How to recognize a bully
Is it true what they say (state) about bullies?
Yes you can recognize a bully by his/her certain behaviour and appearance since he/she is;
- is likely to be aggressive (so it is not black humour or a bad mood once in a while we are talking about),
- has a lack of social skills (what ever that may be),
- thinks negative (that glass is always half empty plus the whole world is against him/her),
- experiences difficulties in solving social problems (so some helpers are welcome to do so and those who can solve problems are seen as a threat and should be destroyed),
- comes from a negative family, school and community environments (birds of a feather I guess, so a small chance parents or school will wash the bully his/her ears firmly.),
and is - noticeably rejected (yes if it comes to it a bully is unpopular, a BIG loser but he/she still exists and knows how to instruct his/her mob and... gets the so wanted revenge),
- might have a brain damage (not a reason to accept this kind of behaviour).
Does it make a victim feel better if he/she knows how to recognize a bully
Personally I have doubts about that.
To my opinion, and personal experiences, not all bullies do have low self esteem. The narcissist and psychopath for example has not. Also the more intelligent a bully is, the more dangerous.
My advise: stay alert, work on your own self esteem and beware!
Keep in mind that even those who do not show aggression and are kind at the start can turn out to be the best bullies and even serial killers, in the world!
###NOTE
Serial killers say they were frequently bullied through direct and indirect methods as children or adolescents.
Henry Lee Lucas, a serial killer and diagnosed psychopath,
said the ridicule and rejection he suffered as a child caused him to hate everybody.
####Kenneth Bianchi, a serial killer and member of the Hillside Stranglers,
was teased as a child because he urinated in his pants and suffered twitching, and as a teenager was ignored by his peers.
_ It is realised from these recent studies that individuals who were previously involved in a violent childhood whom was effected mentally and emotionally due these experiences later rationally adapts this violent behaviour and provokes other victims._
If this all is true I have a very good reason to be a bully and serial killer myself. My childhood is a very good excuse for that. How about yours?
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Well said Kitty, the truth is that psychopaths have had a terrible childhood, at least most of them. So I could be a psychopath too, although I'm not beaten up and such. Why do some turn out to be 'healthy' where others become 'ill'... DNA could be a factor...?
I am sure DNA, envy, aggression and a low self esteem are the keys
I think so too. Often, the most 'bad people' in history were beaten and/or abused in one way or the other...
But still way more of this "beaten up" group did not became a serial killer... also a big group had a normal or even great childhood ans still turned into a sadist, molester, abuser , killer.
That's where DNA comes in to place I guess, however some people don't believe such a thing exists... You know who I mean... Not every abused child becomes a criminal, but most of the criminals are abused as a child, I think... Do you know what I mean?
I know what you mean but I do not believe most criminals were abused as a child. I do believe most use it as an excuse. It is also what lawyers tell them to do since.. it is a way to get away with their deeds. I believe serial killer, criminals are born that way. Already as a 2 year old they were dangerous kids.
I think it's both possible, or a combination. Children who are abused, sexually often become abusers too, the same with violence etc. They have seen it as an example when they were very young. But it's also possible you break the cycle. But it can also go on for many generations.
It is not quiet true.. we love to believe that (the government makes us believe that). Women mainly are self hurting (SH) and men setting stuff on fire. For a part behaviour, no matter what kind of, is habit for the other part it is dna.
So sadists are born like that, incest and rape is preached by every religion and even the governments say it is fine.
My last bully had none of these traits, though.