ENGAGEMENT, HOW SHOULD IT BE.
Hello @okere-blessing ,
Thank you very much for doing the contest on such a beautiful and meaningful topic. In the society, every person's own attitude gets spoiled, but it is a big responsibility to handle the relationship.
Before writing my view on this contest I want to invite my these three friend to participate in this contest:-
@peace-woka
@onomzy001
@promah
1- What is engagement in a relationship?
Engagement is the acceptance of a marriage relationship, and in this the bond made after the full consent of the people of the bride's side and the bride's side can be called engagement. Many people don't believe in engagement and prefer to get married directly, but still people who care about traditions and customs first get engaged and then fix the wedding date and get married on the same day.
2-At what age should a guy or lady be engaged ??
Well, in today's civilized and educated society, a certain age of marriage has been fixed in every country, before that it is considered against the rules to marry, but in some traditional societies, the engagement of a boy and a girl is decided long back. It is given, and in that society this engagement is strictly followed. But in my opinion, until the boy and girl reach their mature age, they should not get engaged or get married. Doing this will reduce family disruptions.
3- What things do you consider in a person before accepting or accepting an engagement?
Engagement is a lifetime union of two persons and their families too, so before doing this all economic, social, cultural, reconciliation should be assessed, otherwise mismatched marriages do not last long. Along with the educational level of boys and girls, and mental level, their economic level should also be almost the same.
4- How long is it right to be engaged before marriage?
In my opinion, engagement before marriage should be done as a custom, it should not be prolonged, meaning engagement should be done at most 1 week before marriage, otherwise many jealous people in the society and inside the family Enemies conspire after the engagement and get the engagements broken.
5- Are there things that can change someone's mind after engagement?
This question is very important, so I am of the opinion that before the pre-marriage engagement of any boy and girl, the boys and girls should know about each other's every thing, sometimes even unknowingly. Things are hidden from each other, and if they come to know, there is a danger of breaking the engagement. Or as I said earlier, many enemies and jealous people try to break the engagement by exaggerating such matters and many times they also succeed.
6- Is engagement a guarantee of marriage?
In this civilized society and in a blind society in the race of modernity, there is no guarantee even of life, so engagement cannot be a guarantee of marriage. Don't know what dreams a person dreams, but not all dreams come true. Similarly, engagement cannot be a guarantee for marriage, but it is considered like a promise made between two individuals or families, and it is necessary to be bind it.
According to the traditions, in earlier times, before marriage, to tie the boy and girl in a bond, they used to promise through rituals that now they will marry each other only. But in today's world, all these things are becoming only formalities.
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You have wrote well on how engagement should be done sir. I enjoyed reading your post. Good luck to you.
Thanks a lot @peace-woka
I like your thoughts about engagement. It's not a guarantee to marriage.
Thanks a lot for reading and appreciating my post @ruthjoe
I agree with you that the couple must reach sufficient maturity to commit and get married.
The educational, economic, social and cultural level of the couple facilitates their acceptance and that of their family environment. When there are very strong distances, things become complicated for the couple because of the cultural influence of their environment.
I don't believe in a flash engagement that lasts a week, the only thing that remains from the rush is tiredness.
Things can change during the engagement when one of the parties is not sincere, honest, responsible, considerate, tolerant, etc. There must be seriousness in all aspects because you want to get to the marriage safely and happily.
The engagement is not a guarantee, it is not a piece of paper or a document from an insurance company. There is nothing safe in this life, where each head is a world of its own.
I enjoyed reading your post.
Best wishes and success.
@casv Thank you very much my friend, you appreciated my post so much.
With respect