The Uncommon Woman.

Uncommon is anything that does not have it's kind anywhere. A no mass production. It is made for it's own sake and to fulfil it's own purpose. It means rare and more like a gem because you can hardly find it's kind anywhere.

A woman was created for a purpose, she was created that without her a man can not live. Everything was never complete until she was made. It was recorded that he who finds her finds everything good.

It is true women were created but out of many there are not just ordinary women. Out of thousands there are extraordinary kind of women and those are the kind of women am going to be talking about today.

An uncommon woman is a kind of woman that is not easy to find but when you do and lose her, you will never find her type again. She is the kind of woman that when she is around makes things go around. She is not just any woman, she is the uncommon woman- rare, hardworking, kind, full of energy, zeal, passion and drive. In your own word she might be a bosslady.

An uncommon woman is into herself, she feels her own person. Knows her worth and never settles for chitchats. She is always on the go. One door closes another opens for her, she does not know how it all happen but they just happen.

She knows her purpose in life. It's like she has everything all figured out- to you anyways. Funny enough, these things has her all figured out. She is strong and because of the many battles she has fought and won, she does not care of what you think of her; she knows she will always win. When ever she fails she picks up and that is why she is always winning.

On the contrary...

It's such a pity how some women have lost touch of their womanness. That thing that makes them a different kind of being- The womanhood.

How difficult it is for me to believe that some women have not realised their power, selfworth and purpose in life.

I know back then while we were growing up, we were told that before now in the history of Africa that women were only good in the kitchen and at making babies- they had no voice. No face but they were queens.

But anyways,now things have changed. Life does not end for a woman in the kitchen anymore. Oh... now I feel so sorry for our older generations. Life must have really been hard for those women who could not make their own choices and lived not their purposes as much as they had wanted to- but that is past now!

Those are old stories, this is why it baffles me when some women of today close their eyes to how much opportunities they have and chase stones instead of diamonds.

Have you defined your kind of woman?

You were not called to just be a female, you were called to complete and fill the gap, not just any gap- a purposeful gap. That is why it pains me in the case of marriage where women are beaten and treated badly.

They get into the wrong marriages because our African society says, "she who is without marriage is a failure." Then you program yourself that a perfect fulfiled life is actualized only when you are married.

As a result many are not concerned about what they are really called to do in life. So much pressure from family and friends and at the end of the day enters into the wrong relationship. Leading to marriage they discover they've married the wrong man. It becomes a problem, divorce sets in and if children are involved their lives are subjected to jeopardy. All in the name of not understanding or defining your kind of woman.

This might hit some men wrongly, but my question is: why do some women think that they need men to survive? Please do not misunderstand this. In the last episode of let's talk with @gloglo on love, relationship and what have you; @bob-elr raised a question:

Hmmmm @gloglo, now let switch to another topic.
How can one handle such obsessed woman or man?

In the first place in my opinion women easily get obsessed... am sorry but its true because with the way they want to rush into marriage it is only true that they become obsessed on the long run. Then I figured that probably @greenrun's reply could answer that question to some extent although it is a matter of choice to remain single or not.

It is the fear of what will happen if the relationship ends that keeps people in it. Once people realise that nothing worse than the toxic feeling that comes with a toxic relationship will happen, then they are better off single.

I picked this as answer because some women would rather prefer to chase people about or stay in a toxic relationship than build their own lives, which overtime grows into obsession.

I must say that I feel sad when a woman gets this way, if only she knows the strength she possess. If only she has fully defined who she is.

Dear uncommon woman...

You are beautiful, wise, full of grace and abundantly rich in goodness. You are rare and admired. You make the world go round.

You might not have recognised the kind of prowess you posses, all you need to do is search within you. Conform into yourself and see your true self. You are with purpose.

You might have gone through a lot but the race is not finished till the world sees more of you. Till you win. Till you are elevated. Never give mediocrity the chance to play tricks and mess your head up.

Remember that fulfilment is not only in riches or how many children you bear but the ability to influence others positively, adding values and give more to life. Continue till you win this race. You are an uncommon woman!

I dedicate this piece to all women of the world and to remind you that you are uncommon, I remain @gloglo, an uncommon woman.

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