Indonesian Make Up style that is quite disturbing to me / Trend dandanan cewek Indonesia yang bikin saya merinding disko

in #story6 years ago (edited)

Yesterday I stumbled upon a video and few posts in my friends' social medias which are quite annoying to me.
Perhaps, some of you would feel the same with me after you watch the videos I share below this article.
These posts are showing the recent make up trend in Indonesia which (IMHO) makes woman's beauty just looks so fake.
You can't even recognise the real person anymore.
Occasionally I'd love dressing up to be pretty and putting on make up as well.
However, I think make up should be used to enhance woman's natural beauty, to highlight the best feature and perhaps covering some tiredness sign or blemishes, but not to completely change the face and make us look like wearing a mask, and being like completely different person.
The foundation used in that video is faaaar too lighter than the real skin colour and so thickly applied.
If it's only about a mode trend, then it might not be so bad, as every single trend will be replaced by the next one anyway.
However, this is not only a short term trend in Indonesia.
The tendency of make up style to make the skin colour as fair as possible has been spread since I was teenager.
It was not that widely talked about because there was no internet and social medias.
The beauty concept of most Indonesians are reflecting the inferiority feeling grown in our society as a rest effect of 350 years colonialisation.

Perhaps you'd like to know the typical comments I heard from most Indonesian fellows living in Indonesia after seeing the picture of my baby, especially the one which shows her tan skin colour more vividly.
Yes, the first comment was normally like this:
"Eh, why doesn't she look like a half caucasian at all, she's rather dark?"
It also reminds me to a typical comment of old acquaintances, who just heard that I'm now married to an Eurepean. This kind of comment:
"So you're now married to a Caucasian? How nice, this way your offspring would get a quality upgrade, eh?"
Well, I know that it's kind of jokes, but still it is rather unpleasant in my ear.

Ok... scientifically, that statement does make sense, because indeed the gene mixture in children from binational couple might possibly create a more advantageous combination.
However...why do people tend to always presume that one has a prospective of having an "enhancement/upgrade of quality" by marrying a caucasian?
Do they want to say that their own gene quality is bad or what?
Why do they think so low about their own self?
My response to such comments was normally like this:
"Ah yes, you're right. My hubby has deliberately choosen me so that he'd get a quality upgrade for his offspring.
Look, my baby is super gorgeous, isn't she? He wouldn't have a baby with such a beautiful healthy tan skin if he hadn't married an Asian like me."
I can even save the cost for sun protection cream. ^_^
I'm always annoyed by such remark about skin colour because not every girl has a strong personality and could withstand any negative jokes about their appearance. I have 2 nieces, one has a dark skin and one as a fair skin.
The later has since childhood always been protecting the former with her sarcastic reply too whenever they were playing together and hearing people comparing them.
However the former one simply grew up being timid and has not enough self confidence, although our family member always treat them the same, and convincing her that she's not less pretty than other girl.

The fact that the entertainment industry recently only recruit mixed blood celebrities whose white skin and even ignoring the fact that sometimes it they just doesn't suit with the plot of the film.
Those make the public belief that white skin is the prettiest and dark skin is ugly getting even stronger and stronger.

Talking about make up again... my husband was freaking out by the idea of being a groom in indonesian traditional party.
Not only because he's a lone wolf... but because he doesn't want to wear such a thick make up in a hot climate like Indonesia, that is a real torture. :-D
And it would cost a fortune too, so we finally skipped that.
In our wedding in Germany we didn't hold a party nor wore an exceptional wedding attire and make up either.
However I still wore a traditional Indonesian dress: "kebaya" and "batik" skirt.
I also did my own make up. My husband didn't even wear a suit. My family told me that our neighbours in Indonesia confused the groom whenever they saw our family wedding pictures, because my brother in law has dressed him self more refined than the groom LOL.
Here I would post one of our wedding picture from nearly 10 years ago, now I have more wrinkle and have few more kilograms hahahah.



Just compare my look in this picture with the picture of the bride on the link below and also with

the YouTube videos I share to you here, then you'll understand why I'm ranting so much today. ^_^

A link to a picture of an Indonesian bride:

http://www.socimage.com/media/976055328404034142_989897451

Video:

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Rough translation in Indonesian:




