realize his success until later in life after years working as a British civil servant. After telling his daughter a story about a rabbit, she insisted that he write it down and "Watership Down" was published and became a literary children's classic.

Peter Mark Roget had a passion for making lists and orderly language throughout his life. Well after he retired from his scientific/mechanical career, he began a book which would organize words by their their definition and the first 'thesaurus was born'. He was 61 years old when he did this!

These are just a few examples of what an individual's passion can do when acted upon - channeling that inner guidance that propelled their reason for being. They may have been successful in their previous endeavors, but it was the success of bringing forth their passions that added something meaningful to the world (and themselves). See the difference?

I think that if you can look back on your life, you'll find that familiar chord of passion/curiosity/wonderment has always been there - from the very beginning. Why not dust it off and take a chance in believing in it? After all, nothing is ever going to change by playing it safe by never trying.

Let's re-think Success and transcend it into something unlimited - capable of changing the world

Living from a place of purpose and meaning.

If you consider for a moment that everything around you and that is happening in the world is a product of people no smarter than you playing out their role of the ordinary (with the extraordinary mixed in), you realize that 'we' can do so much more if 'everyone' tapped into that extraordinary, passion-driven, purposeful part of ourselves. How amazing this world would be, how phenomenal the changes and the speed to which we could achieve AMAZING!

Try not to become a man of success, but a man of value. Look around at how people want to get more out of life than they put in. A man of value will give more than he receives. Be creative, but make sure that what you create is not a curse for mankind. Albert Einstein

One such person that I'd like to highlight as an example of this kind of transcendent success and change is Manoj Bhargava's story. Another late bloomer, after retirement he made billions marketing an energy drink. His wealth grew so quickly (success?) that he didn't know what to do with his new found wealth. Instead of using his success to live in luxury, attain power, he chose to look around him to the things that he could do to improve life for those that couldn't afford the basic necessities. This wasn't a disconnected philanthropic venture, but a connected one. He visited villages in India and asked them what they needed. They didn't require handouts, they required clean water, electricity, agricultural help. Bhargava set out to create a lab in Michigan with a number of mechanics and engineers, scientists to invent equipment that could produce clean water, desalinate water, produce electricity with little cost, improve the soil in areas where over-farming had depleted the nutrient-makeup of the soil. He also came up with the idea of finding organizations that were actually already making a difference in these villages (needing only the funds to continue their work) and he invested in them. In fact, Mr. Bhargava gives away 90% of his wealth to improve the lives of others, to give them the tools to succeed in life. This has not only helped those in India, but his inventions are now being used all over the world. How amazing is that?!

Manoj Bhargava's called Billions in Change:
Full video documentary:

In a lot of ways, I look at Steemit as a tiny microcosm of this - a platform to which to launch our passions and creativity/ideas in a community that embraces it.

So how do we tap into our innate AMAZING selves in order to transcend the world and find meaning and purpose in our own lives?

As I stated earlier, I think it's been right under our noses all along. It's always been within us and played out in the stories of some of the most famous success stories. 'We' are the AMAZING by way of our passions/creativity.

Something that most creatives can relate to, 'being in the flow', is at the heart of this. It's that non-cluttered state we reach when we are fully absorbed in the moment of creativity. It can also occur in a moment of immense inspiration. The mind becomes quiet and we are merely living in the moment. That's it!

I have been fascinated lately with a project called, The Flow Genome Project Source. It is basically a project that has studied and successfully implemented ways in which to reach full human potential by way of tapping into that 'creative flow state'. Something that we've known very little about and something that many self-help books have written about but not to the extent of understanding what creates this unlimited flow state of creativity. This goes well beyond conventional thinking into the realm of 'unlimited' potential and creativity - something that I believe human beings are quite good at which AI could never duplicate.

