Relationship: A Pledge for a Safe Relationship | The Dating Pledge

Recently, I came across a wonderful book about having a healthy and safe relationship. I thought it is a good and thoughtful guide to have a safe relationship in the future and to protect myself from getting into a toxic relationship again. It is important to feel loved and safe in our relationship and not unworthy and being in the state of constant fear. I have decided to share the list of a pledge to have a safe relationship because I feel it will be helpful to everyone. The following list also has some good boundaries that are essential to have a healthy relationship:

1. I will not beg or plead for someone. Any man or woman who bring me to that point is not worth my heart.
2. I will never tolerate any criticisms about my body, weight, height, work or any other insecurity that I might have. Good partners wont being me down because they will empower me and raise me up.
3. I will take a step back from my relationship every month to make sure I am being loved and respected and not all flattered and love bombed.
4. I will always ask myself the following question, “Will I ever treat someone this way?” If the answer is no then I do not deserve to be treated in that way.
5. I will always trust in my gut feeling. If I feel a negative vibe, I will not ignore it and take it seriously.
6. I understand that it is better to be single than to be in a toxic relationship.
7. I will not be spoken to in a condescending or sarcastic way. Loving partners will not patronize me.
8. I will not allow my partner to call me crazy, jealous, or any other forms of projection.
9. My relationships will be mutual and EQUAL AT ALL TIMES. Love is not about CONTROL and POWER.
10. If I feel unsure or confused about any of the above, I will seek help from a friend, therapist or a support group. I will not make decisions on an impulse.
    
    
    Feel free to share it around. I wish I came across this guide before my last relationship but I am glad I did now. Sometimes, we get so blinded by love and take up a life mission trying to save someone by letting them destroy us along the process. It is not wrong to love someone. However, do not go to the point where you neglect yourself and let the person you love murder your soul. Get out as soon as you can and embark your journey of healing till you are ready again for relationships. Have a safe and healthy relationship.
    
    

Source: Psychopath Free book

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