* Things you should not break: trust, promises and hearts *
There are three things you should not break: trust, a promise and a heart. If we think about it, few dimensions are so valuable in life. Thanks to them we manage to progress through our becomings with more ease and security by feeling part of a project, part of someone. They are those pillars that, in case of collapse, leave us more vulnerable than ever ...
Something that social psychologists and even sociologists often comment on is that at present, there are many people who relate to others under what is known as a risk mitigation model. That is, some people avoid going too deep into their personal and emotional relationships in order not to be hurt, to experience disappointments, frustrations and some disappointment.
"It is impossible to go through life without trusting anyone; It's like being imprisoned in the worst cell: oneself. "
-Graham Greene-
This "saving" of emotional energy, that affective containment promotes links of poor human quality, recyclable relationships that come and go or that remain in a frivolous superficiality layer. This, of course, mitigates the risk of being injured at some point by building the most innocuous bonds with a taste of substitute happiness. However, is it really worth living in that frigid anteroom where you can not allow anything authentic to germinate or happen?
One aspect that we can not lose sight of is the fact that each of us is genetically "programmed" to trust others. It is something that we need, and we need it with all our strength because in a way our survival has always depended on each one of those individuals that make up our closest social group.
Nobody wins if they live constantly distrusting others. It is earned by deploying resources, energy and intentions, being emotionally courageous, mobilizing openness, positive attitude and being clear that there are three aspects that should not be violated or broken: trust, promises and hearts.
Things you should not break, things that are worth much more than money
The repair of lost trust is one of the most complex, delicate and challenging efforts that human beings can experience. As children they teach us, to the majority, that there are certain things that we should not break because they cost money, because they are many years old and irreplaceable or simply, because what is spoiled, fragmented or split in half can no longer be used again .
Rarely do they let us know that there are other things that, despite not being able to see or touch each other, break up more frequently. What's more, there are invisible dimensions that fragment like the bones of our body and that curiously, take much longer to heal. We talk about how not trust, promises, respect and affection that is inscribed in the hearts of the people we appreciate.
Sometimes, the child's gaze learns early to neglect these valuable presents because their own parents neglect them with them. Because feeding children with promises that are not fulfilled later leaves a mark. Because growing without counting at any time with real confidence of the parents themselves leaves a permanent dent. Likewise, that it is our people who break our hearts in the most elementary ways, such as the lack of attention, shapes our behavioral and relational style in a large number of cases.
The things you should not break are those of the heart and sincere affection. Those that although they are not seen are irreplaceable.
Those things that you should not break allow you to invest in your own well-being
At present there are many aspects about our brain that we still do not understand. One of them is the variability that exists when dealing with a trauma. Some people develop a state of permanent helplessness, a kind of chronic stress where they rarely manage to build strong and happy bonds with other people. Others, however, apply an attitude towards life that places them at that level of humanity, of emotional excellence, of which we should all learn.
There are those who in the past saw themselves lost adrift in the company of their broken pieces. To this day, and even being fragmented, he knows that only those who offer the most courageous trust to others are worthy of trust. They are those people who never forget their promises, who keep them before winds and tides because they know well how betrayal hurts.
Those resilient and luminous personalities are also those who understand how precious a heart is. But they also do not forget how fragile it sometimes is, how fearful it is when the affections are not firm, when it is fed with lies, with doubts, with manipulations and camouflaged betrayals.
Those things that you should not break are therefore the same that will allow you to have a life with greater sense and dignity. Because whoever gives deserves to receive, because who speaks the language of trust, understands the meaning of the promises and knows how to listen to the sound of the hearts of others without damaging them. Thus, it is worthy of the same rights, of the same gifts. Those that contribute to the construction of a more respectful and above all, happy reality.
The usual thing for me, is that relationships are based on trust
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