Interestingly enough,

the National Institute on Deafness and Other Communication Disorders took 12 professional rappers and ran them through an fMRI machine. While their brains were being scanned, the artists listened to an 8-bar instrumental track and were asked to rap -- first memorized lyrics and then their own, unrehearsed rhymes. That is, what academics call "spontaneous lyrical improvisation...what they noticed was that during freestyle, there were significant changes in the pre-frontal cortex...The areas implicated in processes like organization and drive were marked by an increase in activity, while those parts responsible for close self-monitoring and editing were deactivated. In this context, the authors explain, "self-generated action is freed from the conventional constraints of supervisory attention and executive control," allowing sudden insights, seemingly unbidden, to emerge."

And in fact, the researchers believe that when they're freestyling, the artists are actually occupying an altered state of mind. A closer look at their brain activity reveals that an entire, unique network emerges during the process, one in which motivation, language, emotion, motor function, sensory processing and the representation of the artists' subject experience all interact in unusual ways to create the flow state.

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"Here, the researchers called special attention to increased activity that was observed in the part of the brain associated with the inner self, the subjective perspective unmediated by outside stimuli. That improvisation is the expression of an artist's musical voice, they argue, further strengthens these associations. It raises the question: Could this mean that we're most genuine during the first stage of the creative process, later to be mediated during the revision stage by outside constraints?"

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"There are moments when one feels free from one's own identification with human limitations and inadequacies. At such moments one imagines that one stands on some spot of a small planet, gazing in amazement at the cold yet profoundly moving beauty of the eternal, the unfathomable; life and death flow into one, and there is neither evolution nor destiny; only Being." Albert Einstein

According to Steven Kotler, Director of the Flow Genome Project, if you have trouble finding what your passion is, there are 4 steps that can help in making this determination and turning on that 'flow state': Source

Step One: Make A List

  • Write 25 things that you are curious about (detailed)

Step Two: Hunt for Intersections

  • Look for places where these 25 ideas intersect
  • You want to look for places where three or four items on your curiosity list intersect
  • Whenever we recognize a pattern, the brain releases a tiny squirt of the neurochemical dopamine and, for cultivating passion, this is a very big deal.

Step Three: Play

  • Identifying that overlap, play in that space for a little while. Devote 10 or 20 minutes a day to listening to lectures, watching videos, reading articles, books, whatever, on the topic. Feed those curiosities a little bit at a time, but feed them on a daily basis.

Step Three: Go Public (Steemit!)

  • The thing about cultivating real passion is it’s not just enough to locate those spots where multiple curiosities intersect. Sure, those are spots with lots of energy. Sure, playing in that arena will help with cultivation, but to really seal the deal you need some “public successes” in the area.
  • We humans are social creatures and adding social reinforcement to your passion is key.

Step Four: Turning Passion Into Purpose

  • Write down a list of 15 massive problems you would love to see solved. And by massive I mean something everyone has to deal with. Another of the points made in Bold is that the world’s biggest problems are the world’s biggest business opportunities.
  • Look for places where your passion intersects with a grand, global challenge. A place where your passion is a solution to some giant problem.
  • Suddenly, you’re looking at both a golden business opportunity and a way to use your new found passion to do some real good in the world. Now you have a real deal Massively Transformative Purpose.

If I were asked again today what kind of career I would like to have, I would have the same simple answer, "I just want to do something that makes me happy and has meaning."

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I think this is probably one of the items on my 'passion list' - one of the most important items. This is the kind of thing that gives me chill bumps just thinking about it - seeing human potential and creativity transcend the world into something AMAZING.

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Now I just have to wallpaper my studio with bubble wrap!

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@youhavewings this is such a brilliant post. I love the way you think and write.

Today, I saw a friends post on facebook which read -

I look forward to getting to work today

That to me was success right there. Sure she worked hard to get her place set up and her business up. But the fact that she has that joy and passion to live and to work, that right there was success.

It is our wins that brings us the greatest fulfillment - and I love how you have just iterated, and written such a well thought of article here that not only supports this idea - but gets one thinking it doesn't make any sense to think of success any other way.

