Nuturing Self Respect - A Responce to Ecotrain QOTW
@eco-alex posed a question this week
What is self respect and how can we nurture it?
To begin with before you can respect yourself you have to know yourself. Know yourself and love and accept yourself.
Be clear about how you define your self worth and value as a human being.
What is your view of how you are living your life? Do you have a moral code?
Start examining your values, your ideals. Be honest with yourself.
When you are clear on who you are as a person, be true to yourself. Stand up for yourself. Don't let other's thoughts about you shape who you are. Watch that you are not doing things just to gain someones approval.
Be your own best advocate, never letting your mistakes or weaknesses overshadow the fact that you are worthy of love and respect.
I'm bringing out these points for it is a much better life to live with self respect than to live in shame and self loathing.
Sometimes desire gets the best of us and perhaps we want someones approval or love so bad we go ahead and do things we know aren't in our best interest.
Be forgiving. If you have a certain moral code you try to live by and you violate that code, be aware you have done it and be ready to think better and act better the next time.
Back to this point of being aware - when you build your awareness, you are more able to respond better to what arises rather than reacting to it.
If you know your triggers, it is more likely you will know what to expect from yourself and be prepared.
Know how to treat yourself and know how to let others treat you too.
I found a good way to nurture self-respect is to look to the qualities you admire in someone else - Is it that they are thoughtful or kind, do they have a wonderful ability to show empathy. What ever it is, work on cultivating those qualities in yourself.
Build your respect by realizing that what you do matters! Look to your actions and do everything with more care. You can start small with simple actions like taking better care of yourself, act in ways that are more respectful, even tiny things like how you go to sit in a chair, do it with purpose instead of just plunking yourself down.
There is a choice in every moment - will you be acting out of fear or longing or will you be acting out of love and respect.
Make it a habit to recognize value, value in the things around you, then the value within you.
Love it, embrace it and share it with the world!
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Image of the definition of respect was taken by me from the Webster dictionary.
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wow porters! seriously i wasnt expecting to get SUCH a good education on this question.. i guess i should have known better!
THis is a GOlden nugget for me so thank you .. i have to let that sink deep in!You're welcome! I'm working on more consciously, mindfully living. Just being aware, which is the first step for making change.
This is a great start. We often fail to know ourselves because we are not honest with ourselves and that only brings failure in respecting ourselves. Thank you for such a lovely read. Much love! 💚
That is a big one for me with my habitual nature. I may go along unconsciously living my life and it's not until I stop and reflect on what I'm doing that I can see that I haven't been completely honest with myself and thus I find it starts to cause me some trouble. I work more on trying to be more aware and mindful so I can more consciously direct my life and it is making for a much happier life with more self respect.
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Respect begins with respecting yourself. If you respect yourself, then you will respect others and others will respect you and you can do this by taking care of yourself, being positive, etc Thanks for this cute response @porters