Spirit Centric Relationship Agreement

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Introduction

The intent of this document is to articulate the moral and ethical standards upon which all individuals will govern themselves within life and within the scope of this relationship that they all want to create together.     

Individuals  

This relationship is between ___________________ and ___________________.  

Scope  

To manage expectations, each individual will outline in an appendix to this document, a list of mutually agreed upon responsibilities that will outline the scope of this relationship.  If the responsibilities are weighted to one side, then to balance the energy equation, a reward will be provided to ensure an equal consideration within the relationship.  As each individual is worthy to receive a reward for work or value added, it also creates a debt if that reward is not settled by the end of each day.  Usury shall not be used in this relationship and all rewards be settled at the end of the day to avoid debt or servitude.  All efforts will be made to maintain independence at all times as creating dependencies is inherently harmful and would violate the spiritual ethics and morality code set within this relationship.  Individuals within this relationship also recognize that historically these types of relationships were accomplished through fictional constructs like corporations.  While these tools were typically used to limit liability, spiritual relationships require that each individual accept full responsibility and accountability for their actions or inaction.  Should any issues arise, this agreement will have protocols to help the individuals resolve them peacefully.  This is not a contract as they bind individuals, restricting them and their freedom.  Rather, this is a relationship that respects the spiritual ethical and moral standards to ensure peace and freedom for all.     

Ethical and Moral Standards  

Love, peace, freedom, goodness, joy, faithfulness, gentleness, patience, self-control and kindness are all fruits of the spirit and are the guiding foundation for this relationship.  Being involved in a relationship at this level requires a zero tolerance for violence, coercion, abuse, force, greed, theft, envy, hatred, discord, rage, lies and the like.  Individuals involved in this relationship agree to engage in the relationship with the highest ethical and moral standards.     

Jurisdiction  

As this is a spiritual centric relationship, it falls within the jurisdiction of the Kingdom of God, a spiritual realm where fictional constructs like, corporate, municipal, provincial and even federal jurisdiction does not apply.     

Intent  

As with any relationship, strong communication skills are essential to ensure that full disclosure is achieved so that all other individuals have an opportunity to engage with full, informed consent.  Depending on the level of relationship being explored with this document, that level of full disclosure could be fairly detailed, personal and confidential.  It is the intent of individuals involved in this relationship to build a level of trust and confidentiality to ensure the good faith of all involved is not tarnished or harmed in any way.  It is also the intent of all individuals involved in this relationship to ensure that no harm comes to anybody, whether that be through any action, inaction, ignorance or incompetence.  All individuals will take it upon themselves to be consciously aware of all aspects of the relationship and take active steps to remedy risks that are not acceptable by those involved.     Individuals will outline a risk mitigation strategy in an appendix to this document should specific risks manifest.  Each individual may have different tolerances to risk, so a consensus will be required to ensure that everyone is fully aware and consents to this relationship and the risks associated with the relationship.  

Dispute Resolution  

All relationships have disagreements.  What sets the relationship apart from most others is the ability and willingness of the individuals to work through the dispute in a safe, respectful and equitable manor.  As everyone is living life with full responsibility and accountability as well as the highest moral and ethical standards, disputes should not happen.  However, all individuals also recognize that we all make mistakes from time to time as we are not perfect or infallible.     Forgiveness is a foundational principle to the dispute resolution process as it is of the utmost importance and shows the greatest character and highest stewardship towards spiritual growth, ethics and morality.  However, at times it is difficult to forgive.  In such instances the individuals within this relationship agree to follow a three step dispute resolution process.  

  1. Address the issue with the other individual(s) directly and in a timely fashion.  Any delays will cause the issue to grow and accelerate.  The issue will also be done face-to-face or as personally as possible as all individuals recognize that technology like e-mail, texting, social media, etc are poor communication modalities and can exacerbate the problem further.     
  2. If the issue can not be resolved, then the individuals agree to bring in two or three witnesses to act as mediators for their dispute.  This mediation is a non-binding mediation process as force and coercion is not a foundation of this relationship. 
  3. If the issue can not be resolved even with mediators, then the individuals agree to bring the issue to a public forum where 12 people are invited from the public to sit as a jury to mediate the dispute.  Again, this is a non-binding mediation process, but if individuals refuse to follow the recommendations of the jury, they risk their own reputations as there is jeopardy involved.  If the dispute can not be resolved at this point, then this is grounds to dissolve this relationship and implement the exit strategy. 

In an appendix of this document, the individual(s) involved in this dispute resolution process will be identified, approached and consent obtained by each one of them to ensure they are able and willing to help the individuals within this relationship.     