Looking forward to our paths crossing more on this steemiverse - I love how your mind works.

Such a sweet comment, @kchitrah Thank you so much. And so wonderful that your friend enjoys her job :) It's really nice to hear that - passion is important in life.

I look forward to our paths crossing more, too. Thank you

Have a beautiful day!

I feel pumped after reading this. Not even being sarcastic. I can feel success coming...SOON.

Hey @enforcer48 ! Nice to hear. Enjoy the ride!

I have so many things to now go watch and do because of your post! hehehehe missed you at DITO !
Hopefully we will see you nxt time! would love to hear your insight in the show!

:)

Hi @dreemsteem! I think you will really enjoy both those vids - inspiration! Nice balance. I would love to start a flow state experiment on here - would be fun to hear everyone's experience.

I thought I would make it back in time, but my son has music classes at the same time. If I can figure something out to chime in from my cell phone... ;) I did read the feedback and it looks like you all had a really fun time together. Very excited about DITO :) Hope to see you there another time.

I've watched one of them so far - so very interesting!!!!! I'm definitely going to have to check it out some more! Here is something that I noticed... I have a mood imbalance that allows me to have months of extreme highs - and it is VERY much like the "flow state"that they described. I have been reading a book explaining how to maximize this "high" season while minimizing the crash that inevitably follows. I wonder if others like me (they do suspect that Mozart might have also been the same - along with other creatives) were really in this same state that they described.

I've often told people that if I could have something (medication or a treatment) that would stabilize my mood - taking a way my extreme lows - but also taking away my extreme highs.... i wouldn't do it! People don't usually understand that perspective, but it's because they have NO IDEA how absolutely addicting and powerful that high phase is. SO MUCH creativity and energy and ideas and clarity!!! it's amazing

as I think about it... it really makes me think about people who are diagnosed and medicated. (of course there are times when it is NECESSARY to medicate. I won't even deny that) but I wonder if others didn't really need it? and could thrive under it...

really fascinating stuff - i love the brain! Even with all its delicate fragility - it is the most amazing organ!!!

and yeah - we had a REALLY great time this week. I think it was one of the best DITO we've ever had!!!! you can download discord onto your phone! sometimes its even better and clearer than the laptop version hehehehe

I've been there since the beginning! and usually do make it to every one! so I will probably see you next time if you can make it!!! :)

I am so happy to hear that you think all this is interesting. And what you've shared is equally as interesting to me. I worked for a man that was manic depressive (in fact, my Love post, mentions his company in the news clipping). Probably one of the most interesting people I've ever met and what a story that man had! Whew! Vietnam Vet that ended up living on the streets of Miami (homeless and heroin addict) that ended up being saved by a nun, turned himself around and ended up being a millionaire within a year. He was a visionary of mass proportion/who was also a manic depressive. My husband and I spent many a night at work (many!) during his 'highs' trying to materialize his visions. During his lows, we wouldn't see him for weeks at a time. Very interesting story. So I do get what you are talking about and that is incredibly interesting that there might be a connection to the highs. Very possible! Sounds similar. The brain is very interesting and so is the 'where' inspiration comes from. I think we have just tapped the surface of this.

As to your question about balance. You know the body is an amazing chemical factor and it is quite possible that during the highs, you use up some of those chemicals and so your body has to replenish it. I say this because there was a very interesting NPR radio show I listened to decades ago where a man had a wife that spent her whole life with serious depression (in and out of hospitals), many suicide attempts until she finally succeeded. The couple had 10 kids together and the youngest child seemed to be showing signs of depression like his mother and was progressively worsening. This was something that ran on the mother's side of the family. Each member of the family had to stay with the youngest child 24/7 because he was trying to kill himself. The father was desperate to help him and heard about a farm feed salesman that was using 'amino acids' and other vitamins in his feed that was having a positive effect on livestock in the area. So the father asked the man to give him the recipe of amino acids, etc so he could try this with his son. The results were immediate and startling - his depression completely went away. Soon the word spread to the rest of the town and people were coming to the father to get this recipe for their loved ones. The man was giving it out freely and so many people were being helped. I have searched and searched for this man's story (now that we have the internet) but I can't find it. BUT I am sure that if you look within these lines of amino acids - you'll find some connections. Maybe not this man's recipe, but certainly there has to be 'some' literature on this.

