[Financial Freedom] We re-recognized the "missed"
——Previous review——
How did I miss an upgrade?
When I was about to leave new East in the summer of 2007, when the last class was over, a girl walked up to me and gave me a business card and said, "I have a friend, he want to see you, I don't know do you want."
I said freely: "Anyway, I am free. I should have time." So I get out of the business card and go.
In fact, I delayed at least three terms before leaving New Oriental. Every time I say this is the last class, the result is that the teacher is not enough after the next holiday. The director of foreign languages department says, "Xiaolai, please come back help teach them." I often promise. So, it was not until the summer vacation of 2008 that I felt completely left. As a result, during the Spring Festival in 2009, I went back to help to teach two classes again.
After a few days, I remembered this matter, pulled out the business card, and called the person on the business card. At his own request, I concealed him real name and replaced his name with "Zhuang Yi" - Zhuang Yi's title is a founding partner of a well-known venture capital. At that time I had no contact with the venture capital circle, so I just felt like I had heard of this well-known venture capital. However, what exactly was the venture capital was no concept at that time.
Everyone may not know that before the New Oriental teacher left New Oriental, he was basically a "Woodlouse"—because it was actually a rather closed environment with New Oriental reasons, but more was the reason for the New Oriental teacher’s own mentality: anyway, self-consciously Earn a lot of money and live up to your life, so you can easily enter the state of "indifferent to the outside world"...
Those who have experienced a similarly closed environment will feeling it.
It is very comfortable when you inside. But once you have to jump out and face a more intense environment, you will be very uncomfortable.
It would be nice to be prepared sooner.
This may be the feeling that everyone will have, and most people are the same at this point.
Only some people just think about it, and then continue to return to their familiar environment until the outside world forces him to make changes.
But some people will take the initiative to jump out and sum up experience and face challenges.
This part of the people will not just stay in their comfort zone. Because they know that the world is changing, your comfort zone is changing. If you don't take the initiative to change, then you can only passively adapt.
It turned out that Zhuang Yi was invited to Stanford to study for an MBA, but he was feel embarrassed to go directly. Although the other party said that you only need to come. But he feel need the exam will be tested, otherwise it will be "not kind". Want to quickly get the TOEFL/GMAT, but his schedule is too chaotic, there is no way to go to class... So his assistant reported two classes, each teacher's class sounded at least one section, and then selected her Trusted himself, "handed a business card."
We know because this way. I don't think it was something. I used the shortest time to talk about the system of the two exams and quickly passed the most important points. Then we meet once or twice a week to talk about specific details. In the process, I slowly find, this man is a legendary figure in the domestic venture capital circle, and it is strange that there is very little information about him that can be found on the Internet.
However, I have always been accustomed to not inquire into other people's affairs, it has never been asked. In those two or three months, Zhuang Yi left a deep impression on me: A person who is flying around and who can only sleep for only three or five hours at a time can actually complete his homework at the airport and then free up time. Come to me again... I like all who hard enough things. He is obviously such a person.
When Zhuang Yi set out to meet in San Francisco before, he said, "Well, you have told me so much. I will also give you one class, teach the methods of starting a business?" - The effect is so great. The words are really obscure; because for me, it was after all the "seven years ago class" thing...
His tall man stood there and wrote the whole white board, erased it, wrote it again, wrote it again, came again... and talked for a full two and a half hours—basically, the time equivalent to I had spent a whole class in New Oriental.
At the time, many of the details that Zhuang Yi spoke about, I now have complete forget...
As soon as two years passed, when Zhuang Yi returned from Stanford, I did not have much specific changes. Before he left, I and my former New Oriental colleague Xiong Ying engaged in a study abroad consulting company. When he came back, we were still doing that study abroad consulting company, but in fact there was no growth. In fact, there was not much change, and anyway, it did make money. , but the kind of thing that is not "entrepreneurship" in my eyes today, is just "transaction"...
In the second half of 2013, I started to invest in angels and bump all the way. By the beginning of 2014, I went to Silicon Valley. On the plane, I suddenly remembered that one afternoon a few years ago, Zhuang Yi was standing in front of the whiteboard in a room of Suzhou Street Dahezhuang Yuan to tell me something.
The feeling of that moment is entirely a feeling of "awakening from a nightmare".
I tried several times, still unable to recollection what he told me at the time, only to remember that it was the same thing, and then, with a general impression, but the details were completely blurred - it was just like a dream when wake up, then not seeing the details.
I see:
At that time, everything Zhuang Yi said, I actually didn't listen into at all...
Many readers read my article and will say:
It’s written too well, it’s too right.
But after a while, if they think about what them have read, it is estimated to be the same as my reaction: Actually didn't listen to it.
The thrill of reading can give people the illusion that life will automatically become different if they understand the content of the article.
But that's just an illusion. If you can't think of what you read in the first place, in fact, these words don't mean much to you.
In the end, you will think of it after you have passed the detour, you have read similar reminders.
Although he was sitting there at the time, I only felt that he was a founding partner of a well-known venture capitalist. He must have spoken something more profound than I thought...
In terms of modern words, it is "unaware", but in fact it should be "determined but not clear".
Although we have to meet at least once a year to chat at least once a year (I have a very natural habit of contacting friends who may have broken connections if they don't contact), although I through he knew Mr. Zhu Min (even Mr. Zhu Min write for "time as a friend" prologue in this period)... All this communication did not pull me out of "no sense". I was still acting in accordance with my original ideas, and there was no feeling about entrepreneurship.