Kemarin saya nemu postingan dan video di sosmed beberapa temen saya yang terasa cukup mengusik. Kenapa?
Karena ini ngga sekedar soal trend make up ataupun mode saja, melainkan karena itu jadi potret tendensi orang indonesia yang selalu merasa inferior orang indonesia terhadap bule yang nggak ilang-ilang juga meskipun udah merdeka lebih dari 70 tahun.
Kecenderungan merasa dirinya sendiri jelek hanya karena kulitnya ngga cukup terang.
Kecenderungan untuk mendiskriminasi sesama bangsa sendiri, bikin saya super gemas.
Suka BT tiap kali orang ngomong gini: "Ah, kamu telat kawin sengaja nyari bule, buat perbaikan keturunan pasti yaaa?"
Ya, saya tahu itu cuma bercanda...tapi tetep aja... kenapa sih candaan pun condongnya selalu yang negatif? Tidak adakah gaya candaan yang agak bermutu sedikit gitu?
Apakah dengan ngomong gitu, kita mau bilang bahwa gen kita orang Indonesia itu jelek begitu kah?
Diri sendiri kok dijelek-jelekin kualitasnya...sih.
Kenapa kok nggak dibalik aja? Saya suka iseng jawabnya kaya gini nih:
"Ya, emang bener tuh. Suamiku sengaja nyari bini kayak gue demi memperbaiki keturunan dia gitu. Tuh, liat kan hasilnya...anak gue cakep toh. Disini yang kaya begini jadi favorit lho."
Bayangin... temen Indonesia yang tinggal di Indonesia dan liat foto anak gue waktu di Malaga umumnya nyeletuk:
"Jauh2 nyari jodoh ke ngEropah anaknya "ndeles" juga sih, ngga keliatan indo-nya."
Paling jijay itu kalau denger orang Indonesia bilang yang disukai bule itu cewek muka babu.
Terlepas dari fakta bahwa banyak bule yang kawin juga sama cewek Indonesia yang kulitnya terang,
termasuk yang dapat cewek keturunan China Indonesia, saya jadi pengen tanya: "Seperti apa sih yang namanya muka babu itu? Emang ada UU yang mengatakan bahwa yang kulit gelap itu selalu pantasnya cuma boleh jadi babu?
Dan kok ya sombong amat merendahkan profesi babu. Kalau pas lebaran ditinggal seminggu sama pembantunya aja udah pada ribut gitu lho... Dan bukannya banyak yang tanpa adanya para asisten RT itu jadi pada ngga bisa kerja, anak-anaknya terlantar? Kok ya pada sombong sekali gitu lho...
Kaya gini jadi bikin saya mikir... apakah laki-laki indonesia kalau nyari bini emang cuma ngeliat warna kulit dan penampilan fisik doang?
Kalau iya... lah ya pantes aja banyak wanita berkualitas yang jauh lebih milih nikah sama bule...
karena mungkin memang lebih banyak bule yang ngga sepicik itu kalau nyari jodoh. :-D
Coba deh liatin video di YouTube diatas tuh... dempul nya berapa senti itu tuh, cuma biar tampak putih kinclong...
muka sama leher dan tangan jadi nggak sinkron LOL.
Saya juga kadang-kadang suka dandan kok... Cuma menurut saya, make up itu seharusnya dipakai untuk ngasih "highlight" pada kelebihan diwajah seorang wanita dan cuma sekedar nutupi flek, jerawat atau warna kulit yang tidak merata karena eksposure sinar matahari, dan bukannya membuat kita jadi berubah total sampai wajah aslipun sulit untuk dikenali lagi, kayak pakai topeng.
"Fake" banget gitu lho.
Tapi itulah trend di Indonesia...yang bikin saya super gemes hehe.
Disini saya juga upload foto nikah saya yang super sederhana, hasil dandan sendiri... bandingkan deh dengan foto dan video yang saya kasih link nya itu. Jauh banget kan hehehehehe.
Suami saya mah lebih suka saya nggak dandan malahan. Kalau saya mau pergi dan mau pamitan, begitu dia liat aku pake lipstik aja ngga mau lagi kasih cium lho... katanya dia ngga mau menelan "chemical" wkwkkwkwk.
Jadi sejak tinggal di ngEropah, saya malah jadi ngirit budget make up. :-D

Waktu mudik pertama kali ke Indonesia dulu dan mau kopdar dengan teman-teman yang di Indonesia di salah satu Mal besar di Jakarta dan melihat para pengunjung Mal yang lalu lalang saya jadi mikir gini:
"Duh...jangan-jangan saya nanti paling lusuh nih... jadi kayak "babu" beneran deh wkwkkwk."
Yang bikin BT lagi... Pelayan toko dan SPG yang jualan itu aja banyak yang mandang sebelah mata dan jadi judes lho ketika ngelayanin saya yang tampilannya nggak kayak sosialita, cuma pake sandal jepit dan baju casual gitu deh.
Menyedihkan ketika manusia begitu ekstrem dinilai cuma dari tampilan fisik doang.

Ok...sekian dulu deh omelan saya hari ini...

Sampai jumpa lain kali yaaa.... mmuach.

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Can't be agree more! Aq juga ga dandan. Sumpah,ribet. #timesup for fake, let's #makeupfree. Hashtag nyambung ga yaa..😂😂😂

Hahahahah nggak nyambung yah disambung-sambungin aja lah. :-D
Sekali-sekali dandan ngga papa juga, kalau pas mood buat dandan. Cuma jujur aja, sekarang jarang banget sempat dandan... keburu tereak-tereak anaknya hahaha.