The other thing to look into is the whole hormonal triad - when you are stressed or burning the candle at both ends - it effects the triad of hypothymus, thyroid, adrenal glands (which produce all kinds of hormones including serotonin and pregnenolone(your happy hormone))...the triad can't keep up and if one of those hormonal storehouses gets overwhelmed, it effects 'all' of them causing a multitude of symptoms - including depression, low energy, concentration and a myriad of other physical effects.

Check into 'pregnenolone' and 5-HTP (the precursor to serotonin) and amino acids that might be helpful.

I sure hope I can join in next time! And thank you so much for your comment and feedback - I always enjoy deep discussions like this.

Have a wonderful day, @dreemsteem

all of this sounds fascinating!!!!!!!!! and yes - i actually read an article (it was a post that i did too) about how i found that my symptoms actually really resembled that of adrenal burnout. just... the body shutting down from overtaxing the adrenals. and when they finally have had a chance to recuperate - they kick back on again

the problem is - my baseline is overdrive. LOLOL so its a neverending cycle.

and i'm the same as your friend! when i am in low - no one sees me. They just think i'm busy - or not feeling well... but - it's just isolation in the low time.

I really wish you could find that farmer story!!!!!! i'm dying to read about it now hahahahahaha

i would leave a MUCH longer comment - BUT.... I have a show in 2 hours that I need to prepare for hehehehe

love this! can't wait to talk more :)

I will definitely research on that, @dreemsteem Medical research is actually something that I enjoy doing - call me crazy! And I like helping people feel better so I'll let you know what I find.

What show are you doing? I feel like I know you because we connect so well together but I guess I don't know much about 'you' LOL Does that make sense?

hahahahaa yes it does make sense!!!!

it happens often on Steemit, I think - when people share great conversation over comments or posts!

yesterday i did a show called Curation Corner where I was the guest :)

Here is the link for it (it starts at 4:00 - i am just talking about silly things up until 4:00 - didn't know it was taping yet hahahahaha)

Curation Corner with guest @dreemsteem

you can know a little bit about me here! (just scan it for a little bit hehehehe and you can see what i'm passionate about on Steemit!)

and i'm looking forward to seeing what kind of medical research you find!!!! :)

Hi @dreemsteem! I just finished listening to the show you did! I am just so inspired and impressed with your work. Really exciting. I want to hang with you all, too! LOL That whole show gave me such a different impression of Steemit. In fact, I've been meeting a lot of people lately that have been so inspiring and positive.

You have such a sweet and caring disposition and this really comes through hearing your voice and the way you care about your welcome wagon family - thank you so much for sharing the link so I could get to know you better.

I spent years struggling between what "society" defined as successful and what my heart felt...unfortunately...decisions made early on often leads to respondsibilities that require one to "stay the course" in order to provide for a family etc....not a lot of room to manuver....also...the pace of life today is exhausting just to "stay even" which leaves a lot less creative juice left....I have learned to change my idea of success to a much more intimate....enclosed sphere....I realize that being available for others close to me provides me a satisfaction without the world needing to know or see....small wonders work for me...of course...I never extinguish the dreams...just don't hold onto to them so tightly....

"May your day be more than you hoped for....and less than you feared"....I left that note this morning for my wife...

Your post had a lot to ponder....thanks.

Thank you so much for your feedback and comment, @bobreedo

I agree, life does kind of pile on top of us the responsibilities - we have to take care of our families and loved ones.

Keep that passion alive inside you though ;)

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