Limits of Compassion: Caring About Smaller Suffering More Than Larger Suffering

in #psychology6 years ago

Numbers can make us numb. A personal detailed account of singular suffering get more compassion compared to a generalized larger suffering. Our compassion has limits, as we tend to care more for a personal story because of how the details affect us emotionally. An impersonal statistical account will not give us a personal connection to identify with.


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Think about it. I can describe the detail of what happened to someone in detail. A person can even have a picture to show the horrors. But when talking in general, we only gives the overall conclusion, not the specifics details. Even the details might be general to many, and not identifiable with one specific person. This greatly affects our capacity to identify with the suffering of others.

Ten year old Johnny sits idle, as his stomach groans. The soles of his shoes hang from his feet, falling apart. Today is free lunch raffle day at school, and Johnny knows he needs to get that free lunch or he will go without food for another day.

According to the United States Department of Agriculture (USDA), there are 15.8 million children under the age of 18 who are unable to regularly access enough nutritious food necessary for a healthy life.

Tell me, which of the previous two paragraphs hit you the most emotionally? Which one made you care more? All it took was words and emotional appeal to make you care. One child vs. 15.8 million, and the greater suffering matters less...

Numbers and statistics don't affect us like language does. Language has the richness of imagery and symbolism to describe so much of our reality in the color of life. Numbers are cold and bland, black and white with no vibrance of imagery to invoke our imagination or emotional capacities.

Reason, and emotion, are part of our lives. Both matter. We need to feel reality to care to do something in reality. Statistics about reality don't mean we can't care about certain things, but the tendency is to not care because of our dependence on linguistic emotional invocation to affect us emotionally. We can care by hearing numbers as well, we just have to correlate the numbers back down to the reality that is affecting individuals, and visualize what is happening to them.

To demonstrate our bias towards individuals vs. general collectives, one study asked people how mmuch they would donate to help save the life of one child, or 8 children. On average, people chose to give the effort to help 1 child $11, while the effort to help 8 children only $5.

Another study had 3 options. The first showed a picture of a little girl from Malaysia, allowing up to $5 donations. The average was $2.25 for her. The second option was to help hundreds of thousands of African children, and the average was $1.15. A third option was a mix, to help a girl from Africa, but also shown statistics about other starving children in Africa. Before being shown the data, the average was $2.25, while after being shown the general statistics the average fell to $1.40.

One more study shows hows, saving child 1, child 2, child 3, etc. will give the same donation. But when you add an option to save multiple children, the donation amount goes down, rather than stay equal or go up proportionally.

We are people, not numbers. It's hard for us to identify with cold numbers. We can see ourselves in others as an individual, especially with a picture, but not in an abstract numeric representation of others.

The news always ties a big story, or general event, etc., with a personal story to get the viewers to identify with the news more and care more about what is going on that the news covers.

Government uses statistics to report issues within the country, like homelessness, starvation, malnutrition, and more, yet won't expend resources to deal with it, while they do spend much more than is required for those issues on other things like war and the military industrial complex. People don't catch on.

We identify more with the patriotism and nationalism as part of who we are, and the "threat" we are under requiring us to "defend" ourselves from "boogeymen". This is much more emotionally affecting than hearing how numbers of people in our country are homeless, poor or malnourished. Numbers can numb us. Personal issues we relate to get us to identify more with it and care more about. We aren't homeless or starving, but " I am an American", it's "my country", so that matters more personally to motivate us to care more and be more willing to do something about.

By knowing this bias and flaw in our thinking, we can overcome it and be more aware of how numbers numb us to larger universal suffering. There are larger issues going, and we can learn about them more in order to understand how they are of importance, despite not being immediately relatable to us in our personal lives. Instead of cheering on patriotic fervor for our nations to blindly support anything, we can also care about what we collectively are doing to other nations as we try to "defend freedom" or whatever other justifications we have to not care.


Thank you for your time and attention. Peace.


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Very thought provoking post!

Numbers can be cold but problems faced by a larger group can invoke equal reactions as the sad story of one. Two key things matter here - one how descriptive or stimulating is the text used to decribe both and second, is the audience for both different? A person that has an imaginitive head will see the suffering in numbers. A statement like "1 in 10 children in the US are malnourished" will draw his/her attention to the fact that kids are not being fed well and he/she will think of a poor weak kid in torn clothes. There will be compassion. A statement used to decribe the same text as above that says "1 in 10 kids arent able to find enough food and live a life of indignity and extreme poverty" will generate more compassion and emotion.

Clearly, based on your example, statistically it seems to be the case that larger group of people that have faced suffering get let compassionate responses. May be the mind plays a trick as people think about an absolute total sum required to help those in need (thus for a larger group, the per capita amount is lower). Second, may be our bias is affecting the donations. Pictures of kids from africa or middle east may draw lesser compassions as people from these countries have be duhumanised over the course of history to justify killing them as a side effect of war (however the studies you have cited do seem to take care of this bias). And war makes sense to the govt. The rhetoric helps sell guns that in turn funds a political campaign and gets one into power by forming the government. It also means more money for the shareholders of defense tech companies.

The post was a great read. Thank you for writing such good content.

Yeah, the mind does play a trick ;) Relating to certain people vs. others also might factor in. People have different prejudices as well. It's complex hehe. You're welcome, glad you gained value from it. Thanks for the feedback.

I have read that idea that when we use numbers it does have a numbing effect to people. Millions starving in Africa will be less effective than showing a malnourished child with an empty bowl.

I work in HR and when I make reports I sometimes use anecdotes or pull up a profile to drive home a point.

Humanizing data is an important way in order to get people to care, to have emphathy. Maybe it comes from our perception that numbers are cold and images and words carry more impact to people.

Also the bigger the number the harder it is for people t imagine so by goiing 1 out 5 people suffer from depression, will have more impact than say 4 million people suffer from depression.

Yeah, I tend to talk in universals, abstract concept that underlies much, and rarely use individual concrete examples... hehe. It make sit harder to relate, but I'm elaborating on overarching understanding that can apply in many areas and sometimes the specific examples escape me :/

Numbers and feelings correlatation is the same as thought and action, mind and body. They influence each other... In order to make your statement atractive you have to show the most shocking information of both: The general issue and the impact of the situation in the life of individuals. Great article... a few typos to check, but it is legit information! Thank you

Thanks for the feedback. General/universal and specific/individual, indeed. Yeah I usually have typos, oops :/

Unfortunately, these readings are skewed.

We ask govern-cement to help fix the problem
but the largest part of the problem is the govern-cement.

Kids going hungry in The US?
There are thousands of free food give aways.

With understanding where these are and when to be there, a grown person needs less than $20 per week for food. That can be gotten through collecting bottles and cans.

But really, it isn't the really poor that is going hungry, it is the (usually single mother) families that make just over the "legal" limit for aid.

So much food is thrown out every day... and there is often laws to prevent you from feeding the homeless.

So, really, it isn't a problem of money, or statistics, it is actually govern-cement that prevents us from helping.

Those playing on heart strings are more correctly, part of the problem.

Yeah, food is wasted so much in society, at supermarkets, but also in homes when people cook, or after by throwing things away. People playing on heart strings are not the problem... emotional appeals are useful to get people to care about something, like offering canned food to help maybe...

When it comes to war and peace, and starvation and death--

We won't know the whole truth until all the half-truths add-up.

~Quiplet

...and they never will.

a useful article for us, thank you for sharing, I will keep reading your post, I think post and many meaning of the meaning of a language, I like. continued success of friends. compact greeting.🙏🙏🙏

Psychology always playing the mind game, informative and insightful post @krnel best of regards

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