New School Year Starts | 新學年開始了 - 談談孩子的教和養（五)

1 Sept, 2017 was a special day for my daughters. When my Facebook was flooded by all my friends' kids starting their new school years, so were Steemit, my daughters also welcomed their P.4 and P.1. At first, I thought that this would be a smooth transition. However, things happened in last 2 months suggested it might not be that simple, especially for my younger daughter, who would be a primary student instead of kindergarten kid.

2017年9月1日對我的女兒們來說是特別的一日。當面書充斥著孩子們上學的報導，連Steemit都滿是新學年開始的文章的時候，女兒們亦都迎接了新學年的第一天。一直以為一切會順順利利。但原來過去兩個月發生的事，其實暗示了事情不會這麼簡單。特別是小女兒要從幼稚園跳進小學這未知的世界。

Our little daughter used to be kind and generous, she always give her way to her sister. But over last few months, she seems to be more aggressive and we saw more and more conflicts between the girls. Our first impression was that they were growing and developing their own personalities and ideas, so it was natural that more conflicts came along. Later, we realized it was the younger girl became more and more emontional, then we knew it was about the pressure of becoming a primary school student that made her changed.

細女兒向來都是比較寬大為懷，比較遷就姐姐的。但過去的幾個月，她和姐姐的爭執與日俱增，到近期已發展到每日都要吵架的程度。初初我們以為只是女孩子們漸漸長大，開始有自己的意見和執着，所以磨擦日多而導致爭執頻繁。後來發現原來她是變得非常情緒化，易怒易哭。我們才驚覺她可以是對昇小學一事感到壓力。

Although she kept saying she could not waiting to be in the same primary school with her elder sister and she would love to be a primary school student, her changes told the truth, she qas experiencing tremendous pressures. We could find any smile on her face when they were ready to leave for school bus. Not even a slight smile shown when the bus arrived.

雖然她一直都說十分期待昇上姐姐同一所小學，她亦說會很喜歡小學生活，但從她性格上的改變，大家都能察覺到她受的壓力有多大。甚至連早上換好校服，太太想替她們拍照時，她仍是沒有笑容。校車到了，仍是笑容欠奉。

I was worry about the little girl so I took a day off so that I could bring them for some fun after school, in the hope that it could relax her a little bit. Luckily, after they returned from school, she had a big smile on her face. Looked like the actual classroom experiences made her re-assured her primary school was not scary at all. She was released from all the anxiety and uncertainty.

亦是因為擔心妹妹的情況，所以我亦特意放假一天，準備她們放學之後帶她們去玩一玩散心。還好在她們落校車之後發覺妹妹面露笑容，似乎親身體驗過小學課堂之後，反而釋除了她一路以來的疑慮。

As we had planned already, we went to shopping mall for some fun. Many families there too.

不過既然預備了要去玩，我們還是到商場玩了一個下午。原來很多小孩和家長都是一樣安排。

Although I only talked about younger daughter so far, she was not the only one who had to be worried about. My elder daughter also getting closer to her biggest challange ever. Rumors were starting from primary 4, amount of homework and difficulty of tests and examinations will be largely increased. This is to prepare the students to be ready for secondary schools. Not sure if this is good or not, she didn't feel any pressure at all. We of course not going to give her any. We will see what need to do when things happen.

一直到現在我們都好像只在担心妹妹，其實姐姐亦將要面對人生中的一個大轉變。因為剛剛成為小四學生的她，可能將要面對大量的功課和考試壓力。這些連我們都不太清楚學校是否會一如外間的傳聞一樣在小學四年級開始加大功課量和考試的難度以令學生將來更容易與中學接軌。不過姐姐現在還是沒有感受到什麼壓力，那麼我們當然不會自己給她不必要壓力。還是見一步行一步，慢慢應付吧。

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I tried very hard not to be a tiger father or helicopter parent, I hope that my daughters can grow up happy and healthy. We are prepared to deal with pressures and challanges together!

我盡力不去當虎爸或直升機家長，為的是希望女兒們可以輕輕鬆鬆的學習和成長。有壓力和挑戰就由我們全家一起面對吧！

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