Spice4Life! - Chat & Music Show - recap of 07-10-2018

Heyyy everybody, welcome to my new show Spice4Life. It is Hope coming to you live from the beautiful and sunny, South Africa! That was my new intro song by Jimmy Cliff a cover of the song I can see clearly now. This reggae song was originally sung by Songwriter(s)‎: ‎Johnny Nash Genre‎: ‎Reggae‎

So what is my new show about? I will chat about everything and anything regarding life. I want it to be a positive and motivational show. Life is not so easy and some topics may also be not light but in the end, after the show, I want you to feel motivated and inspired to tackle the week ahead.
Love and marriage will still feature as for some of us it is a big part of our lives but there will be lots of other topics to discuss and lots of music to listen too.

Let’s kick off the music with some upbeat songs by American Authors, Go big or go home and then a classic Dire Straits - The walk of life.

Remember I am no counsellor, I am just passionate about life, I believe everyone deserves love and happiness. I base a lot of topics on my own beliefs and life experience and I am a lover of inspirational, motivational and self-help articles and books. I still believe in true love, marriage and family. I also know today we have the resources to help us with any problem that we experience and that if you have problems you can find help on the internet, in books and from professionals.

I also did the Formal DISCLAIMER
MSP Waves Radio and its owners take no responsibility for the opinions or statements made by the talk show host or their guests. Statements and show topics are not necessarily the beliefs of the radio station. The material on these shows is provided for educational and informational purposes only.

Also, I apologise as English is not my native tongue but I am trying my best!
Next, a song of the Parlotones, a South African Indie Rock Band with the song Remember when, which is about growing up.

First up I am going to talk a bit about @familyprotection.
I am a proud supporter of @familyprotection here on steemit.
The community of @familyprotection was one year old and a few days ago @taliakerch made a post where she made @familyprotection a birthday present in the form of a video. Go check it out!

https://steemit.com/familyprotection/@taliakerch/happy-birthday-familyprotection-bf7d80b6502fd#@hope777/re-taliakerch-happy-birthday-familyprotection-bf7d80b6502fd-20181006t093027101z

You can support @familyprotection by directly donating to their wallet. If you write for @familyprotection most steemians also donate back a part of their rewards on the payout. If you donate because you have heard it here on Spice4life just put in donation spice4life. Even if you donate one or two sbd, we have a saying that a little makes a lot!

You can also support @pennsif’s charity, adollaraday, as he also support @familyprotection and he donated 30 sbd to @familyprotection last month.
https://steemit.com/adollaraday/@adollaraday/a-dollar-a-day-charitable-giving-project-september-2018-summary-of-donations-received-and-given-out-another-usd500-donated

Today I am going to talk about happiness.

But first I am going to play you a reggae jazz song of Bobby Mcfarrin Don't worry be happy! It was a hit in 1988.
And then Sigala with a dance/electronic song Brighter days which was released this year.

http://judithlpearson.com/the-first-word-of-christmas-happy

What is happiness?

The dictionary says it is:

• the quality or state of being happy.
• good fortune; pleasure; contentment; joy.
  Synonyms for the word happiness
• pleasure, joy, exhilaration, bliss, contentedness, delight, enjoyment, satisfaction.
• Contentment is a peaceful kind of happiness in which one rests without desires, even though every wish may not have been gratified:

I think happiness is something that every human being on this planet wants to feel and experience. Everybody is on a quest to be happy.

I am sure some of us know somebody that is really happy. Do you remember what it feels like to be in the company of someone that is happy? A happy person have this really big smile on his or her face, seems like they are always in a good mood, ready to laugh and have fun. You are drawn to them like a bee to a flower. You can feel the energy and their presence. It’s almost if you are with them that some of their happiness can rub off onto you. Happy people makes you feel good and positive. It’s like happiness is contagious.

I am quoting from this article: https://howtobehappy.guru/what-is-happiness-and-how-to-be-happy-in-7-steps/

“If we don’t know how to do it, we can still learn how to be happy. So far we have learnt a lot of things, walking, talking, writing, etc, so if we are not happy why not learn how to be Happy? I did, and I can’t see any reasons why anyone else can’t do it.
So one day I decided I had enough of feeling like that and I decided it was time to turn my life around and so I started my personal development journey and here I am, a happy person.
Be a happy person, live a happy life, it doesn’t mean we will not encounter problems in our lives and we are happy 24/7, that’s quite impossible, I would say. The most important thing is to learn not to dwell on problems so we can spend most of the time with a happy state of mind."

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Next a pop song by Sia You are never fully dressed without a smile which come from the movie Annie and released in 2014.
That was One Republic, I lived! A Teen pop song that was released in 2013.

So today I will look at the first step to be happy and that is:

You can choose to be happy!

Everyone has a choice on how they want to respond to life circumstances. You must realise that happiness is a choice. You can choose to live an unhappy life, being ruled by our negative thoughts, emotions and what happened to us. Or we can choose to not let circumstances get the best of us and still choose to be happy.

You can start to be happy at any time, all you have to do is to make a decision: I decide to be happy, from today I will be a happy person. Go write it down and stick it up where you can see it and read it. Where you can tell it to yourself every morning and every morning make the choice again. Today I choose to be happy!

