RE: The Spiritual Laws of Engagement - Part 1
I'm happy to hear that Matt Kahn is your teacher. I love his videos and have gone to see him a couple times for evening teachings. The energy that comes out in me in his presence is so light-hearted and playful that I know something very true is having its flames fanned.
This is another great article from you. I will resteem it, and you know, while I'm quite new here on Steemit, I have a pretty large group of spiritually conscious folks on FB and I'm planning on getting as many of them into Steemit as I can convince to give it a try. As part of that I intend to give them a few great Steemers to follow to get their feed started, and you are definitely going at the top of the list, my friend.
This is already a long comment, but I simply must tell you one of the key things I got from reading your post....
I realized that as far as I seem to have come with my spiritual progress in so many ways, this blame thing still has a hold on me. I blame myself and I blame others.
That feeling that I haven't done enough, that I missed a step, that I'm not where I should be because, because, because... I can see it, but can't quite shake it. I constantly work on accepting the perfection of what is an abandoning the hope of things being different so that it can all be okay to me. I make progress, then I see the same old patterns again.
The same with blaming others. If you met me, you would think I was the most supportive person you've ever known. And I am really supportive of people. I take delight in the well-being of others. But I also suspect fault in others when things are not what I want them to be.
I see this even in a simple thing like playing an online card game against robot opponents. I get so mad at some of those robots! Every trick my team loses, I'm looking to see what my robot partner did wrong.
Now if you play with me in person, I keep that under wraps. I keep it so suppressed that I don't even know I'm doing it, let alone my partner (though there usually is a tension in my gut that probably traces to that suppression). But with the robots, I guess my identity as "good" doesn't feel it needs maintenance, so I unleash my blaming tendencies on those poor little robots, which means on myself, since I'm the one suffering from it. (Though to be fair, chicken and mouse are particularly horrid partners with a tendency to sometimes throw away an Ace of spades for no good reason.)
It is so important that we keep these insights about ourselves available to our conscious minds. That way when we are doing it we can catch ourselves doing it and make a different choice. Otherwise, there is the part of us that knows this does us no good. And there is the other part that keeps doing it anyway.
Thanks again for this article. I have to give it more thought, and see what progress I can make out of applying it.