Are We Attracted To each other #1

When it comes to what causes one person to be attracted to another, it is can be easy to believe that it is simply due to effect that the other persons personality and/or appearance has had on them. These two factors will then have had the biggest effect on why someone is sexually attracted to another person.

One way of looking at this would be to say that these are the only two things that someone is aware of when they come across another person. Sure, there can be how much money they have or how famous they are, for instance, which can play a part, but in general, there will usually only be two things for them to go by.

• One Outcome

If, after one feels sexually attracted to another person, they end up taking things further with them, there is the chance that this area of their life will go from strength to strength. One can then look back on when they first met and reflect on how well this area of their life is going.

It could then be said that one had the ability to see that this person was right for them, and this is then why they were attracted to them. This is then similar to seeing something that is healthy and having a strong need to eat it.

• Different Challenges

Now, this is not to say that they won't ever argue or experience conflict; what it means is that this won't be something that permeates their relationship. And, even when they do have a disagreement, they might typically be able to resolve it in a mature and loving manner.

There is then going to be no reason for either of them to lose self-control and to blame the other. What this can show is that they both have the ability to own their own feelings, instead of making their partner responsible for them.

• Looking Back

This could be how this area of their life has been for as long as they can remember; one is then not going to have been in an abusive relationship before. There is the chance that one had a fairly nurturing childhood.

Alternatively, they may have been in a number of relationships that were not like this. What this could illustrate is that one has had to work through a lot of baggage in order to be able to experience life in this way.

• A Different Outcome

On the other hand, after taking it further with someone who they feel sexually attracted to, they may find that it is only a matter of time before they start to feel completely different. This is not to say that this will take place after a few weeks or even a few months, as it could take a little while longer.

After the so-called 'honey moon' period is over, one could wonder what has happened to the person they were with at the beginning. It could be as though this person has been replaced by someone else.

• A Big Surprise

Consequently, it is going to be normal for one to feel confused and even victimised by this person. It might seem as though the view that they had of the other person was nothing more than an illusion.

They might come to believe that this person was out to deceive them from the start, knowing exactly what they were doing. However, although it can seem as though they had absolutely no idea about what would happen as time went by, this is not the complete truth.

This article will be in series, so this is the first part. Anticipate part B.

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