What is the hindrance to me?
I'm not really the first time this kind of experience. In the "new life - seven years is a lifetime 《新生——七年就是一辈子》", I wrote another experience, the title is "how I missed my whole life 《我当初是怎样错过一辈子的》".
In the communication with the entrepreneurs again and again, I finally see: the situation I had in the past was the same as the entrepreneurs I met. The reaction that they are in front of me is actually the reaction that I had in front of Zhuang Yi:
I think you're right, but it doesn't seem to have much to do with me... After all, I'm not you, you're not me, what you can do, I can't do it... I'm still trying to do what I can do...
Sometimes, we missed it just because we feel that it has nothing to do with ourselves.
Sometimes, we just try to convince ourselves to escape the difficulties, this matter has nothing to do with me.
As I always say:
Teaching is the best way to learn.
But most people just think that it makes sense, people who actually practice it are still a minority.
Because they still regard themselves as a student, and never considered the problem from the teacher's point of view. You may not need to be a teacher, but you will learn better when you can think about it from this perspective.
Just like an entrepreneur, don't feel that you are just an entrepreneur. If you can really listen to investors, think about it from the perspective of investors, and it will definitely have more help for your career.
After I reached this conclusion, there seemed to be a magical force at work, and I gradually began to recall clearly what Zhuang Yi was telling me at the time: Basically, I often tell people now. Those ideas: how to find great value in the process of changing the industry, how to lock the longest track, how to quickly grow... Even I began to be a bit unclear that these are what I struggle to learn, or was it that many years ago Zhuang Yi planted a seed and eventually sprouted?
...It does not matter. What is important is that I am lucky, not only lucky but also exceptionally well, so I went from one path to the next. With luck, if it is possible that I am still living many years ago now - if so, I would not have the current panic, fear and treasure for good luck.
If I am not lucky enough to go to the present situation, I will not be so shocked by this incident:
Just "thinking that some concepts are not relevant to yourself" can make one live forever in another "self-consistent world."
To think about it, this truth is very simple:
Some ideas, you feel related to yourself, it does not necessarily work; but in turn, if you think that have nothing to do with you, then it will not work...
In most cases, we have not been able to do things, not because we don't understand it, but because we want to fully understand it, and ultimately we have not taken the first step.
In fact, no one can figure out everything at the beginning, and no one starts after trying to understand all the truth.
Those students with good grades have one characteristic:
Can listen in the words of the teacher.
Most of the teacher's words are related to themselves, so I might as well go according to what he said. But if you feel that these words have nothing to do with yourself at first, they will not work in any way.
On the other hand, I am not a person who is not indifferent to thinking. I am not a person who just wants but not do, but even so, I also still lose it. Moreover, there are at least twice "losing" - it's just because that luck is so good that even after a lose, it can be "recovered." We must know that the second chance in life is so rare that I could meet my second chance twice. Isn't that lucky?
Then, the fact that I'm feel fear is:
However, the time in six or seven years passed. It's really scary to think about it.
Of course, sharing this experience (including previous experiences), the most important thing is not to show how good my luck is, but to add a note to the previous explanation:
Some of the ideas are really important, but they are either too simple or even despised, or they are too counter-intuitive or even impossible to believe...
However, the most likely cause for people to miss the turning point and miss the upgrade opportunity may be this:
I feel that the idea is reasonable, but I don't think it has anything to do with myself...
I can respond now:
"Feeling doesn't matter" is an illusion, it must just an illusion, and often the most fearful self-proclaimed prophecy. If we take the initiative to absorb that concept, follow that concept and it will "actually have a relationship"; it doesn't matter we don't do it well. Nobody did a good job from the beginning, so it's time to do it desperately; It doesn't matter if you can't follow the conceptually at first, when you try again and again, you naturally begin to dig deeper. To do it, you must do it vigorously, and you must think deeply about it — otherwise, it will be totally unrelated to you.
"Feeling", "Thinking"...
You didn't do it don't because you didn't really do it well, but you just thought you couldn't do it yourself.
More precisely:
You think that you can't do it "forever."
The reason is because your goal is too high. When people started out, they always liked to make some "over-expected" problems.
Compared with these over-targets, the starting point we started is very "unbearable." The obstacles of "ideal plumpness, realistic skinny" may be set by ourselves.
So at the beginning, don't worry about whether you have a relationship or not. Just do it right.
Have the first step, you will naturally know what the next step is to be appropriate.
This is why I would emphasize the reason why "My column recommends readers read do not ignore any one word" because this column is about escalation of ideas, not casually writing, casually reading, just entertainment and happy, you want happy I give you happy things. It is not only necessary to "do not ignore any one word" but also "repeatedly read" because the underlying concept is often dressed in "simple" disguise, and even most people feel indifferent and feel that they have understood...
Now, I explain to you with my own, rare personal experience. The most important thing is that many important ideas will be disguised as "Let you feel like with you have no relationship" and make you miss life without knowing it. Therefore, not only do you have to read, but you must read it again and again; not only do you read it repeatedly, but also assume that each concept has a huge relationship with you. All senses are mobilized to create a sense of "involvement," and to study and go Imagine if this idea is absorbed by oneself, what should oneself be like?
【The Better chapters】
About how to miss the opportunity:
——How did I miss an upgrade?
About cognitive change bring the greatest freedom:
——Give you a "master key"
About the reason for really determining the amount of wealth:
——The most important ability you should have!
About is your money counted as capital:
——Do you have any capital?
About what is the real cheap cost:
——Pay is get more! Do you really know?