For some people, childhood is the best time of their life, but there are those who remembered the horror of this time because of the bad luck of having terrible parents. Of course, the bad relationships that these people have had as children with their parents are preserved throughout their lives and often brings them many problems as adults. These are people who have failed to build a mature personality and develop a true human personality. For this reason, they constantly seek confirmation of their value in others. They don't pay attention the the feelings of other because they believe in themselves to be better than them in every respect. But for their role in the queue, there are many types of camouflage that can be used for a very special occasion.

Narcissistic people need a "narcissistic resource" to nurture their impaired image of their own personality by using a spouse, a partner, a friend, a family member for that purpose. The most common victims are their children, as they are hierarchically placed in a lower position and are still in growth and development, so it is impossible for them to put barriers. This allows the narcissistic parents to manipulate and control the being dependent upon them as they wishes. Being in the role of such a "resource" is not easy because one of the signs of narcissistic personality disorder is the inability to sympathize with others. To express sympathy, every narcissist can be very convincing, but he really can not sympathize, but merely mimics. Many become psychologists, doctors, working in charities to keep their reflection of the savior. In reality, however, other people are simply inanimate puppets or scenery that scare them if they can not establish complete control over them. Those who are raised by narcissistic parents often live with the feeling of being lost or injured. Such parents instil a constant sense of guilt in their children and make them constantly doubt themselves and the world around them. They happen to resort to domestic violence to control their resources but most of them are confined to emotional blackmail and psychological pressure. They are not able to understand the needs of others, can not tolerate other disadvantages, and easily ignore the problems of their loved ones. They like to pretend to be anxious, but they often humiliate people with their indulgent care, and if they do not get it, they immediately turn to accused and harsh criticism. Narcissistic parents are usually two types. The absorbing narcissus is the parent who sees you as a part of himself, almost as a continuation of your own body and constantly trying to control your life, never taking into account the fact that you are a separate person. The ignorant narcissus is the parent who has no interest in being a parent, and everything related to his child is simply an annoying obligation. Seeing the difference between your needs and desires and your own, he will always prefer to satisfy his own. He's almost not interested in what's going on in his child's life unless it can be beneficial to him.

Signs of being raised by narcissistic parents:

They control you through dependence. If one of the parents constantly repeats "I need you" or "can not live without you" to the child, it is a clear sign of a narcissistic parent. Such parents manipulate their children to be always at their disposal and do everything they can to make them feel obliged. In any way, they prevent even the slightest manifestation of independence, initiative and independence. Such a parent will do his best to prevent his child from becoming an adult, no matter how old he is. They often induce guilt. "You will never appreciate how much I have done for you!" Is the favorite sentence of such parents that seeks to make their heir do something they do not really want, without being interested in the causes or feelings. parents use the blame as a lever to manipulate their children and direct their behavior to their desired direction.Nationalists always look for reward for everything they have done at some point in their lives for another person and they always use it as a weapon when wishing to p obtain them something, even without the consent of the other party. You get love from them only when you do what they want. The favorite play of narcissistic parents is giving and taking of love. Do everything you want unmolested and ready! You get love. If you refuse, stay and watch how you take it back. So they inflate the meaning of their own value and the feelings they give to others, and they show you that they have the power to do with you and your emotions as they wish. The system of awards and punishments they exercise in the field of feelings is the best tool for manipulating the surrounding, and above all helpless, victims such as children.

They compete with you in a strange way. Every time you come up with a new dress or hairstyle, narcissistic parents will think of something better to turn the focus of attention on themselves. It is extremely painful for these people to focus their attention away from them. Even if you just take the floor, if you are in a group of people, they will hurry to take it away, so that they can show up. All your achievements turn into your parents' achievements. Narcissistic parents regularly use their children as an opportunity to increase their own ego and magnify their image in the face of others. For example, if their child has won a race, they will always find a way to turn things around in such a way that they look like their success, such as commenting on something like: "he has inherited his athleticism from me"; or "well, it was me to wake him up so early every time for training." But either way anything you do is never enough. Either it is not good enough or is not important enough, so besides growing up with the idea that you are not "sufficient" you have not many options. They lie and do not keep their promises. Narcissist parents love to keep their children "on the edge" so they are never sure what will happen. Like what they will do after an hour or tomorrow. This is another way they manipulate and control. If they constantly displace the truth, they lie, give vain promises and trap you, if you feel you can never trust what they say, surely you have narcissistic parents. Not to mention that they either never show their true feelings or thoughts, or overexposed their negative ones, to make you understand how 'unfair you treat them' and "how much pain you have caused them". In case you ask them to do something, they will do the exact opposite of what you asked for. In this way, they affirm their own personality and show you that you can not tell them what to do. Routine insults and threats. Narcissistic parents tend to use humiliation, embarrassment in their child, and a sense of inconvenience as a means of control. These are extremely unpleasant parents who use insults, threats to achieve a manipulative advantage. They react critically to criticism. At one point, of course, children feel the need to fight against their parents. If you had narcissistic parents, you know that criticizing in any form is a bad idea. Because they will explode, scream or start offending you ugly. No matter how careful your criticism is, they will never think about your words, but will regard them as an act of hostility towards their personality.

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