"Dad is not a Barbapapa!" - He can not tear himself up or conjure up

If even their own children feel sorry for the stressed guardian.

The older daughter does the homework and asks annoyed: "Daddy? How much is 12 + 7?" The younger daughter desperately needs my help in finding the orange felt pen. The telephone is ringing. The soup goes over on the stove. If everything goes down on you at the same time, the stress feels most comfortable. It grows, flourishes and thrives. You want a spell like "Raburik Barbatrick" and a rubber body that can be expanded, deformed and made task-specific useful.

Yes, it may well be that the problem with multi-tasking is a typical male
This is also proven by studies. For example, a recent study by the Swiss University Hospital Balgrist. The scientists ran male and female subjects on a career track while completing specific language exercises. And they found out that under the influence of the additional language task, men no longer ran so "roughly", the right arm did not swing as strongly as the left one, compared to the running style without mental challenge. Background: The swinging movements of the right arm as well as the language are controlled in the left hemisphere. Neuroscientist Tim Killeen concludes: "We were surprised to see a steady gender difference in the interaction of two relatively simple behaviors - cognitive control and arm swing."

Help clever tips in the acute stress phase?

A more exact example. Three months old baby screams and wants to be rocked rhythmically back and forth. Four-year-old sibling puts his fingers in the drawer. Dog escapes through the garden fence and barks that one hears it in the whole neighborhood. And it rings at the door. Let's see what psychology has ready:

"Close the right nostril with the thumb of the right hand and breathe in slowly and deeply and through the free left nostril, then close the left nostril with the ring finger of the right hand and hold your breath and count to eight Release the thumb from the right nostril and breathe fully out and back in. Hold the breath as described and then release the ring finger from the left nostril to exhale, then inhale again left and start the cycle over Repetitions: inhaling and exhaling should be about the same length on both sides. "

Or how about relaxation music?

"To find peace and quiet, typical relaxation music ... to touch the soul and help you to immerse yourself in your own fantasy world." Relaxing music accompanied by natural sounds, sounds like the rustle of the forest, the sound of water and birdsong have a soothing effect on the body and psyche, so you can find the balance between body and soul and feelings of happiness come true. "

Yes, exactly, if the kitchen is steaming, just keep your thumb at the nostril and insert the CD with wood music. So easy? The reality looks quite different:

While the stress sufferer takes this advice into consideration in his mind's eye, the eardrum bursts from the cry of the children, the Pinscher has already irrigated at least three ornamental plants in a manner not intended by the botanist and is now dedicated to traumatizing the neighboring cat. So there is only one way in which ordinary dads can survive situations that make earlier job crises or other nerve tests such as cotton ball battles appear.

eyes shut and go for it

Establish an order of urgency and work off stubbornly. Her daughter fingers groped with an ice pack, her baby rocking rhythmically, blowing on injured fingers, bouncing baby rhythmically, comforting the patient and ignoring the barking of dogs, catwalking and neighbor's hysterical groaning - you can not change that anyway. You can not hear the doorbell anymore.

It also proves to be helpful, if you eintrichtert the growing children at every possible opportunity: Not all at once. Dad is not a magician. No Barbapapa. And no inspector gadget. If you want something, pull the number and put it in the back.

So ... and now just capture the puppy and give the neighbor a yoga chillout CD as an excuse!

Did I forget something? Can you think of any more points?
I´m looking forward to your experiences and additions.

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