Delay In Marriage & Bitter Words Of People || 10-9-2022 || Post By SeaPearl
Delay Marriage
Why are you not married yet? You are getting old, settle down quickly, if it is late, then you will find another marriage or a man with children. In Pakistani society, women often hear many such sentences. Whenever I went to a wedding, I was told that the matter of your marriage has not gone anywhere yet.
I have been listening to this since I was 20 years old. After thirty years, my great aunt said that your mother had three children at your age. When I started working, I was told that who will marry a girl with a job? Age is passing, get married, otherwise, there will be no children. It was even said that you don't want to get married
A girl is not tolerated after one age
After a certain age, girls are not tolerated. And this happens even in highly educated families. They start feeling like strangers in their own house. Because their parents and family members have only one thought that he should get married now. In society, it is not seen whether a boy is good or not. but, it must have been seen that the girl who is not getting married must have some defect.
Society's Own Customs
In general, women in Pakistani society are expected to get married before coming of age while their studies or careers are given secondary status. However, compared to earlier periods in the country, women now do more work and take care of the home along with their work.
But still, the expectations or thoughts associated with women are tied to ideas like getting married and building a home. Marrying late is considered a women's 'defect'. This ugly attitude of society has made many women suffer from mental diseases, and the surprising thing is that they don't regret it at all.
Regards: @SeaPearl
@tahirazaman Thank you very much for taking your valuable time for my post. All your points are absolutely correct. The discrimination between men and women in society continues for eternity. Our culture has made women disempowered and men empowered. It is a pity that the position given to women by our religion has never been given to women
No doubt! Its a sad fact of our society that they didn't accept a women who cross 30, the question is who like to live this life? No one can understand except the person who is suffering, in our society a girl will never explain her emotions and will totally depends on others, people should stop blaming the one and shut their mouth up.
@mrsfurqan Thank you very much for taking your precious time for my post. It is like that, all this can be understood by the one who is passing on it. Being unmarried does not mean that you make life difficult for a woman. If people shut their mouths, all problems will be solved
Sadly, our society and culture is deeply influenced by the indian subcontinent's culture.
But our culture is islam, those people who come up such kind of statements in front of an unmarried girls, should educate themselves first about our islamic teachings.
@aminsafdar Thank you very much for posting my post. You are absolutely right that people have adopted western culture to such an extent that they have forgotten their Islamic teachings. All this is the result of distance from religion
I agree with your point of view women should get higher studies and empowerment too. But u cant deny the fact in english medium culture a child do matruculation at the age of 19 to 20 years in real age. Then till masters and for empowerment crossed the age of 30. It leads to different social issues.
@drhira Thank you very much for reading my post, there is no cure for ignorance. If we stay away from education and religion, we will suffer from similar problems
Our society is full of these kind of auntie even , the important things is that family should be understanding if it's not then it's difficult to survive in so called society, the first taunt start always from a family member or relatives why we need a men to be sattled in our lives, obviously it's Sunnah to get married but It feels good when everything is done on time and all these things are for Allah to do. Why do we pressurize someone to get married or settle down...
@kunwal The sad thing is that the family is at the forefront of taunting. They are also hurt by the words of others. But no one can cure the pain caused by the family. Indeed, the time for every work is fixed and it will happen only when Allah wills. Thank you very much for taking the time to read my post. May Allah bless you Aameen 💖
No need dear everygirl is someway going through this situation and you are right main things is family taunt first and it's hits different and break confidence 💔 God bless you dear Allah pak naseeb achy kary apky❤️
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Agreed with your all points. It's the harsh reality of our society.
@fabiha Thank you very much for visiting my post. Yeah this is the ugly and bitter reality of our society
Well ,It's a bitter fact faced by girls in our society and it's stared from her own family members , neighbors,relatives .very beautifully written article and raised our bad behaviors and narrow minded thoughts.I really like your blog 👍👍
@sualeha In this situation, the family hurts you first. Thanks a lot for liking the post 💖