What IS normal? My thoughts
I don't know what the general consensus between people now is, but when I was younger, and found life really confusing I was one of those people that used to sigh and say quietly and inwardly,
"I wish I was normal"
"I wish I had a normal life like other people. A mortgage, a car, a partner and a life"
It seemed like these things came so simple to other people, my friends, my family, but not me. I struggled to keep a job down never mind a loving partner. Life to me seemed so abnormal and abstract, even connecting with the people that I should be seemed a difficult task,
And I would watch my friends and their connections with people would flow easily. They made it seem like it should be natural. It should be inherited into the very nature of my essence.
I was definitely not normal.
No way.
I lost a lot of confidence in my teens. Watching everyone at school flowing in and out of relationships, and me, there on my own with my one or two friends.
And then as a young adult, as I desperately tried to cling onto the few friendships that I was able to manage. I didn't like that I was on my own.
God forbid they got angry with me and ended up challenging our friendship.
"Please don't leave me. Look, I can be really nice. Honestly"
But after a few years into my late twenties a beautiful thing happened. I started to enjoy being on my own. I started to enjoy being in my own company.
Explanation here: https://steemit.com/depression/@lifeisawesome/are-you-depressed-or-do-you-know-someone-that-is
And as I grew and aged and gained confidence I realised that more and more people have quirky differences like me, and some people struggle to get a few sentences out, never mind have a conversation with someone.
And then that led me on to thinking - is there really a normal? What I term as normal could be totally different to what others would call it.
Put it this way, I had a young man look at me once when we were discussing gaming, and he said: "Wow, I didn't expect a normal guy like you to like that type of game" this is when I would describe my mentality as completely messed up.
It should have clicked then, but it didn't. I should have noticed that everyone describes normality from a totally different viewpoint.
So years from then, and after a ton of introspection, I have come to the thinking that there is no normal. The only normal in my life is my normality. Normal is what I make it.
And it should be the same for you. If it's normal for you, then it's your normal.
Forget societies warped view on what a perfect man or woman should be like to function in today's world, because 'perfect' is an unattainable situation. No-one or nothing is perfect.
You are awesome, friend. Never forget that!
Might like to write to answer the question of "What IS normal?".
You & your universe is your awesomeness! :)
Yup! Go for it :)
I love the positivity here! Happy to be inspired. :)
Thank you! I'm such a beacon of positivity :)
So why am I awesome, bud?
Only you can tell yourself that - but you are, trust me. There's awesome inside everyone :)
Are you trying to blow sunshine up my arse?
We don't take kindly to that where I'm from!
Hah. Yes, I am :)
medically, normal is defined as : within two standard deviations of the mean. who wants to be that? i want to live to be 35000 years old. there is so much to see, to do, to experience. i'll pass on being normal. thanks.
There is. Too much earth, too little time on it :D
This is a great subject and I can relate. I grew up what is in society considers "overweight". That "I wish I was normal" thought happens to a lot of people. I'm know there's the explanation in psychology but the social normal here, can be out of the normal in other countries.
Yeah. I can relate. Lean, thin, overweight, obese - if that's how you are then accept that that is awesome. Let no-one tell you otherwise.
Another persons opinion is just that. An opinion. Nothing else, nothing more. Don't let negative people get you down, surround yourself in positive people and be however you wish to be :)
Well said @lifeisawesome. Just need more loving nowdays.
We so do :)
For me to be normal is to do what I want to.
That's normal imo.
Exactly. Do exactly what you want to do and don't let anyone tell you anything different :)
As we say it in my country: 'Don't tell me what to do and I will not tell you where to go'. It has somewhat different meaning here, but I believe you've got the notion ;-)
Great saying :)
Society regards something as normal, as if it's something predictable and popular. If something is new or not very popular, people usually are afraid of it or regard it as something strange.
Yep. This is true. It stems from the fear of change.
Normal is yourself. Own that strangeness :D
So true
Culture are the things we do, that goes against our will or our interests, to fit in with a collective. now if you do not see any point in being in a certain collective, it is probably you who is being exploited .. because that is the purpose of culture ... exploitation. Now fitting in with culture is being "normal" and you will not become happy (in the long run) if you fit in, so being normal is actually bad for you. Normality is dysfunction in many ways. Be an individual. Be who you are and screw normality.
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