Steemit Engagement Challenge | S14W3 | Parent's Strict Behavior and Children's Mental Health

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It's undeniable that parenting is hard work, one parent Once said: that it takes sweat, toil, blood and tears to be a successful parent. Indeed it's not easy to raise children because for one thing both the parents and children are imperfect and are prone to making mistakes also growing children are influenced by not only their parents but the whole community.
Though training children has never been completely free from anxiety, especially nowadays when life is so complicated, and some parents don't just know when to be strict and when to be lenient, but then seeing them grow into responsible adults makes all the struggles well worth it.

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What Are The Advantages And Disadvantages Of Parents Strict Behaviour?

We have different types of parenting and one such is strict and authoritative parents, they are the type of parents who set rules and guidance and expect their children to follow without questions. They value respect and obedience. Well it has its advantages and disadvantages let me highlight them:

Advantage:

The only advantage of this type of parenting is that it creates a structured and predictable environment.

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Disadvantages:

Children who grow up in this kind of family are not allowed to socialise with others, they A not allowed to make decisions by themselves. They lack social skills.

Children with strict Parents normally suffer from low self-esteem, they usually feel that they can't measure up to their parents' expectations, and they feel that they are not good enough.

Their children tend to become rebellious as they feel that the only way they can break free from their parent's control.

It leads to Anxiety and depression: Children usually feel hopeless and helpless, they feel like they have no control over their lives and the stress of living up to their parent's expectations normally leaves them depressed.

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What Do You Feel If You Were At The Place Of Such Children Who Have To Face Strictness?

I feel pity for these children, I know that I wouldn't be different from them if were to be in their shoes. The truth is that child raising has a blueprint, which parents must follow, God the giver of children made this blueprint, he stated what parents need to do to be successful parents and how they should train their children to become responsible adults. First of all, parents must love God with their whole being and must know God's in their hearts and then inculcate what they knew in their children by teaching them with love frequently.

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God's word further cautions parents not to be irritating their children but they should be bringing them up in the discipline and admonition of Jehovah.

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Also he said fathers shouldn't be exasperating their children so that they don't feel downhearted.

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God knows us better than we know ourselves, he wants the best for us so if I were these children definitely be downhearted. But What I can tell them is that God loves you so much, that your parents are strict and doesn't makes you less of a precious 💞 gift from God. Your parents love you and want the best but the truth is that they don't know or choose the best way to raise you. Just continue being respectful and patient God will help you!

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As A Child, What Do You Expect From Your Parents Regarding Their Behavior?

I'm fortunate to have the best parents in the world, they're my first teacher, instructor, educator, nurse and doctor. I was simply watching while learning valuable lessons, they love me intensely and unconditionally, and were flexible they were neither strict nor permissive, rather they've struck a balance between these two extremes. They lovingly balanced discipline, and they loved and respected themselves thus creating an excellent environment for us to grow up in, they usually commended us too, and this trained our thinking and shaped our moral character, it helped us to feel secure as we were growing to responsible adulthood.

My parents are loving, consistent and reasonable, yes they used to set rules and guidance for us, they clearly define the rules and the consequences of not keeping them but they never force us to obey, rather they make it a goal to help us love God and then teaches us the benefits of keeping the rules and this helps us to act wisely even when we're alone and now we all grown to responsible.

My parent are my role models, they were never abusive and they Also avoid the extreme of being permissive, they strike a balance and I hope to Train my kids the loving way they trained me too.

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What Are The Negative Effects Of Emotional Blackmailing?

Emotional blackmail is bad, it's trying to make someone feel guilty for what he is not at fault.

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• it causes people to lose themselves, they become like a puppet to their manipulator.

• Manipulators will always bring up your past mistakes and remind you how hurt they were, to make you feel guilty about something that happened years back, and days later will ask for a favour you can't deny just to cope with the guilt created by your last conversation.

• it leads to feelings of inadequacy and insecurity.

• Fear of abandonment, anger and rejection.

• Harbouring a distorted view about oneself because you're always the one to blame for anything wrong.

• It creates a lot of stress and anxiety which leads to an increase in isolation.

• Excessive compassion or empathy to the point of surpassing all boundaries and losing on self.

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Conclusion:

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Strict parenting is not the best method for raising successful and responsible kids, it leads to rebelliousness in kids, depression and even suicide, So parents need to strike a balance, not being overly strict or lenient. They should love their children and instil God's love in them. Parents you're a constructor and you're to build your children, God has given you a blueprint, it's left for you to decide. Yes, God's word provides the best blueprint for parenting and the quality materials to be used which include gold, silver and precious stones, this link to spiritual discernment, strong faith godly wisdom, loyalty and love of God, if you bring them up in the way of God right from infancy, they won't depart from it when they grow up.

Thanks for reading me this far, I would like to invite my friends @eliany @mesola and @okere-blessing to be part of this contest.