DAD-Chronicals : Right after birth and later - as parents develop
Right after birth and later - as parents develop
Just tell someone, parents are not able to learn. Parents learn daily - about themselves and their child. They become more relaxed and confident in their dealings with the child and in their own claims as parents. While at the beginning, after the birth of the first child, you have become very worried or overly stressed, later on a certain serenity develops, which is good for both parents and children. You do not believe me? Then read my comparison - with a wink ;-)
"Parents are also human beings, and they are like unskilled workers in terms of producing and raising offspring." That's why parents keep learning - about what theirs is Child does well and also about what is less important. But you also learn that parenting is a marathon and you have to divide your forces. It is interesting to compare how parents behave at the beginning, after the birth of the first child, and how this behavior develops over time. A not always deadly meant overview:
In the beginning, right after the birth of the first child ...
Do you watch your sleeping baby for hours and wait for it to wake up and do something?
Later ...
Are you happy when the little one is sleeping and you get something done yourself.
At the beginning …
every pacifier that falls on the floor is washed by you and ideally disinfected.
Later ...
If you only see if the pacifier got too much filth, maybe take it in your mouth again and then the part will be operational again.
At the beginning …
Every meal is prepared for the baby - with fresh organic ingredients.
Later ...
It may be like a glass - and also a biscuit or the fries of dad, when the little quenches.
At the beginning …
All toys must be educationally valuable, made of wood and with organic seals.
later ...
It is important that it is non-toxic and the child has fun with it.
At the beginning …
one has the firm intention that the child may in no case even take a look at the TV.
Later ...
You are satisfied if you are not at least one of the parents, where the TV acts as a babysitter.
At the beginning …
Do you see that your child is always perfectly dressed and clean?
Later ...
Are you satisfied, if the offspring does not attract attention in terms of clothing and the dirt does not rub off on you, if you take your child in your arms.
At the beginning …
As a parent you have the firm intention that the apartment also has to be swept clean with a child and that you can not go outside.
Later ...
it is accepted that a slightly chaotic apartment, cat clothes and good washable clothes belong to a life with a child.
At the beginning …
Do you worry seriously every time your child cries.
Later ...
Do you know that children sometimes do well to cry - when tired or to relieve stress - and above all, it is important that you are now there for your child, radiating calm and comforting and compassionately comforting it.
At the beginning …
With your child you remove every little bit of dirt from your face and hands - and both parents are pushing to be allowed to change the diaper for the child.
Later ...
is the "goes-still-principle" procedure. Only the worst filth is removed (if necessary, with mum or dad's spit) and the diaper change is assigned to the "you-do-once-back-to-principle".
At the beginning …
Almost every parent has the intent to work perfectly and always do everything for his child.
Later ...
you realize that the perfect parent does not exist and that you sometimes need some time for yourself to recharge your batteries.
At the beginning …
is your child for you the greatest child in the world.
Later ...
is it still so - hopefully. At least until puberty ;-)
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