I don't want people with big problems or maybe great sadness in their lives want to think that this make a mockery of your suffering. I acknowledge that there a big heartaches in life. I have been through lots of them. I learned something a while back which is called compartmentalization. I will talk about this in the future. Where I will tell you how you can deal with hard things but still manage to be happy!

##You have made the choice, now what?

Remember Happiness is the state of being happy.

Studies have shown that a person can significantly change their state of being by changing their attitudes and mindset about life.

If you are in the habit of setting yourself new goals and you keep on ticking it off as a means of saying, if I reach that goal, I will be happy then you most probably will never be happy. There will always be something else you will want to be happy.

There is nothing wrong with setting goals but remember Happiness is a journey, not a destination. While reaching for your goals also enjoy the process and start to enjoy life every day.

I am going to play you 2 songs from the movie The greatest Showman which is a 2017 American musical film.
The greatest Showman - Never Swedish opera star - Jenny Lind
The greatest Showman - Kesha - This is me!

https://www.imdb.com/title/tt1485796/mediaviewer/rm2776571904

If we say happiness is a choice then just remember that so is sadness.

Most of the times we lose sight of our happiness because we let the tensions of daily life get to us. Money, work and relationships and even sitting daily in traffic can make us sad if we let it. Remember to not choose sadness but choose happiness! Accept what you can’t change. Maybe your husband or wife has a habit of doing something that makes you unhappy. Normally it is not really possible to change a person. If you can’t change it, accept it. When it happens you can acknowledge it but start smiling and tell yourself it is not going to affect your happiness. This won't come easy you have to practice it daily!

Keep your friends and family close!

Happiness can be closely related to the people around you. Be grateful for the people around you that you can invest time and love in and for what they are investing in your life. Say to them how they make you happy and if you are rewarded with a smile or a hug you can see how you made them happy!
Remember no man is an island!

Next I am going to play you a pop rock song "You'll Be in My Heart" and it is a song by Phil Collins, from the 1999 Disney animated feature Tarzan and then Miley Cyrus - Karen don’t be sad a Alternative/Indie song that was released in 2015

Happiness doesn’t come easy.

The decision to be happy you can make in a second but to keep on being happy takes hard work on your side but it will pay off. Maybe you will have to make difficult decisions. If you are not happy at work, you have to start working on it. If nothing can be changed at work, maybe it is time to look for a new job.

I remember once I was unhappy at work because I was the Office Manager but I also had to make the tea and do the dishes on the days that the maid did not come in for cleaning. So one day I decided I had enough and I walk up to the bosses office and sat down before him. I told him that I don’t want to do the dishes anymore and asked if another plan can be made. He told me straight no, I have to keep on washing up. I stand up went down the stairs and immediately started to look for a new job. Not only did I got a new job where my tea was served to me and also got a job for double the pay.
Maybe if you are in an unhappy relationship you have to make a choice to work harder on it, go for counselling or in the end maybe leave that relationship. You also have a responsibility towards your own happiness. Or you can choose to stay but to be happy! If you start to act happy chances are that your mate will start responding back with happiness. In worldly terms, this can be seen as part of The law of attraction, the Bible says what you sow, you will reap!

Next song is by Brandi Carlile - The Joke, that was released this year and the first time I come across a genre called Americana. I asked the audience and they know the genre Americana. So I learn new things on steemit everyday.
And then, Greg Holden - with the 2015 song Hold on tight.

You don’t have to control everything.

Lots of people become anxious or unhappy if something happens that is out of their control. Like other people’s actions or emotions but you can choose how you are going to act and feel about what happened. The next time something like this happens you ask yourself? Can I control this, if the answer is No, then you have to accept it and stop being anxious or negative about it. If you have problems to control your thoughts and feelings you have to see a STOP SIGN if necessary make yourself a small stop sign and keep it at hand. So if you experience uncontrolled feelings and emotions held up the stop sign for yourself and STOP.

Go do something else, read something else, anything to help you to stop that vicious circle of negative thoughts and feelings. If it is something that you can control, take a piece of paper and write down what actions you can take to control the situation and start doing them to move towards getting control again.

I quote Duccio the how to be happy guru:

In conclusion, happiness is a choice that revolves around how you manage yourself around the environment you are currently in.
Marshmellow ft bastile happier released this year and its Pop future bass
Miley Cirus Happy together a cover of the original song sung by the Pop Rock band the turles in 1967

Next up I shared 12 characteristics of a happy couple. I am going to put this in a separate Love&Marriage post!

I played the following songs during this segment:

Jason Mraz - Love is still the answer
George Ezra - Paradise
Cher - Fernando
Michael Buble - I believe in you
Up I’ll keep you safe
Zucchero She’s my baby
Nate Ruess - You light my fire

You can listen to my playlist here:
https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLAIdexPULB6PGpZH917Qivfc9OQE4uNdO

Thank you's and goodbyes

Thank you everybody for tuning in, listening and chatting in the audience. I enjoyed it very much spending time with you and I hope you have enjoyed it too. See you next week, same time, MSP WAVES, the place to be!

Bye Bye all.

Source https://howtobehappy.guru/what-is-happiness-and-how-to-be-happy-in-7-steps/
Images: freepik.com except where otherwise stated

Thank you for reading. I would love to hear from you in the comments!

@hope777