Exit strategy  

All individuals within this relationship recognize that all relationships end.  Whether that be through death, differences of opinion, violation of ethical or moral standards, etc.  To ensure an equitable exit from this relationship, the individuals will outline a strategy on how the relationship will end that is fair, equal and impartial.  This exit strategy will be outlined as an appendix to this agreement.     

Witnessing this relationship  

Founded on the highest ethical and moral standards as set out in this document, each individual will agree to govern themselves on the highest standards possible.  May the word of each individual reflect the honour and integrity to commit to this relationship with free will and without constraint, witnessed by two or three individuals who can testify to this relationship agreement.  May each individual's yes mean yes and no mean no so that no oath is required.  Each individual will stand by their word and let it reflect his / her commitment to this relationship. 

 _____________________    
Witness One  

_____________________    
Witness Two  

_____________________    
Witness Three 

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Bravo brother @wwf ... This makes our relationship more healthy and far from materialistic. ... @harvardhomestead has written a great post about this.Let go of Judgement: We heal in community
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I advise everyone to follow her and read her publications.
The government courts are punishing the oppressor... that's wrong... because this means continuing injustice ... the right is to change the oppressor and make him a good person in the community.and to be able to do this, our relationship with the oppressor must be the relationship a spiritual centric

Yes, @harvardhomestead is writing a wonderful blog and worth following. She is also a dear friend and neighbour. I look forward to her musings and they are well written and direct. I too advise people to follow her as she is doing some fantastic blogging.

Thank you for commenting my friend. I am grateful that you resonate with what I shared today. <3 We are on our way to resolving these challenges. But there is a lot of work ahead yet. One step at a time. Peace to you brother.

When I read this the first time (yes, I read it a second) the first thing that cropped up in my head was the use of this as a marriage contract. I was 17 years old when my father thought it would be a good idea to marry me off to some older rich guy (his friend). But my father being a greedy man wanted a prenuptial agreement. I remember shaking as I read the fine print. I wasn't supposed to read it, just sign my life away. I refused to sign and all the other parties tried their darndest to get my to sign on the dotted line.

Needless to say I left home shortly after (within the hour) scraping the dust off my shoes as I went. I met my future husband a few years later and I never felt the need for a contract. Ours was a happy marriage and we managed to work out differences without a contract.

Bravo to you. I think you are right. It could be used for any kind of relationship, whether for marriage, work, friendship, etc. Very astute observation. Thank you for seeing that. Sounds like you have had an interesting life and I applaud you for not surrendering to authority back then as a fathers authority can be very hard to ignore. That shows strength of will and spirit my friend. Bravo.

This is the best thing to maintain one's relationship with other fellow humans, wonderful idea by the Genius @wwf <3

This thing is necessary to teach the masses how they can build a superb relationship for e.g husband & wife, Brother and sister, student and teacher, colleagues, street fellow, sportsman.

It is a micro level approach to make your bonding strong and pure with others. Great idea with pious intention. I loved it @wwf <3 <3

I wonder if something like this could be adapted to work with family. Spouses, parents/kids, siblings, inlaws, grandparents, etc. Not sure about the exit strategy for kids though. I think it would be a good way to add more accountability and responsibility to families. Could even be a way replace the abusive foster care and CPS systems. Food for thought.

I originally wrote it for a friend as he wanted this agreement for work. However, I see no reason why it could not be used for any type of relationship. It sets firm boundaries and expectations of how people are going to behave and govern themselves. Putting it in front of a social worker should send shivers down their spine! Great idea!

Sir i like your ending sentence "Each individual will stand by their word and let it reflect his / her commitment to this relationship." Finally i found i good writer in steemit. Nothing to say about your writing. What a ending!!!

:) Thank you. I thank Creator for the gifts that he has given me to serve. Much of what I share is not my work but done through my vessel!

Wish I had been privy to something like this in my twenties ~ would have potentially saved me alot of grief.

But then again.

Through our mistakes and failures we learn.

Another great post, thanks.

xox

Ya, I wish I knew this years ago as well. I agree, it came as a result of mistakes and failures, so it is a paradox. How can one live on this principle without those failures? You actually need them in order to figure this out! Thank you for commenting and sharing how you feel about it all.

Yup. I would agree. Our work is similar! <3 Peace to you fellow SOG!

Just read your last article and now this one. I must say that these agreements and individual governance couldn't be explained more precisely than this. 👍

Thank you. <3

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stay blessed and keep it up

Read through my blog. I have lots of posts for new people. Welcome to Steemit.

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sir, my support always with your wonderful blogs,
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Thank you my friend. I am grateful that you are enjoying it all.

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