I'm just trying the moderation lifestyle with choosing more good options than bad. I need something I can sustain and it's working. I tried a pair of old jeans the other day that I managed to close (barely) but haven't been able to close at all for a while. It's a small victory.

I drink less alcohol, Eat less bad food, Train hard. But I do still enjoy eating bad food and enjoy my beers/wine too when I have them.

But you are right. It's extremely hard to learn about what to eat to get the results that you want. For me it's a complete mystery a lot of the time.