Super grateful to be here on Steemit. There is so much of importance to me and so much experience to write about. I seem to have nowhere close to enough time to write about all the stuff that I feel is of value, so deciding what to write is a tough decision.
Because I have had so much to write about of interest to this community, and because it didn’t seem like the topic of parenting was very popular, I have not written much about my family, parenting, or my relationships.
Yet this is the biggest part about my life these days, as I now have 3 children and live in a community of 15 plus people on a daily basis.
So not only is parenting a huge part of my life, but I also have found that it just may be the most important/influential part of life and thus deserves WAY more exploration and evolution.
Parenting is the foundation of all of our lives, for better or for worse.
I also said that I was going to make a blog recapping my extensive travels in South America these past months. Because I took my family with me, I feel it’s very important to address some of the core consciousness in regards to parenting/family, as our adventures through South America were highly dictated by this. All actions I take go through the filter of does this benefit my family and live up to my ideals or not.
So I am going to dedicate this time to make a post about why I feel parenting is of such great importance and give some insight into what results I have had improving my life and the lives of many others so much over the years. After this post I will make a few posts introducing my children so you can get to know them also, as I would like to start posting about it much more.
So first off, I want to say that I have always been around children. I had younger siblings as a child and started a very successful “baby sitting” gig when I was about 10-12. I did that quite regularly until I was 16 or so and could make better money for my time elsewhere.
I have also been speaking at conferences on parenting/education since I was 18. Even though I didn’t have children until I was in my late twenties, parenting has been of great importance to me because I know the great influence it has on our lives and have also felt that the way education and parenting is handled in this world—especially this country—needs MAJOR improvements.
While speaking at conferences on parenting but not having kids, I have met some resistance from parents saying things like “when you have had children for 15 years then talk to me about it” or “how can you talk about parenting if you don’t have children?” etc etc. My response has always been “I was a conscious child, and because of that remember what worked and what didn’t work and also what it’s like being a child in an adult-controlled world. I also have been around children with great success for my whole life.”
Despite not having children myself, I have had a lot of experience and great success helping other parents and families greatly improve their lives. The people who were able to sense that have reaped the rewards through my talks or private consultations. I even had @adamkokesh film a TV show at my eco village one time, and he was blown away by the competence and responsibility of such young children. I will make a post with that interview sometime also.
Now it’s true that it is way different being a “parent” as opposed to being a “baby sitter”. Just because children have always tended to like me more and listen to me better than their own parents, that does not necessarily mean it could or would successfully apply to them as “parents”.
However, now I have 3 children of “my own” (I do not believe parents should “own” children or treat them as “property”) and have also had children living under my roof at The Garden of Eden for many years.
I have had great success with all the children that have come here. Not only getting along with them playing and such, but more importantly helping greatly improve their behavior and overall capability. We have 4 year olds in diapers, children with tantrums, children incapable of doing almost anything but making messes etc etc. In very little time in this environment they evolve leaps and bounds.
“My” 3 children are also quite exceptional, and I credit that less to their genes as I do their upbringing.
So the question may now be “well what is exceptional and what makes them exceptional?” So I will take some paragraphs to list some of the “achievements” that I deem to be successful and be worth the word “exceptional”. Obviously success is relative, but I think everyone can agree that happiness, health, and responsibility are of the utmost importance.
All 3 of my children, including my very first, were born naturally without any professional influence. No doctor, midwife, doula, or even books on the matter were used nor needed (I will make a post specifically about natural birth and even a post about giving birth in a third world country). None of my children have ever had a shot, a doctor check up, or taken any kind of western medicine ever—of course that means no vaccines or immunizations. Despite this, they have always been and are currently exceptionally healthy, smart, and strong. None of them have ever been seriously sick with anything more than a runny nose and cough.
All 3 of my children have been going pee and poo in the toilet since they were 3 weeks old. They of course were not strong enough to take themselves to the toilet, but were conscious and smart enough to be able to do it on command VERY consistently since that age. This is one of the greatest proofs that I use to try and get through to parents just how much potential children have and just how misunderstood their potential capability is.
Both my 5 and 3 year old have been voluntarily helping out with chores since they were about 2. They are great at doing dishes, putting away toys, sweeping, dusting, wiping, and any kind of general cleaning tasks. They know how to and help us properly plant and harvest our food. They know what all the edible plants are and also what the non-edible plants are on our land. They even know the names of many of them!
3 children having fun while washing mason jars, using well water from our land!
They both help with the preparation and cooking of food. They both have been using very sharp kitchen knives with extreme competence and responsibility since they were 1.5-2, chopping vegetables, and even dicing garlic! They can even fry their own eggs over open fire flames.
They learn things very, very fast and have very good memories. They are generally capable of doing whatever it is they want to do, and they are excellent communicators with a great depth of vocabulary.
They eat very healthy foods, take natural medicines or supplements if necessary and its not an ordeal.
They hardly ever whine, almost never fight and are fully capable of having "adult conversations" about important matters. They are very reasonable and when it comes to some kind of a debate they agree with logic and reason and also use arguments based on logic and reason. They even compute mass amounts of information and come to deductions on their own about life matters on a regular basis.
I could go on and on listing things they have done that I find extraordinary, but what is actually most important to me is their well being. They are VERY happy, honest, free, healthy, responsible and still innocent. They have a great love for people and themselves. They have not been broken or scarred.
I have found that “parenting” is a very touchy subject kinda like religion and politics because its so personal. While I disagree with most parents, I also respect that every parent has the freedom to parent as they see fit. I have not tried to change parents but to be there with love and wisdom for the ones who are ready to be responsible and present parents. I am not here to say what's right or wrong, or even to give advise. Just simply to share my REAL life experience and the super extraordinary results I have gotten. This revolutionary perspective has changed lives and been a great benefit to those in alignment with such perspective.
"Quinn Eaker is an inspiration! Through his words and his actions as a rad daddy, he reminds me to look to the children as examples of free living, free thinking, freewheeling...
We at Wild Family Studio are grateful to have his superb contributions in film and book projects, and we're lucky to have his philosophy on record."
Director at Wild Family TV
Because of my very alternative lifestyle living in an eco village and my unorthodox parenting style, I unfortunately have had CPS (child protective services) on me multiple times because of reports from haters trying to hurt me. Yet every single time I have handled them with great success, without having to compromise. In fact, there are hundreds of people that would testify to these children being as happy, healthy, and capable as any children they have EVER seen. I even have affidavits used to deal with CPS, not just under penalty of perjury, but also pains of death saying that I am the best father they have ever met and wish they had me for a father.
I feel that the most influential changes humanity can make for a healthier and happier future lie in the evolution of parenting/education. Because of this, parenting is of the utmost importance to me and I feel it is one of the most valuable contributions I can make to the world.
In future posts I hope to share what parenting is like from my perspective and how parenting can be not only successful, but enjoyable as well. At some level, all parents want is for their children to be a success. Unfortunately, the way parenting/education is generally addressed does not result in real success, especially success that guarantees health, freedom, fulfillment and happiness.
I really hope this topic and my perspective on the matter is of interest and value. Please comment and let me know.
Almost all the world’s problems start with parenting, thus the solutions to the world’s problems lie in New Paradigm parenting~*~