You have addressed an interesting topic. First we moved to Bali, I thought, that only beautiful women walk around here, haha :-). But if you look closely, almost all women are extremely heavily made up. Without make-up, the woman would not recognize. Especially at ceremonies, all women look the same :-). I personally prefer natural beauty - even with small blemishes and wrinkles ;-). Really beautiful wedding picture :-). Greetings from Bali

Yeah...just to go grocery shopping they would dress up just like going for a party 😊.
My friends in Indonesia told me that it's too costly living there if you want to hang out with friends too often.
Even for children playdate they would set a dress code and suitable make up style... 😁.
They all want to be like those ladies in desperate housewife or sex and the city lol.

Yes, that's kind of sad. I often go to playdates with my daughter and the local kids are dressed like Barbie dolls or Kens ;-). Mostly the children come with nannies because the mothers do not have time. Last time a 3 year old girl asked me why I come with my daughter and not the nanny?!? I found that really sad that this becomes normality. Best regards to Germany

Das hast du Recht: Was für eine Entfremdung des Kindes von der eigenen Mutter ...

You are both very nice couple and look happy, as I can see from the photo of your wedding. You are beautiful naturally with not much make up.

I don’t agree with too much make up as in the video you shared, either!

I learned more about Indonesian tradition from your post. Thanks so much for sharing. ;)

Thank you 😊

You're welcome! ;)

Ich bevorzuge auch möglichst ungeschminkte Gesichter, denn die wahre Schönheit kommt von der Natur. Lass dich durch dumme Kommentare nicht ärgern oder irritieren. Ein Kind, das aus Liebe entstanden ist, strahlt von innen nach außen und steht daher auch in seiner körperlichen Erscheinung außerhalb jeder Kritik! Ihr seid eine sehr bewundernswerte Familie!

Vielen Dank für dein Kompliment 😊. Na ja, mir tut nur so Leid, dass das Schönheitskonzept so stark verzerrt.

It's really sad that the Asian culture is so much influenced by European beauty ideals. And in fact also the European is by other cultures, as tanned skin is seen to be more beautiful in Europe, even though most people are really pale. I needed to buy a deodorant when I was in Thailand and couldn't find a single one without bleaching ingredients. Even though the brand were European. I highly admire cultures like the Brazilian or Mexican one, that just live to their own beauty idols that seem natural to them.

Yes, that's true...every beauty product contain bleaching ...awful. Even the cheap ones and actually illegally marketed because they are using the dangerous substances, have always been sold out.

This make-up tutorial is awful, I agree with you. In Thailand we also have this "problem". Everyone is obsessed with white skin. I hope this will change in the future, but it is going to wrong way right now. BTW, both of you look great in your wedding photo, a beautiful couple. ;)

Thank you 😊. Most Asian nation seem to have this problem.

this is true a bit to much dear @kobold-djawa with the makeup :-) The man will not recognize his woman on the wedding day and he will maybe afraid to marry a another one in that day, hihi :-)

i am the only one who made a comment here? ;-)

There are some others as well, maybe page was not loading correctly? :)

I was fascinated by the tutorials, particularly the first one, and loved it. But personally, having seen a wedding where this was done I find it very sad that that in order to look acceptable in the photos etc these women had to look as light as possible.
Make up is as you say very good if used to enhance one's best features whilst still trying to look natural. But to paint a mask that really totally disguises the person.....I think that is only really for stage and theatre.
It is so ironic that people with darker skin want to look lighter and Caucasian, whilst Caucasians bask in the sun, or use tanning to look darker. Why can't people just be happy in their own skin?
My sister-in-law is Madeiran and has darker skin; whilst on holiday I felt ill while out for a walk on the strand. She suggested that I go through one of the hotels on the beach out onto the road and wait for her to go round and bring the car to the front of the hotel. I asked why she wasn't coming through the hotel with me. She replied "It is a foreign owned hotel and with my dark skin they will either think I am staff or won't let me in". I was shocked and outraged ....this was her country, yet she felt like a second-class citizen! Needless to say I refused to go into the hotel without her. So wrong.
Unfortunately it seems to be a growing trend.

I must agree with you. It's really a remarkable skill to be able to change someone's appearance so drastically like that. I have nothing against the make up artist. I just feel pity for the people who do such a drastic make over just because they think their original self is too ugly for no reason. ^_^
You can't expect others to appreciate you if you can't appreciate your own self.
And yes again, the worst of all is discrimination towards their own fellow citizens ...there is nothing worse than being 2nd class citizen in your own country.

i really believe :
"Beauty is in simplicity "
such a nice photo and great post
my husband and me also had a very very simple wedding party
your post remember me to this link about Demi Lovato(Singer Demi Lovato removes her makeup in a #AmericanWomen )
I've sent you the link

https://edition.cnn.com/videos/us/2018/03/13/demi-lovato-removes-makeup.hln

OMG!! That make-up is awful!! I can't understand why they hide their beautiful brown color and traces, I know some caucasian females that would love to have that brown color on their skin, me included!! :)

The grass at the neighbour's yard is always greener. However this is just a bit too much I think 😊.

Here we use to say the neighbour's chicken is always better than ours! Like many things in life "less is more", and in what concerns to make up, this should definitely be the main rule (I'm not a fan of make up).

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